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Introduction:
Single elderly people want to find their own happiness in their later years in their later years. This is understandable. After all, every age group has the right to pursue love and a happy life. A 65-year-old man said: "I have my own standards for remarrying and finding a wife. Her age cannot be over 50 years old, otherwise I would not marry. I also have my own difficulties, but this is also my bottom line." What kind of thing has he experienced? Let's take a look at his story together.
Self-reporter: Mr. Hu 65 years old
I am 65 years old this year. When I was young, I worked in a state-owned enterprise unit. Because I had outstanding abilities at work, I became a department leader. When I retired, my monthly pension was about 7,000 yuan. Compared with my friends of the same age, this is relatively high. I also have great expectations for my later years.
But my emotional experience is not very good. My wife has been in poor health since she married me. Later, after treatment for a period of time, she still has no effect. In the end, she left because of serious illness. I have a daughter, and now she has started a family and has married in another place, so she usually lives alone.
Although I live a free life alone, I still feel lonely over time. I always want to find someone to chat with me. My life is so boring every day. Later, after getting my daughter's consent, I started to go on blind dates and find a wife. I thought it would be easy for me to find a wife based on my conditions, but later I found that the type I like doesn't seem to care much about me, and I don't like me, but I always feel a little disliked.
Later, while walking in the park, I met a single woman. She was 58 years old and a rural woman. When she was young, she didn’t have much job and was taking care of her son. Because we live in the community, I can see him often. We are the kind of people with common interests and hobbies. Both sides have many topics and we like each other, so our relationship quickly heats up and I think about living together.
At the beginning, I didn’t have the idea of getting a certificate, so I thought about living together first. So she moved to my house to live. It was pretty good at first. She also cooked for me and often traveled with me. Even though I felt that my life became fulfilled after being together, I still enjoyed this feeling very much, but I felt something was wrong with what happened later, and I felt strange to her in my heart.
After living for a month, she started asking me for living expenses, asking me to give her 4,000 yuan a month, and I often buy clothes for her, and I also have to buy toys for her grandson. I also have to travel with her every month, and all the expenses are expensed by me, and she is only responsible for enjoying them. After listening to them, I felt unhappy. Although I did not explicitly reject her, I wanted to ask my daughter for her opinion. After all, my daughter is the same as me.
After I told my daughter these things, my daughter said that such a woman cannot be wanted, she must be separated, she just wants my money. I thought about it carefully later. This woman really only valued my money, and did not really live with me. She just wanted to enjoy life, but didn't want to live a steady and stable life with me. So I must not want such a woman. Later, I took the initiative to break up with her. In this way, when she was reluctant, I finally left her. After I separated from
, I also thought about this matter carefully. I felt that I did not set my own standards at the beginning. If I looked for my wife according to my own standards, I might meet a more suitable other party. It was because I lacked understanding of her, so the conflicts continued to arise after being together, and eventually they were separated. So I felt that I should have my own standards and requirements.
I understand that women who have almost no job in life cannot be asked for. Our three views are inconsistent, we can’t talk together, and we always seek my money. I think I must find women under 50 years old when I look for a wife, and I must have my own job or a pension, preferably a daughter, which saves the cumbersome process of raising children. I think that the relationship between two people with similar conditions will last longer.
I was looking for my wife to look for her, but later there were so many blind dates, but none of them were suitable. They all said that my conditions were too harsh, but I didn't think so. I think only the wife I found according to the requirements was true love, so I felt that I would eventually meet my true love.
Today's topic:
In my opinion, it is a beautiful thing for the elderly to pursue their own happiness in their later years, but they cannot be too high, otherwise they will miss their own happiness due to the high conditions and frame. If the age gap is not very large, it depends on the relationship between the two. As long as the three views are consistent and the emotional foundation is good, then they will not be bad together.
Do you think the 65-year-old Mr. Hu’s request to find a wife is too much? Do you agree with him? Everyone is welcome to leave a message in the comment section below for discussion.
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