A few days ago, the teacher received a private message like this, "My husband and I have been married for more than 3 years. He treated me very well before marriage. I wonder if it is because we have been together for a long time and his relationship with me has faded. Will he not love me in the future?"
In fact, many students have had similar confusions. After marriage, men no longer treat themselves meticulously like when they were in love, and their attitude has changed a lot, and their previous vows were not fulfilled. Many women will start to wonder if their husbands don’t love themselves anymore when they encounter such a situation?
Actually, this is not the case. When two people spend too long together and know each other well, their relationship will gradually become dull, which is normal. This does not mean that the other person doesn’t love you anymore. On the contrary, true love often emerges at this time.
Everyone should have heard of the word "ritual sense" ! Not only in love, marriage also requires a sense of ritual. If you want your love to be fresh forever and men to always keep you enthusiastic, you need to learn to cultivate a sense of ritual in marriage.
What is the sense of ritual? The so-called sense of ritual is actually expressing love in a specific form, so that the two people in the intimate relationship can always feel the existence of love through the actions of each other, and the two people can always maintain happiness.
so how should we cultivate this sense of ritual? teacher teaches you three methods.
1. Express love in language
Many couples are in love, and they want to stick together all the time. Every day, the baby is long and the baby is short, giving each other various intimate names, but it is not like this after marriage.
After the couple has been together for a long time, they will inevitably feel bored with their partner. even feels that they have no feelings of heartbeat, but they cannot "show off" at this time.
You can give the other party a special title. This title is best if it is the only one. No one else calls him like this except you. For example, "little fool" and "little confused", the meaning of these names is something that only you know, and only belongs to the two of you.
Every night before going to bed, you can add this special name when saying good night to the other party, and then hold him to sleep.
also has a very critical point, which is praise. should be the same for everyone. No one doesn’t like being recognized and praised, and so does men. They like to hear their partner affirmation and praise for themselves, which will give them a deep sense of pride, feel that they are valuable, can keep them confident to the greatest extent and stimulate their energy.
According to his daily characteristics, he would say a different compliment to him every day. For example, after he cooked a delicious dinner for you, you said, "Baby, the meal is so delicious. You are the best cooking man in the world. I am so happy to be with you." At this time, men will definitely be very happy. If you satisfy his self-confidence, your relationship will also warm up.
2.Create daily romance
The purpose of creating romance is to make the other party feel that they are valued, treated and loved well. You need to give each other enough company. Even if the two of them are very busy with work and life after marriage, they should set aside some time and energy to accompany each other well.
This kind of companionship does not mean that you two are staying together, but you play yours and he plays hiss, that's not the case. What the teacher said about companionship is that you do something together. Both of you are very serious. During this period, your time only belongs to each other, just for each other, and this is where romance lies.
You can share a rich candlelight dinner, hold hands and hold the road together, snuggle in his arms and watch the whole movie, as long as it is an event you participate in together.Because everything you do is actually secondary. What is important is your company and every bit of enjoyment you have, and you are willing to spend time and thoughts on each other.
For example, before each anniversary or special holiday, prepare carefully to prepare different surprises for the other party. This surprise is unique, preferably something that the other party cannot imagine at all. This can also deepen the other party’s memory point and make every festival a sublimation of your relationship.
You can also enjoy life together after work, arrange a short trip every once in a while, go to different places with your loved ones, and leave your love footprints in different cities. This is also a very romantic thing.
3. Gifts are visible love
Everyone knows that gifts can express a person's love. In a plain married life, gifts must be indispensable. It is a visual symbol of love and can be displayed intuitively before the other person's eyes. A thoughtful and meaningful gift can make the other person feel happy.
Of course, this gift must not be measured by value, but by intention. It can be bought by you or made by yourself. As long as you prepare carefully, your intention will be priceless.
gift is a thing that reminds the other party that you still love him in the increasingly dull relationship. It is visible love and a special language to express love.
For example, it is getting winter now. You can buy a set of winter couple pajamas as a gift. You can wear it together, go to the supermarket, go for a walk downstairs, and take all kinds of funny photos.
You can also make a DIY handmade album. Each photo is carefully selected by you. It can be a photo of you when you have dinner together or a photo taken when you travel. When you see these photos, you can evoke his memories and think of every bit of your time together.
and other behaviors are all small tips that can enhance the relationship between husband and wife and warm up love, giving each other a sense of ritual. Marriage life may be dull, and the sense of ritual is like a special medicine in life. With this special medicine, all dullness can become interesting, all love can be infinitely amplified, and your feelings can be sweet forever.
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