According to data released by the Civil Affairs Bureau, the number of divorces in my country has increased year by year in recent years, while the number of marriages has become less and less, and late marriages are common.

According to data released by the Civil Affairs Bureau, the number of divorces in my country has increased year by year in recent years, while the number of marriages has become less and less, and late marriages are common. What exactly causes the divorce rate to rise and make young people reluctant to get married? In the final analysis, people's consciousness is still determined by social material living conditions , so let's analyze it from this aspect first.

As the saying goes, "A poor couple is sad for everything." This statement makes it clear without hesitation that a stable marriage must be based on a certain material foundation.

"I am not a materialist, don't use money to tarnish our pure love!" Many young men and women with romantic hearts firmly believed in the stage of passionate love that love can be transcendent and not be bound by secular things. Until they entered the palace of marriage together and, under the witness of their relatives and friends, formally signed a covenant to stay together for a lifetime. Both of them believed that they could contribute everything to each other and endure any test for this love.

However, after spending the honeymoon period and officially entering the normal state of marriage life, they realized that in this materialistic society, even drinking water costs money. Seeing others living in a luxury house and driving a luxury car, the originally warm and snail residence of the two was no longer fragrant. At this time, the romantic passion brought by love gradually fades away, and the gradually vigorous material desires begin to control their souls. The temptation of money is infinitely magnified, and the sweet words between the two become quarrels and complaints. Once the couple loses control, the vows of the couple will disperse with the wind.

Of course, couples divorce is not all due to lack of material wealth. On the contrary, some couples have broken their relationship because they are too rich.

An emotional expert once said: "Filling and warming will make you lust!" The superficial meaning of this sentence is roughly: When a person is free from worrying about food and clothing, he will start to stop doing serious things. I couldn't fully understand this at first, until I saw many celebrities and rich people treat marriage like a joke, and finally understood: they are spiritually empty, lonely and cold, and the ordinary couple's life can no longer bring them enough comfort, and they urgently need to find an alternative stimulus.

Of course, this may be the unilateral spiritual pursuit of one of the couple, but when the frivolous fig leaf is burned out by desire, their marriage is declared over.

The story of a man who "charged for love" and a female college student who has been popular on the Internet recently, as well as the ridiculous things between the bride of Zhangjiajie and the little white dragon, perfectly interprets this view.

So how to maintain a stable relationship between husband and wife? Of course, it is the "right medicine" for the above reasons!

Keep an optimistic and upward attitude, control material desires, and don’t blindly compare with others.

Happiness is just a psychological feeling and has no direct and inevitable connection with material wealth. If the material wealth you have is not comparable to that of the small group of people standing at the top of the pyramid, then as long as you occasionally look down at your feet, you will find that there are countless people living in a messier way than you. At that moment, you will feel that you are happy. You should know that compared to a billionaire plagued by illness, people with healthy bodies are the happiest people in the world.

Both husband and wife must remember: we pursue more money and wealth, in order to make the family live a more comfortable life. In other words, marriage and family are the key points, and money is just an accessory to improve the quality of life. Therefore, we must prevent material desires from over-inflation, and thus be lost and controlled by money, and become slaves to money.

Couples retain some free space, explore each other's strengths in life, understand more and complain less.

From a couple relationship to a couple relationship, the biggest difference between men and women is that the space for two people to get along has been reduced. No matter how close the two are at the beginning, once they meet up late and sleep together for a long time, they will easily develop aesthetic fatigue. Not only do they ignore the other person's strengths, but they also unconsciously amplify the other person's shortcomings infinitely, making them unpleasantly happy to see anywhere, let alone talk about passion.At this time, the couple will subconsciously compare their spouse with the excellent opposite sex around them, and inadvertently evolve from mental cheating to physical and mental betrayal.

In order to avoid aesthetic fatigue between husband and wife, both husband and wife need to maintain a certain amount of free space and keep their own personal privacy space. They can even take advantage of the opportunity of work or visiting relatives to occasionally separate for a short time and go out for breath. Not only can they relive the feeling of longing for phone calls, but they can also experience the fun of "a small separation is better than a newlywed". After settle down, give birth to a love crystallization that belongs to both of them as soon as possible, form a complete family, and find a common spiritual sustenance.

Children are the love crystallization of husband and wife and are also an indispensable part of marriage and family. If a couple does not have offspring, their relationship is very fragile. To be blunt, it is a sexual partner confirmed by the state. There is no buffer zone between them, and any little temper may become the fuse for the two to part ways.

Since the two parties have no bonds, the cost of divorce is almost negligible. Therefore, as long as either party is unhappy with each other, they can change their partners at any time. As the saying goes, "The old ones don't go away, and the new ones don't come." Not only does it have no loss, it can also rejuvenate its passion and achieve greater physical and psychological satisfaction.

OK, don’t listen to those Dink tribes nonsense, I just want to tell you: "The more romantic you are when you are young, how desolate you are when you are old!"

Imagine that the Dink tribe lying on the hospital bed when he was old, and he had to take care of the caregiver when he drank water, but the patients in the neighboring bed took turns to visit and take care of him. How desolate it was! At this time, even if the DINK tribe is worth over 100 million yuan, when they can’t move, whatever they say is, and the value of squeezing out is just a waste in the eyes of others!