If a woman wants a harmonious and happy marriage life, then a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be the prerequisite. Only when the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious can a better life be possible. Then if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, the daughter-in-law must be recognized by the in-laws and be favored by the mother-in-law.
Since each mother-in-law has different requirements for her daughter-in-law, we cannot know how to make her mother-in-law like her, but we know that there is a kind of daughter-in-law who is definitely not favored by her mother-in-law, that is, she only has her family members in her heart, and even ignores her family's attitude, blindly helps her family members, and even uses her family's property to help her family without any bottom line.
Netizen Ms. Guo is a typical example. After she married into her husband's family, she often took her husband's property to help her family. Because her husband's family's financial conditions were good, she always thought that her mother-in-law didn't care about her behavior. But not long ago, her mother-in-law said something to her, and she suddenly realized and admitted her mistake to her immediately.
Ms. Guo:
My parents are ordinary workers. They have actually been working hard all the time, but because they have no education, our family's economic conditions have not improved. Apart from having a small ancestral yard in the village, my parents' family has no other property. My younger brother is two years younger than me. My parents taught me to take care of my younger brother since I was a child, so like my parents, I have always regarded my younger brother as the object of care for the whole family.
I have always been in every way to my brother. As long as I can do it, I will never reject him. Almost all the money I earned before marriage was spent on my younger brother, and after marriage, he often came to me for money. My husband’s family runs a supermarket and has good financial conditions. I always thought that my husband’s family would agree with me to help my younger brother, so I would still satisfy him.
But the fact is not what I thought. My mother-in-law actually doesn't agree with me always helping my brother. One night last month, I was busy reconciling accounts with my mother-in-law in the supermarket, but my mother-in-law suddenly said to me with a stern face: "In less than half a year, you will give your brother 100,000 yuan. Do you think my family is an ATM?" My mother-in-law's words made me stunned on the spot. I didn't expect that my mother-in-law would always care about my behavior of helping my brother.
And I love my husband and don’t want my behavior to affect my relationship with my mother-in-law, so I immediately replied to my mother-in-law: "Mother-in-law, I won’t be the example." I must distinguish between the primary and secondary in the future and cannot help my brother without any bottom line.
Ms. Guo’s approach is right. As a daughter, it is understandable to help her mother’s family, but she cannot ignore the ideas of her in-laws, and she must not have no bottom line. If you want to have a harmonious and beautiful marriage life, female compatriots must put their position in the right place. Since they are married, their in-laws should be the first.
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