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Sometimes, people get separated from each other not because of unresolvable conflicts, but because of some misunderstandings. People with low emotional intelligence are always easily misunderstood when doing things. Maybe your original intention is not what the other party mistakenly thinks, but if you do some things, a barrier will arise.
This reminds us that when interacting with people, we must understand some of the most basic ways to get along with each other. For example, when it comes to giving gifts, understanding what can be given and what cannot be given can help you avoid many unnecessary troubles.
Please remember that no matter how good your relationship is with others, the following four things cannot be given away randomly, as it is easy to make enemies.
1: Give things you have used by others
If you have used something, don’t give it to others as a gift. This is disrespect for others and will also make others doubt your intentions.
The original purpose of sending gifts is to send blessings. Giving old things that others have used will make people feel offended.
If you really don’t have this heart, you can not give it to it. Since you give it to it, you will be sincere. There is no need to give it casually for the sake of the so-called face, it makes no sense.
2: Send old clothes or old shoes from others at home
People with children at home may have this experience. Children grow up fast, and many clothes or shoes, etc., actually don’t wear them for long, and some are even brand new.
In this case, you will give these clothes and shoes to others out of kindness, and there is no big problem. But the premise is that the other person is very familiar with you and knows your personality.
If you don’t know each other well and your relationship is not too close, he may feel that you are looking down upon by you, and you will not be able to help thinking:
"Is it that in your eyes that our family is so poor that we wear other people's old clothes?"
Once you have such an idea, you will naturally alienate you in the future. Therefore, you must know how to grasp the right measure when getting along with others. Some things cannot be given away at will, which can easily cause misunderstandings.
3: Give things that others give to you, and give them at will at will
Gifts must be sincere. If you just do some face work, it is better not to give them, because such gifts are meaningless and will only make people feel that you are hypocritical.
Some people give gifts to them at will in order to save trouble. It’s okay if others don’t know, but if they know, wouldn’t they have any objections to you?
One year during the Chinese New Year, Lao Zhang handed over the wine that a relative gave him to another relative, but the relative happened to see it, and since then he has opinions about Lao Zhang and has never had close contact again.
Others give you gifts, which is a kind of heart. If you transfer them at will, it is a kind of disrespect to people.
This is not only a matter of emotional intelligence, but also a matter of your character.
4: Send some pointing things, which can easily make people misunderstand
What is pointing? In fact, in simple terms, it is something that is easy to misunderstand and has special significance.
For example, if you give a alarm clock to a person who is recuperating, , maybe your intention is to make the other party cherish time, but he will mistakenly think that you deliberately send him a clock, which means giving him a clock, which is cursing him. Once a misunderstanding arises, your relationship will naturally be affected.
My friend Xiao Min once suffered such a loss. For a while, her mother-in-law came to her house to help take care of the children. Seeing that her mother-in-law was not very easy to cook, she gave her a set of more expensive and better kitchen utensils as a gift.
But my mother-in-law mistakenly thought that she was treated as a nanny. Could it be that she still wanted to do it for the rest of her life?
The mother-in-law thought she was a guest and it was just a love affair to help, but Xiao Min gave her kitchen utensils as gifts. Of course, she would misunderstand that this was the loss she suffered if she was not considering it carefully.
There are actually many tricks in human relationships, especially when it comes to giving gifts. If the problem is not comprehensive enough, it will be counterproductive if you are not careful.
Your original intention is to express your feelings and to enhance or deepen your relationship. If you misunderstand the other party because of giving the wrong gift, it will be more than worth the loss.
I hope each of us can be a person with high emotional intelligence. Think more about everything and be more attentive, so as not to let yourself suffer in vain because you don’t understand the world.
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