Others have been lucky, but why do they keep being in trouble? Let’s first learn about learned helplessness.
Acquired helplessness
Give up after repeatedly hitting walls
refers to the mental state and behavior of the person who is powerless and loses confidence when facing problems after experiencing failure and setbacks. Acquired helpless behavior refers to a person who has experienced uncontrollable setbacks or failures and attributes the results to his/her own intelligence or ability, resulting in a depression and helpless emotional state, a decrease in self-evaluation, and a weakening motivation for doing things.
For example:
You have tried quitting smoking, but you can't do it.
You have lost weight many times but have not succeeded.
You may be experiencing this experience: you have been working hard for a long time, but you have never achieved the results you want. So, you begin to believe in "fate", believing that everything is destined and no matter how hard you try, it will be useless.
If you have such traits, you are likely to be trapped in "acquired helplessness".
The motivation for people to move forward mainly comes from their expectations for the future and their yearning for success. If they cannot overcome their fear of the future, they will struggle in the entanglement of being unable to change the status quo, and even fall into the abyss of self-blame and guilt that they cannot extricate themselves. If a person wants to succeed, he must overcome his inner sense of powerlessness.
How to change learned helplessness?
1. Re-recognize your failure, from learned helplessness to learned success.
Correct Attribution failed, preventing all reasons from pointing to ourselves and directing the essence of the problem, because some unreasonable beliefs will cause us to have emotional troubles and cause behavioral results to derail.
2. Try to jog mentally and get out of the quagmire of self.
Society is constantly developing and changing, and too many changes will make people at a loss. When encountering setbacks, you will be unextinguished in regret and reflection. At this time, we need to go out of ourselves and invest more time to enter society, so as to get spiritual comfort while helping others.
3. Go forward bravely and don’t trip over emotions. Every slight change will produce an butterfly effect chain reaction.
4. Get out of the technology network world at the right time, avoid addiction, and do not rely on the Internet frequently.
Say goodbye to learned helplessness, have confidence in yourself and the world.
Therefore, if we want to change our destiny, we must face the status quo, look forward to it moderately, improve our confidence, and move forward bravely. The goal setting must be reasonable. Don’t pay too much attention to the results. Life is a journey. The goals ahead are important, but don’t forget to enjoy the scenery along the way. A person's abilities can be improved through acquired efforts and learning. As long as we continuously improve our own abilities, we will one day defeat ourselves and move towards success.
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