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Pu Shu 's song " The Year of Innocence ", there is a lyrics in it:
"I am still in love, your shirt is like snow, I hope that poplar leaves fall, my eyes don't blink, and there seems to be something in my heart"...
When I was young, I always loved it young, but after entering marriage, many people became noisy, all kinds of joy and tragedy, as if I had experienced various aspects of life.
Everyone yearns for returning to the "year of innocence", but everyone is growing up and it is impossible not to be silent, calm, and do not understand the worldly style.
Most people will always have many more shortcomings after entering marriage, less care, less patience, less calmness, and less sense of proportion... So, the two people have various conflicts, and some couples even go their separate ways even if they love each other.
There is no perfection in life, and so is marriage.
Many people become at a loss in marriage, but in fact they have not achieved corresponding "fit" between them.
Therefore, even if two people eat together and sleep together every day, they are still "too far away" between their bodies and minds, and it is difficult to reach the level of "very close".
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Women's minds are always too sensitive.
Especially after marriage, I used to be simple and beautiful, but after marriage it turned into various anxiety. Even if my husband came home late, he would want to smell whether there was any perfume smell from other women on him. The occurrence of these behaviors is not only a weak point in a woman’s nature, but also a result of not finding a sense of happiness and security in love.
Many people will say that women’s feelings should be possessed by their own efforts.
However, the men around her are also an important factor.
Women choose a husband, it seems to be based on their feelings, but in fact, it is more about the need for both parties to be together.
Some people also say that marriage is a calculation.
However, when you treat marriage as a "calculation", you will probably not live a good life. When a man and a woman are combined, you can consider "suitable", but once the word "calculation" is added, there will be more entanglements and less happiness.
Lin Wencai said a sentence that is worth learning from:
Each of us, emotionally, is always looking for someone whose body, mind and soul can fit us. When we find this person, our hearts can be completely comfortable and quiet and have no more desires. This is not about matter or spirit, but about simple emotions. ——"Lin Wencai Intimate Relationship Class: Practical Secrets that Must Be Mastered in Happy Marriage"
It can be seen that the perfection in marriage is the "body, mind and soul" fit.
It can also be said that the more a man can be "body, mind and soul" with a woman, the more he can see how much he loves you in his heart.
Body fit: He can give you "love and value"
The sweetness of love is actually that when you are together, you love it in harmony.
In the eyes of men, the more they can pretend to be women, the more loving the atmosphere they feel when they are together.
Although modern women, although most of the time, although they are already very independent, the needs of many people remain unchanged. They long for sweet words, long for men to confess their love, and like the feeling of sticking to each other.
is like, in life, you will always see women being attracted by strange men in some cases, but in fact, the two have never seen a basic relationship before.
I saw a video where a man said in front of the camera without any worries: For women, the best means of conquest is sweet words.
only because women always want to feel cared for, felt distressed, and valued.
And they are also easily satisfied in their words.
Conversely, in marriage, the same is true.
If a man who is married to a woman can attach great importance to her feelings, care about her mood, and know how to "coax" her, then most of the woman will become more and more gentle with his consideration.
Just like in "Lin Wencai Intimate Relationship Class: Practical Secrets Must Master in Happy Marriage", there is a saying:
Want to advise husbands that if you are unwilling to coax your wife, some people with ulterior motives are very willing to coax them. I also want to advise my wives that if you don’t want to be arrogant to your husband, he may look for others’ high standards, so why don’t we do it ourselves? Do it in his desire, and he will do it in your expectations, right?
It can be seen that women are gentle and men are considerate, which is the most intimate combination in the relationship between the two genders.
all say that women like to be coaxed and men like to be worshipped, which actually makes sense.
The deeper the love of a partner, the more they can get along with each other, interact more, care more and care more on weekdays, so that the two people don’t get inward and feel more loving.
Spiritual fit: he can "appreciate peace" for you
In fact, many times, men and women cannot understand and tolerate, and most of the differences in values are caused.
For example.
In a man's heart, he will think that the value of life lies in his achievements, his work, his career development, etc.;
In a woman's heart, she will also care about work, but she will care more about family and mother-in-law's-law's-law relationship, etc.
What a man wants is nothing more than the appreciation and admiration of him and the ability to be needed, while what a woman wants is the sense of security and attention that a man gives her.
For example.
In life, we can see that it is difficult for many men to understand the pain of women when faced with extramarital affairs.
Because in his opinion, no matter how sad a woman is, he will only see her surface being endured, but cannot feel the pain in her soul.
As in "Lin Wencai Intimate Relationship Class: Practical Secrets that Must Be Mastered in Happy Marriage" says:
When a husband has an extramarital relationship, a woman will feel that her life value is gone, everything she has done before has been denied, and most men cannot see the inner fluctuations of women. Her husband's affair teared her soul apart, and it is difficult for men to understand this kind of pain.
So if a man understands a woman’s “pain points” from the bottom of his heart, he will understand the woman more and give her more sense of security.
Those men who will not cheat easily in marriage will also be affected by the outside world and will occasionally be moved, but they will know how to restrain the inner turmoil and do not want their wives around them to suffer pain.
The way for men to get along with each other is that they can smooth out their stubbornness, pride, arrogance, and finally become calm, peaceful and peaceful.
Both of them can satisfy each other's desires and know how to satisfy each other's expectations.
Soul fit: he can give you "know and respect"
TV series " Little Joy ", Tong Wenjie has a bad temper and is impatient, but her husband Fang Yuan is always neither anxious nor slow, and when she is anxious, he will coax him.
Two people are standard complementary couples.
However, we can also feel that Fang Yuan treats his wife not on the surface, but is really good. A woman is anxious for her son's grades, and he will calm her mood; a woman wants to leave for the harassment of a male colleague in the workplace, and he immediately agrees to appease her uneasy; a woman wants to bring her nephew to her, but he does not object at all, but regards her as her own... His love means to give understanding and respect to everything about her wife.
Because of this, on the surface, the head of this family is the hostess, but in fact, he is both wise and brave, and the pillar of this family.
Many women have the idea of "hoping their husbands to be successful", so once a man does not meet the standards in her heart, he will complain loudly to the man and lose his temper. The one who men dislike the most is this kind of woman.
When Fang Yuan was unemployed, Dong Wenjie was not at all disturbed, and she also comforted him to accept reality and accompany him to overcome difficulties. This kind of spiritual exchange is the manifestation of two people loving each other from the bottom of their hearts.
Both of them know how to get along with each other, they both know to satisfy each other's desire for their lover, and they all understand how to run a marriage.
Therefore, there will be no major conflicts or contradictions between them. If any problems are encountered, they can communicate in depth and handle them harmoniously.
Man loves you from the bottom of his heart, that's it.
He is well versed in your personality and will know how to communicate with you with skills. It will allow you to express your true needs in your heart, so that you don’t have to think so much, and make you love your home more and more.
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recommends a book to everyone "Lin Wencai Intimate Relationship Class: Practical Tips for a Happy Marriage".
has a total of thirty courses, which are the summary and sublimation of marriage counseling by Dr. Lin Wencai over the past thirty years.
people have loved each other deeply for the rest of their lives, and nothing more than getting close to each other between husband and wife.
Everyone yearns for their inner self to be appreciated by their lovers, and hopes that their marriage will not be stormy. From this book, you will find the answer.
Marriage relationship is the most difficult relationship among all the relationships encountered in life. It determines whether we are happy or not and points to whether we can live happily or sadly.
Dr. Lin Wencai proposed the secret of getting along with each other in the whole book: a couple needs to develop the ability to handle conflicts and cultivate the ability to friendship.
Those who can start a business in love are two people who can resolve many conflicts in life together. In the end, the two people are combined into one and usher in a good mood.
If you have confusion in your marriage, then this is definitely a very practical and practical marriage secret for you.
Finally, I hope that everyone who reads this book can see through the essence of the difference between men and women, "In the wilderness of time, I happened to meet it", accompany each other for a lifetime and depend on each other for a lifetime.
Author, calm fox
picture, online
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
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