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Men and women have two different thinking patterns, so without any relationship, you can go to the end without running-in. Whether it is a lover or a couple, there will inevitably be quarrels, but the key is not the quarrel itself, but the attitude of the two parties to resolve the matter after the quarrel.
If both parties have bad tempers and no one is willing to bow their heads, then this relationship will sooner or later not be able to persist.
There are many couples in life, and they are separated because no one takes the initiative to bow their heads first. The Cold War is to calm both sides. If it becomes an escape, the fate will be over.
After a man and a woman break off contact, who will not be able to resist contacting each other first? In fact, the answer is nothing more than one, that is: whoever loves more will contact you first.
The person you contacted first may not be really wrong, but you must be really afraid of losing it.
1: The party who loves more will contact you first, because he is more afraid of losing
Xiaosheng and Xiao Qian are a couple who have been in love for more than two years. In the past two years, quarrels of all sizes have not ended.
For example, when it comes to cooking, Xiaosheng believes that scrambled eggs with tomatoes should be added with salt, while Xiao Qian believes that sugar should be added. After a big fight, the two of them had a cold war. Xiao Qian slammed the door and went out of her friend's house, but she didn't come back all night.
finally compromised. He told Xiao Qian:
"Not all differences are only wins and losses. Some differences can coexist, but if you want to win, I will give in to you. In the future, scrambled eggs with tomatoes, I will put whatever you say, and I will listen to you."
Xiao Qian is in love, and it is obvious that he is more afraid of losing, and he is also a party who gives more, so after he breaks off the connection with Xiao Qian, he will take the initiative to bow his head to seek peace.
The parties who give more in their relationship will always take the initiative because it is difficult for them to treat a new relationship like they do in this relationship.
2: The person who needs the other party more will temporarily give up his sternness and take the initiative to ask for peace with the other party
The same experience also happened to Xiaomei and her boyfriend Xiaogang.
They have been in love for many years, and Xiaomei has been so coquettish that she cannot stand on her own. Once, Xiaomei and Xiaogang quarreled, and Xiaogang slammed the door and left. They had a cold war for a few days. Suddenly one night, the house fell into darkness.
Xiaomei was so scared that she cried in the corner. She originally wanted to neglect Xiaogang, but in the end she had to call Xiaogang unyieldingly. Xiaogang heard Xiaomei's crying and rushed back quickly. Finally, he realized that he had not paid the electricity bill, but Xiaomei didn't even know where the electric card was placed.
As long as Xiaogang is at home, he is responsible for doing housework and cooking. A few days after he left home, Xiaomei only ate takeout for a few days. Xiaomei cried and called Xiaogang back, which also made Xiaomei realize that she really needed Xiaogang.
In love, one of the other party needs even more. It is inevitable that one of the other party will take the initiative to contact the other party after the connection is broken. Because the other party has arranged his life in an orderly manner, he will have a mess after breaking off the connection.
If you want to be needed, you have to create value. Therefore, if you love someone and want her to be unable to live without you, you have to refresh your presence and need in her life.
It is said that women must grasp the man's stomach before men will go home often. This sentence also indirectly shows that in relationships, the party who is in need enjoys more initiative.
3: Love someone even more, you will have dignity. Don’t consume the other person’s love at will. There is no doubt that the person who loves the other person more and is more afraid of losing the other person will take the initiative to contact him after the connection is broken. But this is just because he still loves, so he is willing to make such a sacrifice. What if one day his love is exhausted and no longer loves it?
may really come to an end with each other.
Friendship should be a two-way rush, not a lot of effort, and keep giving.Although they will contact each other first when they are disconnected, they will be tired if they are too many times.
In the relationship between adults, the one who gives more must know that if they give more, they will easily be held back, but they are willing to do so. So the beloved party really should cherish this willingness.
Otherwise, one day, he will feel chilled and you will never be warmed up again.
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