When I was reading " The Three of Us ", I thought, I probably found a dream-like template for a beautiful couple's life: both of them like to read, and the usual scene at home is that they work in their own room. When they read, they can tell each other about interesting and exciting things. When they are free, they can go out to "exploration" together (in fact, they are just wandering around and going to places they have never been to). You can double-click on things outside the home and have a lot of contention, and it doesn't matter occasionally.
How come I and my husband are always so inconvenient to communicate? I often feel that the quarrel is exhausted both physically and mentally. It is obviously not a big deal, but I always make trouble.
Since I am in my hometown, I am with the children and the elderly, and he is in another place and works alone, he may always feel bored. He likes to post videos and chat when he has something to do, but I think he chats too frequently and doesn’t have that much to say at all.
always chats, and it is definitely impossible to have fresh information exchanges all the time. During the period of having nothing to say, I will do something else. When I was caught and did something else when I was chatting, he would be angry and say that I didn’t concentrate on chatting with him. I...I am quite angry too.
Especially at night, when the child is out of school, he has to play with the child, prepare supper, bathe the child, and tell stories. It is already 10 o'clock after he settles the child. Then, he is busy with himself and wash up. It is already 11 o'clock after he finishes everything. At this time, he is exhausted and wants to say nothing. He just wants to lie in the bed, look at his cell phone, and sleep. And this is considered to be "I have time to browse my phone and don't have time to chat with him", which is too difficult for me.
So, the chat has been very popular recently, and it ends at the beginning, conducting low-quality communication. I have expressed that I have asked him to find something to do, go out to play, find friends, and do personal improvement countless times, which is more meaningful than the frequent awkward chats now. Perhaps, this is the difference between us. In my spare time, I often find many interesting things and make myself involved. I rarely feel bored.
We cannot completely place the richness of life on others. Even parents, partners, and children of close relatives, we will eventually learn to face loneliness alone and gain a rich spiritual life alone.
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