As long as it is a normal person with seven emotions and six desires , they have emotional needs for the opposite sex, and they need a loved one to accompany you for the rest of your life! Look at our ancestors, they got married at the age of eighteen or nineteen, and now, more and more young people are still not showing signs of getting married after they are over thirty years old. Why is this? Is it that people have changed? Or has things changed?
The era in which our ancestors lived was lagging behind in social development, material culture was extremely poor, unable to eat enough, and not warm in clothing. Many people had never been to school, were illiterate, and had no culture. Feudal ideas were full of minds. They only knew that "men should get married when they were old, and women should get married when they were old." When men reached the age of marriage, they found a wife to live. When women arrived at the wedding, they found a man to marry. They married chickens and dogs, and as for whether they loved each other or not, they rarely mentioned it. They only know that getting married is to accomplish one's own thoughts, with the purpose of having children and passing on the family line.
Let’s look at the era we are in. The society is developing rapidly, the material is extremely rich, good food and good clothes are good, this one is not delicious, feed the dog; that one is outdated, give it to others! Let’s look at the cultural level of young people. Nowadays, college students have high cultural levels, including undergraduates, graduate students, masters, and doctoral students. There are many people who go abroad to further their studies. The worst is that they graduate from junior high school. They are knowledgeable, educated, knowledgeable, and have a good understanding of life. When dealing with their own marriage, love is first and meticulous, have their own view of love and marriage, do not blindly follow, do not seek complimentary, do not be wronged, rather be generous, rather wait, and not hurry...!
and even at the age of thirty, he is still a golden boy and a jade girl, and he is single! Are they not in a hurry? Don't panic? They risked the huge risk of "old man, old virgin" and would rather live a lover's life than blindly get into the marriage hall! Why? In order to find a happy and fulfilling destination for your life! This is the contemporary youth! Compared with our ancestors, it is no longer the same.
Therefore, the times have created the environment, and the environment subtly influences and limits people's conscious and cultural forms, and the conscious and cultural forms lead people's thoughts and behaviors! The ancestors determined the poor environment at that time. The poor environment subtly decided and restricted people's awareness of poverty and culture. It was reflected in marriage. It was ideological confinement, marrying chickens and following chickens, marrying dogs and following dogs, giving birth to children, and passing on the family line!
In our era, the rapid development of society has created a prosperous and prosperous environment. The prosperous environment determines people's awareness and culture of pursuing happiness. It is reflected in marriage relationships that are open-minded, have their own standards for choosing a spouse, do not settle for it, do not blindly follow, do not arbitrarily, and do not be wronged. The current high divorce rate just reflects people from the side that they would rather divorce than be wronged in their own mental characteristics!
Therefore, the phenomenon of age in modern society is not the change of people, but the product of the times. Since it exists, it has its rationality! We must not distort it or look down on it, but we must use a positive marriage value to clear and advocate it! Change customs and subtly, only in this way can the special group of "older" slowly change and disappear slowly!
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