75-year-old Mr. Zeng was a businessman when he was young. He was a very capable person in the eyes of rural people. He made a lot of money and built a three-story western-style building at home. In addition, there are four houses for rent in the county town.
But his son Mr. Zeng is an incompetent and timid man. Mr. Zeng’s opinion is different from his wife. Mr. Zeng believes that his son should be self-reliant and strive to survive since childhood, while his wife believes that his son should be doting and let him live in the crystal garden without being hurt or disturbed by the outside world.
Uncle Zeng couldn't resist his wife, and he would do it himself to help his son solve all problems, which eventually made his son an A Dou who could not help him.
When I was in college, my wife asked Mr. Zeng to accompany my son to register at school, etc., so Mr. Zeng always obeyed his wife's words.
When registering at school, Mr. Zeng asked his son to register, but his son said he would not, so he asked him to go. There was no way, so Mr. Zeng had to go and register for his son himself.
, but this also led to the failure of my son's ability to improve, so I suffered countless setbacks in school. Other people's children all signed up by themselves, but Mr. Zeng had to sign up for his son.
Not only that, every summer and winter vacation, my wife would ask Mr. Zeng to visit the school in person and take good care of his son. Every time Mr. Zeng would do it.
Then, when my son graduated, he still stretched out his hands and had food. He went to many places, but no job could do it. There was no choice but to go home and become a dependent on his parents.
Uncle Zeng had no choice. He should have followed his own wishes and should not obey his wife's opinions, otherwise his son would not be so miserable.
Uncle Zeng often chatted with a middle school teacher. The Chinese teacher told him: "Don't always worry about your children's affairs, let them solve it themselves. The old couple should have a long life, and you can't take care of your children for the rest of your life."
Uncle Zeng has always thought this way, but he was helpless and was afraid of quarreling with his wife, so he gave up his own intentions and followed his wife's ideas. However, his wife spoiled her son too much, which led to his son becoming a useless man.
Chinese teacher also said to him: "It is best for the old couple to negotiate and explain the truth. The same is true for me. We should not be arbitrary in our lives, but we cannot believe in other people's opinions. Even though we know that our wife is wrong, we should do what our wife wants. In the end, it will only lead to a big disaster." After Mr. Zeng talked to the Chinese teacher, he suddenly realized that he decided to respect his wife and son. The whole family sat down and discussed it carefully.
Uncle Zeng told his son carefully and asked him to be self-reliant. If he encountered difficulties, he would ask his parents to help solve them. The son finally agreed, and his wife also felt that what Mr. Zeng said made sense.
After his son went to a big city to find a job, Mr. Zeng and his wife lived at home.
But over time, there are more and more contradictions. Because Mr. Zeng is a heroic man who likes to be lively, he often asks many people to come to his house to drink, play cards, eat peanuts, play mahjong and smoke.
But what made Mr. Zeng’s wife angry was that these people were all doing things. When they were drunk, they treated their own home as theirs and started to get drunk. The most important thing was that for the sake of face, Mr. Zeng ignored it and still let his friends come.
resulted in a big fuss. Once, several friends were unwilling to accept the loss, and they even quarreled on the spot, and even accidentally smashed the LCD TV of Mr. Zeng’s house.
The wife became popular and cursed: It doesn’t matter, you can fight and make noise again and make trouble again, treat this place as your home, the trouble is overturning. I will buy ten more TVs next time and let you smash them.
Friends were woken up by Mr. Zeng’s wife, and everyone apologized to their wife and ran away one after another.
After the friend dispersed, the wife saw the living room in a mess and was in a mess, and immediately scolded Mr. Zeng for making a group of ignorant friends. Mr. Zeng also scolded his wife as a stupid woman, which made him embarrassed in front of everyone. He was really not generous.
Just like that, the two of them quarreled and got into trouble, but the neighbor heard it and came to stop them.
Because of this, the couple had a different dream.
My friend didn't come again next time, and he didn't even dare to party with Mr. Zeng. Even if he met by chance, he was unwilling to mention that matter.
At this time, Mr. Zeng had no fun and found the previous Chinese teacher. The Chinese teacher told him: "Don't be drunk anymore. Your wife is just angry for a moment. As long as you advise him, you can still make peace. But the first thing you do now is to quit drinking and quit smoking, and ask friends to go to your house less, and even don't let friends go to your house. If you want to go, go to restaurants."
Mr. Zeng said he was afraid that he would not be able to quit drinking, and the Chinese teacher said: "If you can't quit drinking, your home will fall apart."
Mr. Zeng suddenly woke up. For this family, he decided to quit drinking, for the sake of his kidneys, lungs, for the health and longevity, and for the comfort of his wife, he also wanted to quit.
Later, Mr. Zeng went to the hospital less often and became much better. He often asked his son if he had found a good job. His son said he had worked as a small accountant and had a girlfriend, but he didn't have enough ability to make a lot of money and would start a company in the future.
Uncle Zeng was so happy to hear that his son had a girlfriend.
Now, Mr. Zeng has completely quit drinking and rarely smokes cigarettes. Those friends who like to quarrel, drink and cause trouble have not dealt with them.
My wife gradually forgave him and often went shopping with him in the park, sometimes dancing square dance and ballroom dance . Both of them said that if you encounter troubles, as long as you solve them well and discuss them carefully, there will always be a solution.
The old couple now buys vegetables together every day, and then go home to cook meals together.
The Chinese teacher Mr. Zeng was very grateful, so he bought a fish and a chicken to thank the Chinese teacher. The Chinese teacher said, "The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. It's not that you don't understand these principles, but I just remind you."
Mr. Zeng excitedly said to the Chinese teacher, "Fortunately, with the persuasion of you, your good friend, otherwise my life in my old age would not be so happy."
Now, there has never been any problems with the life between Mr. Zeng and his wife.
Conclusion:
When people reach old age, the most important thing is their children and families. They should manage their children's affairs less and just take care of them occasionally. They have their own personal space and life experiences. It is best to discuss things between husband and wife, tolerant and understand things more, and not impulsive when encountering things.
Because of this, the couple had a different dream.
My friend didn't come again next time, and he didn't even dare to party with Mr. Zeng. Even if he met by chance, he was unwilling to mention that matter.
At this time, Mr. Zeng had no fun and found the previous Chinese teacher. The Chinese teacher told him: "Don't be drunk anymore. Your wife is just angry for a moment. As long as you advise him, you can still make peace. But the first thing you do now is to quit drinking and quit smoking, and ask friends to go to your house less, and even don't let friends go to your house. If you want to go, go to restaurants."
Mr. Zeng said he was afraid that he would not be able to quit drinking, and the Chinese teacher said: "If you can't quit drinking, your home will fall apart."
Mr. Zeng suddenly woke up. For this family, he decided to quit drinking, for the sake of his kidneys, lungs, for the health and longevity, and for the comfort of his wife, he also wanted to quit.
Later, Mr. Zeng went to the hospital less often and became much better. He often asked his son if he had found a good job. His son said he had worked as a small accountant and had a girlfriend, but he didn't have enough ability to make a lot of money and would start a company in the future.
Uncle Zeng was so happy to hear that his son had a girlfriend.
Now, Mr. Zeng has completely quit drinking and rarely smokes cigarettes. Those friends who like to quarrel, drink and cause trouble have not dealt with them.
My wife gradually forgave him and often went shopping with him in the park, sometimes dancing square dance and ballroom dance . Both of them said that if you encounter troubles, as long as you solve them well and discuss them carefully, there will always be a solution.
The old couple now buys vegetables together every day, and then go home to cook meals together.
The Chinese teacher Mr. Zeng was very grateful, so he bought a fish and a chicken to thank the Chinese teacher. The Chinese teacher said, "The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. It's not that you don't understand these principles, but I just remind you."
Mr. Zeng excitedly said to the Chinese teacher, "Fortunately, with the persuasion of you, your good friend, otherwise my life in my old age would not be so happy."
Now, there has never been any problems with the life between Mr. Zeng and his wife.
Conclusion:
When people reach old age, the most important thing is their children and families. They should manage their children's affairs less and just take care of them occasionally. They have their own personal space and life experiences. It is best to discuss things between husband and wife, tolerant and understand things more, and not impulsive when encountering things.
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