We all know that nowadays, more and more young people leave the countryside and enter the city by studying and working. They have dreams and pursue a better life, while also carrying the expectations and hopes of their parents. In this context, being a real city man has become th

We all know that nowadays, more and more young people leave the countryside and enter the city by studying and working. They have dreams and pursue a better life, while also carrying the expectations and hopes of their parents. In this context, being a real city man has become their greatest wish.

However, it is not easy for children from rural families to take root in the city. Faced with many practical problems such as work, housing and even marriage, it is inseparable from the strong help of their parents.

So, in order to help your children, what will parents experience? Aunt Sun, 56, admitted frankly, "Has my hard days started since my son wanted to settle down in the city."

01

My name is Sun Guihua, 56 years old, she doesn't study much, was born in the countryside, grew up in the countryside. My husband and I are honest farmers, with one son, one daughter, and two children.

Because the cost of farming is getting higher and higher, it is difficult to maintain the life of a family by relying solely on the harvest in the field. Seeing that more and more people were working outside, we were also moved. Although we were a little confused, we finally left our homes and went into the city.

My husband followed the contractor to the construction site, and I found a warehouse keeper's job at the wholesale market. Within two years, the two children were unwilling to go to school and ran over to work.

We rented a house. Although we were all busy during the day, the family of four was very satisfied to have dinner together and talk together.

02

Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, both children have reached the age to talk about marriage. That year, my daughter first got into a partner, and then my son also brought her girlfriend back.

I feel both relieved and anxious as they grow up.

According to rural customs, when a daughter gets married, if her parents have good financial conditions, she will give her more dowry. If the financial conditions are not good, it doesn’t matter if she gives her less. Besides, she has to consider how much dowry is needed; but when she helps her son get married, the parents are passive, and how much she pays depends entirely on the woman’s requirements.

So, I am not worried about my daughter getting married, but I am worried about how to marry my daughter-in-law. Helping my son get married and start a career is our "task" and our heart disease.

03

However, then again, no matter what difficulties encounters, it is useless to escape. Only by actively finding ways to solve it is the right thing to do.

One day, I asked my son when he planned to get married. He hesitated that the girl's parents had put forward three conditions: first, they had to buy a house in the city; second, they had to buy a new car; third, they had to prepare a 100,000 yuan bride price. He also said that they could get married immediately, otherwise they would not get in contact again.

I was not surprised at all about my son’s answer, because the conditions raised by others are in line with the current “market”. So, we have no other choice except to agree.

In the next few days, in order to organize my son's marriage, I spent more than ten years of savings and borrowed a lot of foreign debts.

04

That night, my husband discussed with me and to be honest, if there was no way, let my daughter ask for more brides, right? But I thought about it over and over again and rejected his suggestion.

Soon after, the daughter got married and the son settled in the city. In the eyes of outsiders, I have completed the biggest task in my life and should enjoy my life well. Little do I know that my hard days have just begun.

Although the son and daughter-in-law have become "city people", they have no stable jobs. Paying the mortgage, raising children, and adding daily expenses has made them breathless.

Looking at their frowning faces every day, I felt both distressed and sad, and I could only do my best to help.

05

As the saying goes, children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so don’t be a horse and cow for their children and grandchildren. And I can't see their blessings, and I can't make up my mind to ignore them.

Maybe settled in the city is not their best choice, but the yearning for a better life is everyone's right. They did nothing wrong.The wrong thing is that they were born in the countryside, without a good education, and without meeting capable parents.

The husband often complains, when will it be the first to help his son and his family? Is it worth raising such a son?

I don’t have an answer, I just think everything will always be fine, because there is hope, and there is hope, there is a bright future.

is written at the end:

Many young people look simple from the countryside to the city, but they have to go through a difficult process to gain a foothold and settle down in the city, and they are inseparable from the selfless efforts of their parents.

In fact, the happiness of every generation is based on the blood and sweat of their parents and ancestors.

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Author: Yi Shi Juan, an emotional narrator with a cheerful personality and joking love. I am willing to accompany my teachers and friends to appreciate life and talk about life with a joke.