Then I have something to say. If you want a man to stop being unable to stop you, it definitely does not mean that you can make the other person feel it by learning a move and half a stance.
like push and pull, reward, and close or distant. These techniques seem very useful, but if you think about it carefully, you will find that these tricks will only be effective if you are strong, the other party is weak, and everything is dominated by you.
And if you want to copy these to a slightly better and valuable man, it is useless.
For example, if you deliberately create misunderstandings with other opposite sex, theoretically, only the spare tire licking dog will be jealous, and the more jealous you will be, the more you will love you, the more you will be. The male god may turn around and block you, and even don’t give you the opportunity to explain.
For example, if you deliberately do not reply to the message and leave the other person, only the spare tire will actively reflect on whether you are wrong, apologize to you, care about your emotions, and the male god may wish you not annoy him, because there are too many interesting things in his life than you.
so can you understand? These shortcuts that you can get through with a little effort are only useful for those "limbing dogs who originally like you and cannot live without you". For male gods, what he really lacks is value, not emotions.
So for dealing with such a person, you need to satisfy his desires, and to satisfy his desires that others cannot satisfy, he will be unable to stop his desires and recognize you only, but others cannot do it. Then how to satisfy it?
1, spiritual value
Remember, the most important thing about whether two people can get along with each other for a long time is whether you can chat and whether they are in the same frequency.
If you always talk about your own things, and you talk about cosmetics and wear, and the other party talks about game work, only expression but no communication, then the link between you two will be broken. Maybe he still has a bit of affection for you, but in the end he will become a stranger in the coldness and awkward chats between each other.
Especially for those high-value men, most things are not lacking in themselves, and what they care more about is the inner experience. Therefore, if you want to provide the other party with spiritual value that you can't stop, you must first understand the other party and know how to find similarities in daily life.
Such as common hobbies, topics and concerns, so that your lives can be intersected. Many of you come to me for consultation. The topic that I ask the most is Yuchen, he is very cold to me and never responds to my message. What should I do?
Why don’t you reply to your message?
To put it bluntly, there are too few common topics for you two, so you can’t talk naturally and comfortably. So if two people can chat and play together, then you must first understand each other and interact with each other so that your relationship can stabilize. Do you understand?
2. Sexual value.
is your external value. For example, most women like strong partners because such men can protect themselves, while most men like partners who can bring newness to themselves.
The reason is that the underlying logic behind the freshness represents the unknown and can make men feel compelled to conquer. Therefore, if you want your relationship to be as sweet as your passionate love period, it is essential to maintain each other's sexual value. How to maintain
? You can change your image and try different makeup and styles to let him see different sides of you and create a sense of contrast. You can also devote some energy to creating some small ambiguity and small interests, so that he will also respond with greater enthusiasm in his subconscious.
3. Self-worth.
What is self-worth? To put it bluntly, it is the resources and bargaining chips you bring.
I often tell you that the essence of love is value exchange, and the prerequisite for achieving exchange is that you must hold enough chips in your hand. These chips can ensure that you are equal, and that one party will not seek to exploit the other party and sacrifice yourself.
In fact, many of you can't have a good relationship. The most essential reason is that you are too likely to lose yourself in an intimate relationship and become more and more attached to a man, which leads to your own loss of attraction in the end. This is actually very fatal.
No man will fall in love with a woman who has no independent self. Because your self-worth determines that others may not have the ability you have, and others may not be able to reach the heights you can reach. These are truly irreplaceable resources. He has lost you and cannot find a better partner, and this is where your confidence lies.
so do you understand? Why do I always say that I love myself first?
In love, you can give to him, but never exceed your efforts to yourself? It is because the more you love a man, the more you will love yourself, and if you love yourself, the more you will love you. This is human nature.
So no matter what age or stage of your relationship, you should regard improving yourself as the most important topic in your life. Only in this way, most of the things you show to the other person are positive and energetic, and you will naturally be able to maintain your attraction to him. This is far more useful than begging for the other person's love. Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the words your ex wants to say to you most
1. Do you quarrel over trivial matters when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired —2
rarely argues over trivial matters —2
Occasionally, but I can make up soon —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to reflect on yourself and is willing to correct your mistakes?
is —3
is not —4
3. Will TA take the initiative to tell you about your troubles?
often says - 5
doesn't say much - 4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
, and often complain to my parents. —6
, occasionally, they will talk about it when they ask. —5
, hardly say it, there is nothing to say —5
, there is nothing to say —5
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything goes with the flow, it’s mine after all, it’s mine —7
Work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I have to get everything I want —B
6. Is it because a third party appeared?
Yes—A
No—7
7. Has the other party contacted you actively after breaking up?
Yes—D
No—Ch
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