When I reach middle age, I increasingly realize the difficulty of mutual trust. Trust is difficult to establish between people, but without mutual trust, many things cannot be done, and even many contradictions and problems will be caused.
For example, husband and wife and lover can be said to be the closest interpersonal relationship, and it is impossible to form such a relationship without achieving a certain degree of trust.
and friends. If they don’t have mutual trust, they will not be friends.
Similarly, between superiors and subordinates, between partners, including between countries, "trust" is the biggest problem and obstacle .
The opposite of trust is suspicion, suspicion and misunderstanding, as well as prejudice and hatred. From ancient times to the present, human beings have suffered from "no faith".
Without trust, there is no relationship, and if there is no relationship, there is no security.
After all, the relationship between people is one of the most fundamental relationships between human beings. Without an island of human beings, our survival and development must be achieved through the power of others.
rationally said that "win-win cooperation" is the highest principle of human coexistence. Only when everyone seeks common ground while reserving differences, communicates about existence and non-existence, learns from strengths and weaknesses, and works together, can it be in line with each other's interests.
But if you want to reach a win-win relationship, you must have enough understanding of each other. Only with understanding can you have trust, and only with trust can you have win-win cooperation can you have win-win cooperation.
In addition, with mutual understanding and trust, it is easy for people to get rid of mutual harm mode.
But it is easy to destroy it and it is difficult to build a trust relationship between people, while it is very easy to destroy a trust relationship.
Generally speaking, people are prone to make friends when they are young, but it is more difficult for people to make friends after middle age. Why? One of the main reasons for is that the cost of mutual trust is high.
Young people are together and have many common languages. They do not have a deep understanding of the complexity of society and the changing characteristics of human nature, and they do not have a strong sense of defense, so it is easier for young people to build trust.
. Middle-aged people have experienced many things and have a deep understanding of the bad side of human nature. Therefore, they are more cautious and less likely to trust others.
You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must be careful of others. This is also the creed of many adults.
If people want to establish a trust relationship, there are three key points: communication, attitude, and sincerity.
If we want to survive in this world, it is impossible not to communicate. In a sense, each of us is like the Sun Wukong in "Journey to the West". At the beginning, the ignorant is fearless, lawless, and does not know his own boundaries.
Later, as he deals with others, through communication and feedback to the outside world, he gradually became familiar with the rules of this world, knew who he was and what he was going to do, and finally achieved the right result and entered the state of doing whatever he wanted without breaking the rules.
So communication is necessary. Then there is attitude. I think everyone should regard others as the same person as themselves. All beings are equal. Others cannot be divided into different levels, thinking that they are advanced and others are low-level. If this is the attitude, it means to take people as the enemy and thorns everywhere.
The most important thing is sincerity. A person who is not sincere has no friends to speak of. Without sincerity, people will not reach effective communication and mutual trust. Trust is mutual. If you don’t believe in others, why do people believe in you? Whether we are to others or ourselves, we must be honest.
In addition to communication, attitude and sincerity, it is worth mentioning that there are opportunities and time. The ancients said that it is as beautiful as before and as gray as new as new. In fact, it means that the interaction between people requires a suitable opportunity, or fate.
In addition, time is time. The accumulation of time can increase mutual understanding and trust, warm up feelings, and promote the depth of relationships. Of course, with the blessing of time, relationships and feelings will also cool down and deteriorate.
Finally, I would like to talk about the importance of trust in enterprise management. As we all know, business is based on integrity, and business cannot be established without trust. If customers don’t believe you, they will not pay you money. In fact, the same is true for internal reasons.
It is hard to believe that a business with internal suspicion and tension will achieve real success. An enterprise is a kind of business organization, which emphasizes organizational strength, unity is strength, and enterprises pursue unity of "strength to produce one hole". This puts forward requirements for managers. If you want to unite everyone and reduce trust and management costs within the organization, you must have a leadership attitude.
What is the leader mentality? Ren Zhengfei has a good saying, "Be selfless and fair to subordinates, be neither close nor alienated, insist on evaluating cadres based on the responsibility and results orientation, and do not involve personal friendship or likes and dislikes in the evaluation." is fair and selfless. As long as you do this, it is easy to lead the team and manage it well.
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