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My name is Lanlan, I am 28 years old this year. Today is the second day my husband Aqing and I got married. In the morning, he told me that he borrowed the wedding gift, the money for drinking, and the house decoration money, and he still owed 350,000 yuan.
I was shocked and asked quickly, "What do you mean? Don't your parents pay a penny?"
A Qing was silent...
A Qing and I are college classmates, in different classes at the same level. We met on the train to the school. Because we were fellow villagers from the same county town, we soon became WeChat friends and got together after a while.
Before getting married, my parents asked for a 150,000 yuan bride gift and brought it all back on the day of the wedding. The wedding house was the down payment from my parents. Aqing and their family said that it was the house decoration payment, and the names of the two people were written on the house book.
But unexpectedly, as soon as he entered the door, Aqing threw out a lot of debts.
It turned out that my parents-in-law felt that it would be great to train Aqing to grow up and support him in college.
The remaining money they need to be left to Aqing's younger brother Alai.
There is no way. In order to be with me, Aqing paid the down payment, so after our family paid the down payment, he borrowed money from me to borrow money, handled wine, and decorated the wedding house.
That's it, I was inexplicably burdened with debt just now when I got married.
In order to repay the debt as soon as possible, I took out the bride price and worked hard to find work. Work during the day and work part-time at night. In order to earn more extra money, Aqing went to work as a rider to deliver food after get off work.
Facing these IOUs, we gritted our teeth and struggled to support them.
I thought that at the speed of our making money, we could pay off our debts within two years. Unexpectedly, I found out that I was pregnant.
I sighed in my heart: "This child is really the wrong time. We still owe so much money, so how can we have the money to raise children."
Looking at the pile of bills, I was going to have an abortion.
However, the doctor said that my uterine wall was very thin. If this fetus was aborted, the chance of getting pregnant in the future was not high. When I heard this, I couldn't bear it.
A Qing scolded me for a long time after knowing it, saying that there was no need for children to make money. I felt very aggrieved: "Isn't it just to pay off the debt early?"
He hugged me after hearing this, but tears couldn't help but drop on my hands.
I had a very strong reaction during pregnancy. I couldn’t do part-time jobs, so I could only continue to work until the day of delivery.
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After I gave birth to my son, my mother-in-law didn't say a word of greeting. I saw it once and it was my mother who was taking care of me during confinement.
I also complained about Ah Qing, but he said, "My parents-in-law said that he has fulfilled his obligations in Panda, so don't count on them for the rest."
After all, he was still in college and Ah Lai went to a technical school, but he couldn't find a better job, so he could only do odd jobs and earn some money.
There was no way, so I had to quit my job and take care of my children at home. I only rely on Aqing to make money alone, and our lives are even more difficult.
The salary is almost nothing left after paying off debts every month.
My mother had to secretly help us from time to time.
When I was worried about debt, news came from my husband's family that he could get two houses and one million yuan according to the policy.
I was secretly happy: "The hard days are coming soon. No matter the money or the house, my in-laws should also give Aqing one, right?"
So we both silently planned the next plan in our hearts.
can plan to keep up with changes, and our in-laws' operations made us stunned.
That day, I received a call from my parents-in-law, saying that they had discussed it because Aqing had a high education, so it was easier to find money, and he already had a house. My parents-in-law decided to give Alai one house and live in another one by himself.
As for the 1 million cash, the parents-in-law left 500,000 yuan to support the elderly, and gave the other 500,000 yuan to Alai as a bride gift and living expenses for marriage in the future. They were afraid that we would have ideas, so they told us.
I was speechless. This in-laws are so biased, right? As a son, if he has the ability, he will give nothing, and if he has the ability, he can obtain all his parents' property. Where does this come from?
I asked Aqing to ask the parents why, but he was silent for a long time. It took him a long time to slowly say: "I'm used to it. From childhood to adulthood, I have to give it to my younger brother. The reason is that you are the older brother, and the older ones should give it to the younger ones."
In Aqing's memory, before the age of 6, the younger brother was not born, and his parents were very kind to him. As long as Aqing wants to eat and play, his parents will try their best to find ways to satisfy him.
But after my mother became pregnant, the family changed their attitude. Every time my mother said to him, "After my younger brother is born, you should be good to my younger brother. Let him use it first and play it first."
and began to ask him to do various things, saying that he would be familiar with it first. When my younger brother is born, his parents are not free, so the task of taking care of his younger brother will be handed over to him.
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As soon as my younger brother was born, my parents gave all my love to my younger brother, and Aqing's status plummeted.
Aqing takes care of his younger brother at home every day, feeds his younger brother, washes his younger brother's diapers, and coaxes his younger brother to sleep. He can't let his younger brother eat or touch him.
Once, because I was not careful, my brother fell off the chair and got a bag on his head. My mother saw it, and she didn't ask the reason or listened to the explanation. She slapped him twice, and half of her face was swollen.
And the mother only knows how old she is to coax her younger brother, and she ignores him completely.
Later, he went to school, and his parents asked him to coax his younger brother first before he could eat and do his homework. So he is often late and scolded by the teacher. He dares not say anything, let alone tell his parents because he is afraid that they will scold him again.
Later, as soon as my brother cried, he would be scolded. It was his turn to have delicious food at home. Sometimes when grandma sees it, she will blame her mother: "Don't treat Aqing like this, he is our lucky star."
However, the mother didn't listen at all, and cursed: "What lucky star? If it weren't for him, I could have another child of my own."
Grandma just shook her head and sighed.
Later, my younger brother went to school. Because he was too spoiled, he often caused trouble and was always called parents. Every time the parents were called, their parents would come back and scold Aqing, saying that he had not brought his younger brother well and was not careful in tutoring his younger brother's homework, and he deliberately did not let his younger brother have a good time.
Later, Aqing was admitted to high school, and his parents told him not to study and went out to work to subsidize his family income. He said that he would still have to work after entering university in the future. It would be better to earn more money now.
But Aqing knows that only reading can lead to a way out. He had to beg his parents to let him finish high school, and promised that if he went to college, he would be responsible for the money for his younger brother's school in the future, and would not ask for money from his family for everything else, nor would he compete with his younger brother for the family's property.
After hearing his promise, his parents agreed that he went to high school. All colleges were completed by student loans and scholarships, and they did not use a penny at home.
"So I have to fulfill my promise and cannot divide the property in the family. You ask me to ask my parents how I can say it."
After listening to Aqing's story, he saw him holding his head, and his face had not yet come back from the painful memories. I didn't say anything, but just hugged Aqing's head tightly, feeling sorry for him being born in such a family.
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When the child was two years old, Alai got married. His girlfriend was an only child, she had no fixed career, and was a classmate of Alai Technical School. My parents also worked outside for many years.
In order to make their daughter feel safe, they asked their husband-in-law to pay a 200,000 yuan bride price, buy a house in the county and write their daughter's name.
I still feel a little uncomfortable when I know the news. It’s the same son getting married, why is the difference so big?
When the parents-in-law heard this, they began to disagree. Alai said, "If you don't agree, then I will become a servant (son-in-law), anyway, you still have my brother."
said, but the in-laws frightened and had to agree to Alai's request.
On the wedding day, the 200,000 yuan bride price was taken over, and Alai's parents-in-law sent two quilts, saying that the money was collected for his daughter first. Young people like to spend money randomly and take it out if they need to use it in a hurry.
In-laws were so angry that they almost started making a fuss at the wedding.
After getting married, my parents-in-law thought it was done.
Who knew, Ah said, "I want to start a business by myself, and I plan to open a restaurant with my friends, and ask my parents-in-law to give him 500,000 yuan to invest in him."
Aqing asked Ah Lai if this friend is reliable? Now during the epidemic, physical stores are not doing well, so he asked him to do a good job in market research and then invest money.
Alai retorted: "Brother, are you afraid that I will get rich and you will feel unbalanced?"
In-laws also said: "Your brother has finally done something, why don't you hope him to order it? He has this determination, and we should support him. You don't have to pay for it, what are you worried about?"
I told Aqing not to worry about it. Aqing sighed: "I'm afraid that the 500,000 given by my parents will be wasted."
After the restaurant opened, the business was still very good. The in-laws were very happy and praised the youngest son for his promising love.
But I didn’t expect that something happened in the restaurant not long after.
I heard that the employee was not paying attention, and the oil pan caught fire and an accident occurred. The fire department asked the fire department to suspend business and rectify the firefighting facilities and then open the business after the firefighting facilities are improved.
Naturally, the restaurant had to suspend business. Looking at the closure notice, Alai was at a loss and just stood there with a sad face.
On the third day of the restaurant rectification, Alai called his partner, but found that his phone was turned off. Later, when I asked, I was told that the man had taken away the remaining money and fled.
When we rushed over, my mother-in-law was rushing to death, and she was in pain. When she saw us, she immediately grabbed Aqing's hand and cried: "You must make the decision for your brother and find a way to get that person back. My 500,000 yuan is my pension money."
Although we called the police, there was no news for a long time.
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Because the restaurant legal person wrote about Alai, the fire brigade required them to improve all fire protection facilities within two months.
Alai had spent all his money, so he had to come to find his parents-in-law again, hoping to raise money to buy materials for firefighting facilities. The in-laws had no choice but to take out the last 100,000 yuan for Alai.
It can be said that the in-laws' bias towards Alai has no bottom line.
After the child was three years old, I sent him to kindergarten, found a sales job, and gave my mother 2,000 yuan a month, asking her to help me pick up and drop off the child.
At the beginning, it was very difficult. Fortunately, I twisted my strength and forced myself into a desperate Sanniang. Finally, my salary tripled a year later, and I also received a commission. I paid off all my debts and also took out a scooter.
Life finally got on track, Aqing's work was recognized by the leaders and was promoted to the department's financial director.
Just as I was hoping that life would get better, something happened to Alai again. His wife and he were having a divorce and wanted to divide his house.
It turns out that Alai's wife is pregnant. Since both of them are not at work, it is not enough for the family to have that little income by relying on her parents-in-law to have.
Alai's wife wanted to eat durian and so on because she was pregnant, so she ate takeout every day at home. Her parents-in-law couldn't stand it, so she said a few words to her and she vented her anger. To be honest, he is a coward, a mama boy, and he can't even afford to raise his wife and children.
Other pregnant women eat whatever they want, and they are disliked by their in-laws when eating something at home.
So many things happened. Alai was angry and was scolded by his wife, so he started a big quarrel with his wife, and the whole family became a mess.
Alai was in a bad mood and ran out to play cards with his friends to relax, but lost all the 100,000 yuan given by his parents-in-law and owed 200,000 yuan.
When his wife heard the news, she had a miscarriage on the spot.
Alai's parents-in-law quit and took their daughter home directly and asked her to divorce. I'm not at ease to live with such a man. She also said that she would share half of the house.
Because it was Alai, it caused a miscarriage, which caused harm to her daughter's physical health. Alai should compensate her for her mental loss of 50,000 yuan, otherwise they would sue.
The father-in-law was so angry that he couldn't speak on the spot, while his mother-in-law had an hypertension and attack on the spot and fainted. It was a blessing that he was sent to the hospital as soon as possible.
When Aqing and I heard this news, we rushed to the hospital immediately. When my mother-in-law saw us, she seemed to have caught a life-saving straw and said, "Aqing, we can only rely on you now."
Aqing did not respond and said in silence for a minute: "Mom and Dad, how do you rely on us? From childhood to adulthood, have you been partial to your younger brother?"
Mother-in-law said, "We want to move in with you, sell your younger brother's house to pay off the gambling debts. We rent this house, we have to rent it for your younger brother to make a living, and then you can support us in the old age."
After saying that, she looked at Aqing with a pleading eye.
Aqing held back his anger and said coldly: "You gave all the property in your family to my younger brother. I paid for my younger brother's study. I fulfilled my promise back then.
I got married, gave birth to a child, and bought a house with Lanlan. It was so difficult. You haven't taken care of us a little. Now we are just right, but you want me to support you. Why do you have the nerve to speak?"
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"I also want to know why you are the same son. Since the birth of my younger brother, you have given him all your love.
indulged him into what he is today. To the point. As the saying goes, a loving mother loses her son. Why is it so outrageous? "
Alai's aggressive words made her in-laws think. Finally, the man said publicly, let me say:
"You are not our biological child, you are adopted by us.
My mother and I have been married for 6 years and have no children. Someone told me that I asked me to hug one, and maybe a miracle will happen.
So I entrusted my friend in the hospital to help me pay attention. Unexpectedly, a female college student happened to be pregnant. The university stipulates that pregnant students cannot continue So her mother asked her to give birth to someone quietly.
My friend brought you to me and I named you Aqing to celebrate your arrival in our house. What's even more gratifying is that you came to our house for five years and your mother got pregnant. My younger brother called Alai, which means that he was brought by you.
So your grandmother said you are the lucky star of our family.
But you know that people are selfish. After your brother was born, we naturally tend to be our own flesh and blood.
In addition, we also want to have another child of our own, but according to the family planning policy, we already have two , no longer rebirth, so naturally give all the love to Alai.
We are all ordinary people, not saints, it is not wrong to favor our own children?
At the same time, seeing you also reminds us of the years when others have no children, we hope you don’t hate us, because we don’t lose you anymore.
Alai is the only seedling of our family, the root left by my mother and you, and after all, you have no blood relationship with us, so naturally you cannot get property.
Everyone says that raising grace is greater than raising grace. We support you, even if we don’t have feelings, there will be grace? Should you be the time to repay your kindness? ”
After my father-in-law said that, he looked at Aqing with majestic eyes.
At this point, I finally understood what my parents-in-law did.
Aqing was motionless, not as angry as I imagined, nor as crying from others' heads. It was just a long silence. Maybe he had guessed everything long ago.
Finally, Alai divorced, sold his house, paid off his gambling debt, and gave his wife 50,000 yuan.
Aqing told his in-laws that we did not agree to them coming to live. He would give them 1,000 yuan in retirement money every month.
is considered to repay their raising grace. As for in his heart, the words "parents" and relatives are forgot.
It is true that raising grace is greater than raising grace, but since you bring the child back, you should give him equal love, rather than let him become a stepping stone for another child, because this child is not wrong.
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