Wen | Wen'er says that children are the crystallization of love between husband and wife. After having children, they will develop more friendships. Then in reality, children are the biggest challenge to the relationship between husband and wife. Most of them are that after the c

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Everyone says that children are the crystallization of love between husband and wife. After having children, they will develop more friendships.

Then in reality, children are the biggest challenge to the relationship between husband and wife. Most of them are that after the child is born, the quarrels between husband and wife become more and more cold wars. Gradually, the two cannot survive and finally the divorce ends. In fact, any couple who has not been long has traces to follow. When some signs appear, it is found that timely remedies can save the marriage. Once they are left alone, their marriage will be in danger. After having children, it is dangerous to see that the couple will not live for a long time.

The wife buys things for the child, but the man always thinks that his wife spends money and makes a big fuss

The child is really The gold swallowing beast . After having a child, he has to buy everything. As a mother, she is either on the way to shopping or on the way to get express delivery. Every corner of the house is filled with children's things.

After having a child, the mother also feels pressured. She knows that the money has to be spent on the edge. Since she buys, all the things she buys are necessities, and many mothers earn their own income. However, many men always buy things when they see their wives, and always say that they are not easy for them, and dislike their wives for spending money.

However, many men do not earn much salary, and they do not pay their wages. They do not care about their children's money or effort. My wife even dislikes something when she spends money to buy something. I quarrel with my wife every day because of these trivial matters. Living with such a man will be very tired and suffering every day.

There are many places for children to spend money. If they are not a family with good conditions, they must spend money on the edge. The party who cares about the money should not be too generous, but should be careful. The party who makes money should work harder. It is OK to save money, but it should be more important to increase revenue.

each handles their own affairs, and the two have no communication except children

Many couples seem to become roommates living together after having children. The two go out early and come back late, and can't say a few words. Especially many men, after their wives have given birth, they don’t know whether their nature is exposed or they don’t want to be attentive.

There will be no surprises or romance again, and there will be no surprises on any festival. I go out early and come back late, go to work during the day, play with my mobile phone when I get home, and don’t say a word unless necessary, and the occasional communication revolves around the children. Many wives slowly give up in their attitudes with men, without hope for men, and can only focus on their children.

So the couple is like roommates living together at home, each in charge of their own, and without any intimacy and tacit understanding between husband and wife. This family atmosphere is too suffocating, and the two of them will only become more and more distant, and they will not be able to survive when they can't hold on.

The wife and her mother had a dispute. Men should not pretend to be deaf and dumb, or they should not have children with their mother-in-law. After they have children, most mothers should live with their mother-in-law to take care of their children. However, the two generations do not mention the differences in their respective living habits, but there are many conflicts in the intergenerational parenting. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lived under the same roof for a long time, and conflicts broke out.

And there is a man who is clear-headed and can act as a lubricant between his wife and mother, effectively reducing family conflicts.

However, when many men see their wives and mothers in conflict, they either pretend to be deaf and dumb, or they are united with their mothers and are unanimous in the front, resulting in their wives being isolated and helpless. This time, I feel disappointed.

[Topic Discussion: Do you have these signs in your family after having children? 】

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