There is a word on the Internet called Seven Years Itch , which roughly means: Couples When the marriage of the two has reached the seventh year of getting along, all the passion in love has long faded away. When a relationship gradually transforms into family affection, it has long lost its original freshness. The familiar faces and everything around them are so familiar.
In the process of this transformation, some couples can accept it, while some couples cannot accept it. If it cannot be accepted, a series of problems will arise in the marriage.
Because they are too familiar with everything, some people want to seek freshness. When the opportunity comes, she and he will be deeply trapped in it and cannot extricate themselves.
In the company, a 40-year-old married woman suddenly said she likes you, what should you do? Those who have experienced it bluntly said: is careful to "free".
01.40-year-old married woman, suddenly someone said she likes you
Internet saying: Men have forty-one flowers, women have forty-one tofu shit.
roughly means that as men grow older, their career and achievements are at their peak when they are about forty years old. When a woman was forty, her figure was deformed and her face was old. She was busy by the stove every day. Her face turned yellow by the smoke. She turned from being loved by everyone at the beginning to being annoying to being annoying to being "scramble".
But women are flowers and water. No matter how dull middle-aged couples live, they all look forward to love and long to be paid attention to. Sister Wu (pseudonym) in the company is almost 40 years old this year and her family is quite happy. She has a son who is already in high school. Her husband is busy with work and often travels on business trips, so in most cases she is guarding the empty big house alone.
On weekdays, Sister Wu only wears flat shoes and work clothes at work, never wears makeup, and even doesn't bother to apply lipstick. But some time ago, Sister Wu put on makeup, did her hair, and went to work with high heels. She would change into a beautiful skirt after get off work.
The sudden change of Sister Wu surprised her colleagues in the company. When her colleague met Sister Wu after get off work, she joked: Sister Wu, which handsome guy are you going to date with! Every time Sister Wu smiles and refuses to answer.
Ms. Wu and I live in the same community, and occasionally we go to and get off work together. One day, I saw Sister Wu walking with a man on the street near my home. The man looked very energetic and young, about thirties. I thought he was Sister Wu's son from a distance, but I didn't realize it wasn't until I got closer.
When Sister Wu saw me, she was obviously panicked. Before I could speak, she quickly explained to me that this was her friend and that the two were just ordinary friends.
After a few of us exchanged greetings, I left.
Because my relationship with Sister Wu is pretty good, Sister Wu took the initiative to tell me that this man works in the 4S store next door. Because Sister Wu's car has been maintained in this 4S store for a long time, the two of them became familiar with each other after a while. One day, the man told Sister Wu that she liked her, praised her for her beauty, and didn't mind that Sister Wu had married and had children, so he confessed to Sister Wu directly.
Mr. Wu was a little confused about her sudden confession. She thought, but she didn't dare to think about it. Thinking that she was old and there was still a young man confessing to her, her heart ripples appeared. Although Sister Wu did not reply, the long-awaited heart had already been ups and downs.
So during this period, Sister Wu, who had not dressed up, started putting on makeup, doing hair, and wearing high heels.
Sister Wu was very entangled and hesitant. First of all, she already has a family and cannot do anything to be sorry for her family. However, in the face of the sudden "love", Sister Wu was moved. chooses between the two, Sister Wu doesn’t know what to do? Just that day I met Sister Wu for a walk with this man, so Sister Wu asked me and asked me what she should do?
After 40 years of age, someone suddenly confessed to me. I think no matter whether it is a man or a woman, there will be a ripples in my heart, as if I have returned to my youth and had the longing of my first love. But is this really "love"? Still a trap. personal experience said bluntly: Be careful to be "free".
02. A person who experienced it said bluntly: Be careful to "get free"
In fact, similar things have happened around me. One of my cousins, who was about forty years old, suddenly a man confessed to her. My cousin was moved. In the original marriage, my cousin's husband was a dull person. He never knew how to express love and often complained about it. At that time, everyone advised my cousin not to go the wrong way, but my cousin just refused to listen. She said that she was old. This time she had to follow her inner choices and be brave once. Even if she fell and was injured all over, she had to fight for "love".
Later, my cousin divorced. She went to find this man with all her fantasies about a beautiful love, but in the end things went against her wishes. The man himself has a family and said that he was just having fun with his cousin, and it was impossible for him to divorce his current wife for her.
My cousin regretted it, but it was too late. She wanted to remarry her ex-husband, but her ex-husband refused. Not only that, the child also hated her and did not recognize her as her mother at all. In her hometown, her story spreads from ten to ten, and everyone knows that her aunt and uncle have all faces. But there is no medicine for regret in the world. I have to walk the road I choose even if I kneel down.
So suddenly someone confesses to you, he looks young and rich, either they are liars or they just want to "get a job for free".
First of all, the other party knows that you are a person who is married, has children and has a family, but he still wants to provoke you. You must know that the person who truly likes and admires you hopes that you will live a good life from the bottom of your heart and it is impossible for you to disturb your family life.
Secondly, why did he have to provoke a married woman of a certain age? In fact, the answer is very simple. Most of them just want to "get a job for free". Why does say that? They just need to use some sweet words to trick you into it, without spending a lot of money or paying for support. The most important thing is that you are a family. Even if the matter is revealed, you dare not make a big fuss and cannot pester him. Where is him? If you want to leave, you can leave at any time, without any worries, you don’t have to be responsible, and you can find a second company at any time. If you don’t have a business, who doesn’t want to do it!
Finally, they are mostly liars, using sweet words to deceive your heart, and make yourself rich, handsome, and outstanding in ability. Finally, they draw a big pie for you, allowing you to invest, live in a villa, and change your life.
I told Sister Wu this, but Sister Wu still didn't believe that the other party wanted to take advantage of her, so I had to say to Sister Wu: You tell the other party that you love her very much, and are willing to give up for him. I plan to confess to my husband, divorce, leave the house in vain, and leave the job, and have a passionate love with him wholeheartedly and see what the other party's attitude is!
Sister Wu did as she did.
The next day, Sister Wu came to work in work clothes and flat shoes. Sister Wu and I looked at each other and smiled. When we were having lunch in the canteen at noon, Sister Wu said that the other party had nothing to reply, so she blocked her.
After we finished our meal, I applied lipstick to Sister Wu, and I told her: is beautiful for myself, and it is enough to love myself and my family!
is written at the end:
When people reach middle age, marriage is like a stagnant pool. In real life, there is not much excitement, and what can be seen everywhere is plainness. Everything is running on its own track, step by step, no matter how small it is.
Everyone fantasizes about having another passionate love, but marriage cannot do it. Just like the line from the TV series " Human World ": "Love is not the destination of a relationship between men and women. The ultimate destination of a relationship between men and women is marriage. Love can do everything, but marriage cannot do it."
In marriage, there are family, children, responsibilities, and commitments. We abide by the rules of marriage with each other, such a marriage is dull but very happy.
Finally, I ask everyone, when you are middle-aged, you have a family and a child, and suddenly someone confesses to you, what should you do?
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