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01, Volume Start
The relationship between people is often very complicated and seems to be close, but others may wear a mask of "hypocrisy". Even family affection is the same.
Playwright Wan Qing said: "No matter whether you have a blood relationship or not, there is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, the person who cares about you and loves you, and vice versa."
In this world, not all family affection warms people's hearts.
Human nature, immeasurable and direct looking. Although relatives are related to blood, they have different growth environments, different events experienced, and different personalities they have created.
There are always huge differences when dealing with things and looking at things.
There will also be closeness and distantness among relatives.
Relatives dare to treat you with the following attitude, but they are actually "looking down on you". If you have such a relative around you, don’t have too much contact with him.
02. Those who hit you in front of others look down on you
Luyao wrote in "Ordinary World": "The friendship between people does not lie in the word "relative" as beautiful but important."
If relatives are in front of others and do not leave you dignity, they actually look down on you.
" I am Yu Huanshui ", Yu Huanshui took the red wine and mooncakes sent by the unit to go to his parents-in-law's house for dinner.
Yu Huanshui's brother-in-law felt that the red wine tasted wrong, so he deliberately swept the price. He saw that it was only 88 yuan, and then began to mock him.
says that such a cheap and inferior wine has no way to drink it, so it is better to throw it away.
Father-in-law tried to smooth things over and wanted to get out of the topic, but my brother-in-law still refused to give in. Yu Huanshui's wife couldn't stand this atmosphere and turned around and left. Yu Huanshui chased her out, and she made a divorce request on the spot.
There is a type of relative who will not leave room for you in front of others, but choose to get along with you with blows and ridicule. He will not care about your feelings, but just to seize the opportunity to hit you.
In fact, when you hit you in front of others, regardless of your dignity, and don’t care about your feelings, you just look down on you.
Their blows are more about jealousy of you, habitually raising highs and striking lows to enhance your "status" and sense of superiority.
It is better to avoid meeting him if you are such a relative. If you have to meet and ignore him, you don’t have to get emotional for such a person.
03. In front of others, you often ask about your salary
. There are some "enthusiastic" relatives who will ask about your financial situation, especially when there are many people.
Despise your relatives and will always ask about your salary because they can't stand you well.
I think you have low education, little work experience, and poor work unit, so you must not make much money. I want to use this as a topic to make more people laugh at you and despise you.
If you have dinner with your relatives, there will always be someone who will inquire about your current situation, rush into your privacy, and want to know your financial situation.
If you say that the salary is relatively low, he will be very proud. And he would say, "That's not bad, you're so awesome!" In fact, he was very happy because you were not as good as him.
If you have a high salary and a better life, he will shut up and will not mention anything about your salary.
is with it, and it can always hit your weaknesses. Often, ask your salary casually in front of others, and take your embarrassment and embarrassment as fun.
The relatives who preach you in the manner of an elder will be used to using the method of hitting you to demonstrate their "nobleness".
There is no need to resent your relatives who look down on you, or choose a way of working and living that they recognize.
is worse than that, and chatting with people who make you comfortable, making him feel bored and punched him on the cotton.
04. When you have something to ask for, you will deliberately make things difficult for you
Life has ups and downs, joys and sorrows.
When you fall to a trough and need the help of your relatives, you look down on your relatives, will not understand your anxiety, and will not understand your feelings, but will deliberately make things difficult for you.If you don’t get any help, your life in a difficult situation will be even worse.
looks down on your relatives, will not help you in time, and prefer to "add trouble if you lose your mistakes".
They will not feel distressed because of your predicament, but instead think that you will never be able to turn over. Such relatives are not merciful at all and do not have any hope for him.
is worse than choosing to rely on yourself, even if the road is more difficult to walk.
"Zengguang Xianwen" writes: "No one is concerned about the poor living in the downtown area, and rich living in the mountains have distant relatives."
As a human being, you don't have to look down on your relatives and have too high expectations.
If you are in trouble and want to ask him for help, he will put on a high attitude and do things that will make you lose your dignity. Have fun with this.
If relatives always look down on you, no matter how difficult it is, don’t try to ask for his help. Because, those who look down on you will not really help you.
In the eyes of relatives, if you look down on you from the bottom of your heart, you will deliberately make things difficult for you.
Don’t take the people who look down on you in your heart, and it will be more reliable to rely on yourself.
05. Summary
On the road of life, cherish those who care about you and cherish the relatives who treat you sincerely.
Not all relatives will treat you sincerely. Some relatives seem intimate, but in fact they don’t care about you at all.
looks down on your relatives and always finds opportunities to sarcasm, which can make you feel full of malice.
Of course, there are some relatives who will take the initiative to lend a helping hand when you are in danger and will give you great help. I will sincerely be happy for you when you see you overcome difficulties safely.
is worse than that, cherish these relatives who care about you and support you.
will give him more feedback within his own ability. Let him know that you have always been thinking about you, and don’t indifference to each other’s friendship because of your distantness.
On the road of life, stay away from those who consume you and cherish those who treat you kindly.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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