I have been guilty for 19 years. I have tried many methods. I have quit countless times but failed to quit. My life, work, and family are in a mess.
Since I accidentally came into contact with traditional culture and the culture of abstinence on July 26, 2011, it was like seeing the dawn in the night sky. I honestly implemented it according to the methods of my predecessors, and I have not committed any more yet.
can actually travel to more than 200 days at one time. This is something I couldn't believe at the time. Now I will review the more than 200 days I have traveled, hoping to help newcomers later.
I first carefully read all the essential articles recommended to newcomers. Among them, "The Root Causes of Injurying the Body, Defeating Morality, and Reducing Life" was shocked to me. When I saw Dr. Peng Xin talking about the semen and brain marrow components approaching this part, I was shocked and determined to quit traitors.
I completely deleted all the bad content on my computer, read the essence articles when I have time, and started exercising for half an hour after getting up in the morning, and spent many days peacefully.
When I persisted for 1 week, I had nocturnal emission. In my dream, I was very beastly, so I fasted for one day as a punishment. However, that day was also the quietest and peaceful day, and I had no desire at all.
I continued to read the article and got a lot of inspiration, especially the key to success is to reshape life rather than to abstain from sex.
On the 10th day, I suddenly woke up from my dream at 3:30 in the middle of the night and felt so anxious that I couldn't help it, so I didn't dare to continue in bed.
stood up and sat quietly for half an hour, and still had the desire to read e-books (that is the recommended article, which was downloaded to the phone at that time). I saw that it was almost five o'clock and fell asleep again. It was so dangerous!
waking up early and woke up. When you have a strong desire, you quickly get up and wash your face and then stand . Only after you have stood up will your state calm down.
In the first month, there were many dangerous situations of waking up in the middle of the night. The test was very great. I never lie in bed and I knew I couldn't bear it. I always found something for myself to do to divert my attention.
The first month is the most difficult. I have tried almost all the methods of my predecessors, including standing, meditation, Impurity observation, and exercise, Among them, filial piety is the most useful, and can eliminate all desires in one go.
Until later, after quitting for 21 days, I woke up again in the middle of the night, struggled slightly and walked through (I ignored him when the desire came, followed him, just controlled it and slept sideways, put my hand outside my quilt) and continued to sleep again. I made more progress, unlike the previous two or three days when I woke up at 3:30 in the middle of the night and scared me to sit quietly for half an hour to calm down.
1 For the first 60 days, I made an exercise plan for myself, standing for half an hour every morning, sitting quietly for half an hour before going to bed at night, practicing wall squatting exercises for 3 more times a day until I have enough 200.
At the same time, I read the book every day, read the "Rules for Disciples" in the morning and evening, and listen to the "Lecture on Happy Life" every day without interruption. I understand in my heart that what I can get to this day depends on my full implementation of these measures. Without my own implementation, I will definitely break the precepts.
Once a person has filial piety, he will find the key.
Before this, it was based on the association of meditation, standing, and impurity. Reading good articles about abstaining from sex is indeed effective, but they are all just temporary suppression.
Only when filial piety is opened, knowing how to be grateful to parents, knowing how to "what your relatives like, strength is harbored" and "what your body hurts your relatives, and virtue hurts your relatives shy" will remove the firewood from the bottom of the pot and fundamentally solve the problem.
I started writing a diary on the 21st day before I really got on the right track. In addition to my experiences, it is divided into 5 major parts:
1. Health exercise;
2. Learn to read;
3. Do a good job every day;
4. Work and rest rules;
5. Be grateful.These five items are also five keys to success, which are equivalent to the five levels of defense of success. It is precisely because of the serious implementation of these five items that I have never broken the precepts.
Listen to an episode of "Happy Life Lecture" every day, which is the easiest and most important way to learn Chinese traditional culture. I have listened to it 5 times in the past five months and have gained a lot.
The purpose of learning is to lay the foundation of our virtue - filial piety. Once filial piety is opened, it will be easy to solve the problem from the root.
Because filial piety brings gratitude, gratitude brings compassion and repentance brings responsibility, and responsibility brings enterprising.
After a month, as many predecessors said, it is indeed a dangerous period from 30 to 35 days. There will be a strong counterattack in my heart. During this period, you must earnestly implement the 5 measures in the diary, and at the same time, you can spend more time on your parents to be safe.
It was indeed a little shaken during this period, but if I were to return to the past and live in inferiority, self-blame and regret, it would be even more terrifying. Besides, my parents around me during this period, wouldn’t my wife be very sure of my performance and condition?
My own state is also very fulfilling and happy. The feeling of joy and satisfaction from the heart is the low-level and perverted pleasure brought by desire that is completely incomparable!
I just came here.
After being influenced by "Lecture on Happy Life", I watched the movies "The Four Lessons of Life" and "The Biography of Confucius" and were inspired.
Recalling the first month, the main motivation was to be afraid. If you have enough self-abuse, you will be afraid and don’t want to look back on the days of the past;
On the other hand, you are humble learning experience. In the first 100 days, you often feel very guilty, and you feel sorry for your parents and your wife and children, and you are extremely ashamed.
I don’t know how far my bright road can go, but I have been persisting for 40 days. My own changes are good, and the visible pattern is also good. We must insist on consolidating it.
Later, I reflected on the actual situation of the day, exercised for 2 hours, ate for 2·5 hours, slept for 7 hours, 1.5 hours of dazed and thoughtful, worked for 5 hours, read for 1 hour, and wasted time on the Internet (online was only qq farm and Taobao websites). After counting
, I realized how much time I wasted. I found that I wasted an hour on the QQ farm every day, which was not helpful to my future life at all, so I completely quit mini games such as QQ farm.
50 days summary:
Finally finished 157 wall squatting exercises, and once again panting, sweat flowing all over my body, but my mood is no longer as bored as before.
Although I am very tired every time I do the wall squatting work, every time I finish it, I tell myself that I can even overcome such difficult exercises. Can’t I overcome a small bad habit today?
Since you have decided to say goodbye to the past, what can you nostalgia?
It has made me lose my precious, countless time, energy, health, dreams and confidence.
I have lost so much, can I still turn around and follow that dirty old path?
Countless facts tell me that it is a dead end!
I repent from the bottom of my heart, and I am sorry to my parents, and I am sorry to my wife and children.
I feel extremely guilty when I think of them.
I must quit sex seriously, work hard, and bring them a beautiful and stable life.
Two-month summary:
The reason why I can persist for 60 days this time is that I regard these exercises every day as a guarantee for my persistence.
I don’t believe in my willpower. After all, I have been rude for nearly 20 years. Before I came into contact with traditional culture and the culture of abstinence, I have made up my mind to quit countless times in the past 20 years but have never succeeded. This time I can persist for 60 days. It is my highest record in the past 10 years.
The reason why I can persevere is because of my persistence in training. Without the practice of standing, meditation, and squatting on the wall every day, reading the "Rules of Disciples" and "Tao Te Ching", and reading the implementation and persistence of projects such as Good Books, you will never be able to stick to it for so long.
The body is exercised on the surface, but in fact, it is still the willpower that is exercised. It transforms the test of desire into a test of exercise. This is the core of my 60 days.
stage 2:
60 days later, the core is to improve one's own cultivation and continue to get rid of all kinds of bad habits in one's own body.
What we talk about here is actually about self-cultivation. I start from three aspects:
(a) Change the old life habits (get rid of it from staying up late to play games and watching TV to go to bed early and get up early to read books and do good deeds, the method is to self-supervise in the diary),
(b) Change your outlook on life (changing from selfishness to giving and repaying kindness, the method is to continue to read more books, do good deeds, and recite "The Rules of Disciples" and "The Four Lessons of the World" every day),
(c) Change your future (changing from living a life of slutty to clarifying your goals every day for the future, the focus is on implementation, the method is to implement the Law of Attraction ).
(d) In addition, it is necessary to transform personality defects (from laziness, procrastination, contentment in the status quo, no ambition, impetuousness, more imagination, less practical work to courage to take responsibility, do more and say less, have a beginning and an end, strive for progress, etc. The method is to read good books, say good words, do good things, and think about others everywhere).
Learn a very useful trick:
When anything good happens, remind yourself: quitting bad habits is good luck;
If you encounter unlucky things, also remind yourself: these are all caused by the depravity in the past, you must quit them completely.
Cleansing oneself and loves good luck, indulging in desires and depravity to lose blessings.
This is not only clearly recorded in many good deeds, but also based on my own past experience. In the past, I would definitely have unlucky things happen the next day if I had to slander myself.
At that time, he would only blame others and be incompetent and furious.
Now that I know the reason, I want to correct my mistakes and never make any more mistakes in the future. I will stand at attention when I am beaten.
After discovering the error, you dare to face your own mistakes and dare to bear the errors. Only in this way can you correct the errors and eliminate such errors in the future.
instead of choosing to be a coward who only knows how to escape, clown!
Not only will family members and outsiders look down on you, but you will look down on yourself!
I wish everyone can wake up early, correct their mistakes, and usher in a better life!
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