Ajie, 32, Changle, Fuzhou, said that he and his girlfriend Ali, who had been in love for many years, had reached the stage of discussing marriage, but now they have to break up. Ajie hopes to end the relationship friendly through mediation.
Ajie: Talking about marriage and marriage stage, I found out that Ali is married
Ajie said that in May this year, he found out that Ali and others were married to marriage certificate . He felt very disappointed at the time and immediately made the decision to break up. Ali admitted that she was unwilling to accept Ajie's request for breaking up.
Ali
I was with him not long ago, and I kept saying that I would break up with him, and he pestered me for half a year. Later, I was sick and went to the hospital. He took care of me for three months, and I was moved. I developed feelings for you. You are going to break up with me now.
In the interview, Ali said that Ajie had actually known her marital status for a long time. In her opinion, Ajie's breakup was just an act of impulse. Part of the reason why she has not divorced yet is related to Ajie.
Ali
Because I was sick, my husband just abandoned me and ignored me. Then he owed a lot of foreign debts because of hospitalization. He said, don’t leave, wait until the money I got back to get back.
At the mediation site, Ajie faced the rebuttal of Ali and Ali's colleagues, and then he agreed that he had already known about Ali's marriage when he was in love. This is completely contrary to what Ajie described to the mediation team at first. The mediation team then took Ajie aside to persuade him alone.
Mediator Fat Sister
If you feel that there is no relationship or bad, you want to cut the mess quickly, but don’t tell us by lying. From the beginning, you should retreat and not pursue others. After you put your relationship in, let others invest your relationship. You are doing something very immoral, hurting you and hurting her, hurting each other. When you think the woman’s personality is inappropriate, you can take another way to hurt her. You can tell her that after her marriage is over, we will fall in love again. This is what a normal person should do, instead of making this mistake again and again. If you like someone, if you really like her, you should let her wait until the marriage is over and we start again. This is a way to respect each other.
On the other hand, as the woman, Ali, no matter what her relationship with her husband, falls in love with others without the marriage relationship being terminated. not only violates public order and good customs , but also touches the bottom line of the law in serious circumstances. The mediator also criticized her.
Mediation Group Dialogue Ali
No matter what, you two are wrong about this matter, both of you are walking on the edge of the law. He has his fault, and do you know that you have your fault? If you get divorced and are with him, we will not say anything. When you maintain this kind of relationship with a man during your marriage, everyone will despise you for emotions, law and reason. My husband was when I was sick and he abandoned me and looked for a woman outside. You can sue him, you can also ask us to sue him, but do you know that you have harmed yourself in this extreme way? It’s easy for me to talk to my husband. As soon as I called, he came over to get a divorce. To put it bluntly, he and I knew it. Even if I was looking for a boyfriend outside, he knew it. It was that simple, that is, because we had reached a consensus in our hearts.A consensus has been reached in my heart, but no matter what, you have to implement the law. Do you know that you are using the law as a joke? You could have used the law to protect your legitimate rights and interests. If you gave up the law, you also made the same mistake as your husband. If you want to go your own way, you should cut off the previous marriage. Before your marriage ends, don’t have such emotional entanglements with anyone. Before your own family matters have not been resolved, you will start the next relationship, whether it is your boyfriend, you, your own children and your husband, which is a way of disrespect. If you two are together in the form of a husband and wife, it is bigamy , but if you are divorced now, I will not say anything no matter how you mess with him. If you have feelings. But you are still in the marriage period, and every step you take is breaking the law.
Ali is reluctant to give up her relationship. A friend advised her to give up
After being reminded by the mediator, both parties realized their own problems. At this time, Ali told the mediation team that she believed that Ajie's reason for breaking up was not that she was married, but that she wanted to get rid of her constraints on him.
During the mediation process, Ali was reluctant to end this relationship, which was beyond words. So, the mediation team conducted separate guidance with her.
After the persuasion of the mediation team and friends, Ali also believed that the relationship between her and Ajie should not continue, and she was willing to end it. At the same time, Ali mentioned that there is still an economic dispute between her and Ajie that has not been resolved.
Lawyer: The law does not stipulate the "breakup fee". Both parties agree to break up and settle the debt
In this regard, the lawyer said that there is no "breakup fee" in law, but for debt disputes, the creditor needs to provide evidence to prove the nature of the loan.
Lawyer Cai Sibin
Both men and women are in love, but in fact both parties have paid. If they break up, there is no legal breakup fee. As for the money transactions or debt disputes in the relationship between the two, it depends on the intention of both parties at that time. If one party clearly states that a small gift to the other party, it can be regarded as a general gift. The other party has no right to request a return, but if the relevant evidence can prove that this is the nature of the loan, as the borrower, of course, there is an obligation to repay. Of course, it may be said that there is a large payment. If both parties are for the purpose of marriage registration, this is actually a conditional gift. If the conditions are not met, the payer has the right to request a return.
Mediation team conveyed Ali’s demands to Ajie. Ajie immediately expressed his willingness to pay off the money and took out 2,100 yuan.
Mediation postscript
There is nothing wrong with love itself, but if the way and time of love are not within the scope of law or morality, such love will ultimately be difficult to gain happiness. I hope Ajie and Ali will seriously consider their current situation, be responsible for themselves and the other party, make the right choices, and let their feelings and life return to normal track.
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