Marriage is an art, and how to please a person is also an art. Some people say that it is a bit too humble to use the word "pleasing" in marriage, but in interpersonal relationships, pleasure is everywhere, but sometimes it is deep and sometimes it is shallow.
Bai Yang said that he once said: "For the sake of the continuation of love and the happiness of marriage, the wife must please her husband, and the husband must also please her. As for how to please it, it is a high-level art."
Therefore, in a feeling filled with emotion in marriage, pleasure will definitely exist and must exist, and the key lies in what way the parties will use to please.
In order to please her husband, this woman spent a whole three years studying men and came to a conclusion
I remember my friend in college. She was still a carefree girl who was plain and wearing sportswear all day long. She didn't like to dress herself up delicately because she felt that it was too troublesome and not as comfortable and free as she was.
But after many years, when I saw her again, there was another scene: exquisite makeup, a big wave of charm, and I was wearing decent but charming clothes.
When I sat there, I saw an harvester with the opposite sex attention. I couldn't imagine going with the tomboy before.
was surprised and asked about her recent situation. Only then did I know that her husband and she still maintained the style of college. The cost of cosmetics and clothes was minimal, as long as she lived comfortably.
But slowly, her husband's attitude began to change. She always disliked her not to dress up and could not give herself a face when she took it out. She also said that other people's wives were dressed up beautifully, but she was not decent.
At that time, she didn't know what to do, but only knew to please, for example, buy valuable clothes for the other party and be stingy with herself; for example, take care of all the housework and prevent the other party from interfering, and such pleasing and pleasing would take three years to do it.
During this period, she thought her husband's attitude towards her could change, but the result became worse.
It was not until once when her husband cursed at her again and looked disgusted that she realized that the pleasure she had in the past few years was just deceiving herself.
So, she began to be willing to spend money for herself, without cosmetics, and buying clothes. She used to be reluctant to spend money for herself, but now she has spent all of it back and no longer puts all her thoughts on her husband.
Strangely, when she began to stop pleasing her husband, the other party's attitude became cautious, began to buy good things for herself, and started to do housework, and the readers' mentality became more and more relaxed at this time.
So, she understood that people cannot be too kind to him, as being too kind will be unscrupulous. In marriage, it is better to learn to please yourself than to please a man.
When you only know how to please your partner and forget yourself, you are destined to be defeated
In the TV series " Legend of Qingqiu Fox ", Mrs. Hong obeys her husband and agrees to her every condition, but in the end, the other party always puts her mind on her concubine, not considering the feelings of her original wife at all.
Later, under the guidance of others, Mrs. Hong began to do her own thing instead of caring about the other person wholeheartedly. At this time, at least Mr. Hong, who was ignoring his wife , began to approach his wife from time to time, care about her and get close to her.
People are very strange. They will not cherish what they get easily, and they will regret what they cannot get or lose it almost. This is true for love and marriage.
In marriage, you need to please the other person, but if you only know how to love others and forget to love yourself, you will find that you lost miserably in this relationship.
When you lose yourself because you put all your thoughts on the other person and you have given the other person a chance to hurt you, because how can a person who doesn’t even love you get the love of others?
Only when women please themselves can they get the happiness they want
Marriage is like a balance, when you put all your focus in one place. Then it is destined to become an imbalance of one strong and one weak.
There is an Matthew effect in psychology, meaning that the strong will only be stronger, and the weak will only be weaker. In marriage, when your humility and flattery have formed this situation, the ending will not change any way because of your pleasure.
Charlotte Brontë said this in "Jane Eyre": "Love is a game. You must always be incompatible with the other party and be evenly matched in order to rely on each other for a long time. Because an opponent who is too strong makes people tired, and an opponent who is too weak makes people tired."
When you rush to chase a horse in , you can't catch up no matter how hard you try.
At this time, you might as well stop and start planting flowers and grass.
When the grass grows and the warblers fly next year, you will find that the horse that was unable to catch up before will be standing still, and it will come to you.
Therefore, only by pleasing themselves can women get the happiness they want.
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