Daniu Busy Marriage Emotional Cases Series Keywords: Marriage, Lover, Divorce Article Length: 4800 words Original article, Plagiarism will be prosecuted, Can we not divorce first? Everyone goes through their own ways, try to calm down separately and not disturb each other. If you

Big Busy Marriage Emotional Cases Series

Keywords: Marriage, lover, divorce

Article length: 4800 words

Original article, plagiarism will be prosecuted

Can we not divorce first? Everyone goes through their own ways, try to calm down separately and not disturb each other. If you still think you can't get along with me in a year, you don't need to say more, I will divorce you on your own initiative...

The above article comes from a marriage case, a woman said to her husband. On the day the couple was about to divorce, she chose to calm down.

In her story, the couple's relationship took a sudden turn for the worse and they started a divorce.

The reason is that my husband once cheated on him and accompanied a divorced woman. Although he concealed it seamlessly, there is no airtight wall in the world . A few years later, she accidentally heard about this and was heartbroken.

My husband sincerely apologized: I swear I have only accompanied her 5 times, and she took the initiative to look for me. Later she remarried and never made an appointment with me again. I'm sorry for you. I didn't control myself at that time, but I only love you forever...

Although my husband confessed everything, there was a shadow in her heart. In just half a month, the couple developed to the point where they were in the same power.

During the quarrel, she vowed not to forgive and her husband did not want to continue to give in. One day, the couple fought and agreed to divorce.

But on the day of the divorce, she made a compromise with tears in her eyes. In order to save her family, she proposed not to divorce first and calm down...

Although she still said she was unforgivable, she said "calm", which was actually leaving a way out for each other.

Logically speaking, she has forgiven her husband. In this case, the probability of divorce between husband and wife is extremely low.

What makes people feel helpless is that couples have been separated for too long, love, hate, and love and hatred are difficult to calculate, and fate and separation cannot be arranged.

My husband really calmed down and asked her to apologize many times. But she didn't really calm down, but instead made an appointment with another man. Later she got pregnant and never wanted to live with her husband again...

1. In order to revenge, many people lost themselves

If you were this woman, can you forgive her husband's explanation at first? Forgiveness can be passed, if you don’t forgive, you will get divorced. Can you make a quick choice?

This is a heart-wrenching emotional problem that many people who have experienced it have experienced it. Anxiety, confusion, and even decadent.

is not involved in this kind of thing, everyone has an iron principle. Everyone will say something open and will never forgive. It’s easy to say something in one sentence.

But when I really encounter this kind of thing, I can’t tell my heavy mood no matter how many words I say.

In the face of all kinds of heart-wrenching negative emotions, many people will find that they are far less powerful. Not only can you not forgive me, but you can’t even make a decisive divorce. Apart from aimless quarrels, it is difficult to vent your emotions.

Even at the end, it is still difficult to convince yourself to make a decision that you don’t regret.

In the face of divorce, many people have similar psychological states. They cannot forgive that person but cannot bear to leave that home. In the midst of resentment and grievance, I didn't know what to do, and slowly turned myself into a bad temper.

Just like the above woman's marriage case, she could not forgive her husband and was reluctant to divorce him. She had no other way except to quarrel. She had to compromise on the day of the divorce, hoping to calm down on each other.

But later, she was reluctant to divorce but fell in love with another man. Deeply trapped in that relationship, she couldn't extricate herself. After she got pregnant, she no longer wanted to live with her husband...

From the perspective of psychological logic, emotional problems can also be divided into first and later.In a passive atmosphere, the subconscious mind tends to seek "activity".

This is similar to various "emotional compensation effects". Many people who have been disappointed by marriage and love will yearn for more care. In this way, I comfort my hurt heart and take revenge on the unfaithful person...

In the comfort and revenge, many people slowly lost themselves and made the opposite decision. After the divorce, a few people did find a better home, and most people regretted it...

2. The so-called happiness is just a good feeling for yourself

Next, I will tell you about this woman's marriage case. Just telling it in her tone, I will only narrate it truthfully, and briefly organize it to improve readability, and readers will understand it themselves.

Back then, I had a happy family of three. The couple has been in a harmonious relationship for more than 10 years after marriage, and I always feel that I am a happy woman.

We once planned to give birth to a second baby and upgrade to a family of four. But because of one thing, all plans and dreams are over.

suddenly realized that my marriage was just because I was not smart enough, I was kept in the dark and felt good about myself...

That day I accompanied several sisters to my friend's school entrance banquet. Everyone had a happy chat and had drunk too much. A sister just finished a fight with her husband and talked a lot after getting drunk.

She kept talking and started crying as she spoke, saying that her husband is just a life, does not care about others, and she likes to lose her temper...

Women get together to chat, and the negative emotions of marriage can easily resonate. They began to express their opinions, all complaining that their husbands were not good to them.

Some people say they suspect that there is a woman outside my husband, some people say that their husbands are far worse than other people's husbands, and some people say that they shouldn't marry him back then...

I advised them not to drink anymore, speak quietly, and make jokes when others hear it. They didn't listen and continued to complain.

I said: Your children are so old, live a good life. Every family has difficult sutras, and my husband often loses his temper with me. Isn’t this what happened in the past ten years? It is normal for couples to quarrel occasionally. I feel very happy and am ready to have a second child...

I comforted them out of kindness, but they hit me.

A sister said: Do you really feel happy? No one is a child anymore, don’t lie to yourself. Your husband had cheated on him and had pretended to be another woman in his heart. Maybe you don't know it yet...

She was so drunk that she couldn't even know what she was talking about. But this sentence aroused my alertness. I believed that I would speak the truth after drinking, and my drunkenness immediately disappeared.

I asked her repeatedly: What do you mean, can you explain it clearly?

She realized that she had said the wrong thing, changed her words and denied it, and just pretended that she didn't say anything. How can I say half of the truth about

? Seeing that I was so angry, she hesitated and told the truth. Let me first promise not to quarrel when I go home, and not to say that it was what she said...

3. I can't forgive me, and I can't bear to divorce

Seeing her in a dilemma, I was in a terrible mood. I looked at the sisters in a blink of an eye. Some of them were knocking on chopsticks, some were slapped on the table, and they all bowed their heads in silence. They should all know this secret.

I said: I promise, everything is something I know myself and has nothing to do with you.

The sister said: My husband and your husband are in the same unit and have heard of some things. Actually, it’s not a big deal, don’t worry...

I urged her: Tell me quickly, don’t tell me!

She hesitated: 2 years ago your husband had a divorced woman, and her ex-husband went to scold her. Everyone in his unit knew about this, and later we also knew about it, but no one dared to tell you.Today we are all drunk, no matter how much we say, we are just jokes. Don’t quarrel when you go back...

How simple is it to destroy a woman’s happiness? These few words are enough. At the last moment, I advised them not to complain, and at the next moment, they advised me not to cry and not to be angry.

Some things pass, but how can the betrayal in love pass?

For many years, I have always thought I was very happy, but I didn’t expect that in the eyes of my sisters, I was just a joke!

When I got home, I asked my husband to confess, have you ever accompanied a divorced woman? My expression suffocated him, and he admitted it after a few quibbling words.

He swears with his family that he has only been with her 5 times and has never looked for her on his own initiative. She throws her arms into her arms. It’s been 2 years since then, and it’s already old things...

I can no longer suppress my anger. Why is he so proud to say it 5 times? How come he has the nerve to say that the other party takes the initiative? If you hide from her far away, can she be forced? So what happened 2 years ago? Do it, do it!

From that day on, I had a shadow in my heart, and grievance and anger occupied my life. I quarrel with him every day, and even if he kneels down and apologizes, and swears that he will only love me forever, I cannot forgive him.

I had arguing with him for more than ten days, and he was timid, but my temper became more and more irritable, and I couldn't help but beat him and scold him.

I filed for divorce many times, but he always disagreed. Actually, I don’t want to get a divorce either, it’s all for the sake of harsh words.

Whenever he says he can't divorce, I will slap him in the face and want to punish him severely to relieve the resentment and grievances in his heart.

Except for beating and scolding, I can't find a way to vent my emotions. I feel like life is dark and I am exhausted every day.

4. It was my husband who made the mistake, and it was myself who was injured

That morning my husband cooked me, and I threw the bowl and filed for divorce again. I told him to be more cheerful and stop pretending to be a good man anymore. This kind of mistake cannot be forgiven.

he agreed without thinking and nodded and said, "It's okay for you, you can set the time."

I didn't expect that he really dared to agree to the divorce. Suddenly, he was powerless and slapped him hard in the face with his backhand, asking him to follow me now, don't just talk. I don’t know what he was wrong with, so I fought back on the spot and slapped me several times.

For the first time since he got married. I was so aggrieved that I scratched his face. He even dared to fight back, and beat me to the point of dizziness.

I cried so hard that he said he could no longer get along with me, and marriage was meaningless. After a few days, the child came back from the countryside and went to junior high school and then divorced...

No matter what I said, he was just saying harsh words, and he actually took it seriously. When things got to this point, I could only make a decision to divorce him and vowed not to repent.

We did not quarrel in those days, but we did not talk much.

There is an indescribable grievance in my heart, and there is endless sorrow in front of me. I think about it and we will end in a few days, and I feel that I am using my life. He is the one who makes the mistake, why is it me the one who hurts the most?

Is there any problem with my handling?

Even if I go on, it's because he hurts me first. I have been with him for so many years, why should he hook up with another woman? I feel particularly wronged when I think of those bad things, but he doesn't talk about these reasons.

I thought he would go back on his word, but he was determined to get a divorce. That morning he asked me to hurry up and go early without having to queue up. He started the car and urged me to come up quickly, without even trying to keep me.

I was very confused and couldn't bear to divorce. I hope he gave me a step, but he still didn't. I was just caring about driving along the way and didn't say a word.

After getting off the car, he urged me to leave quickly and not to be ink.I didn't want to go in, so he forced me to do so, saying that he couldn't get along with me, divorce was a relief.

I said: I will never forgive you, but I want to save this family, not for you. Can we not divorce first, separate for a while, and be calm down if we go through each other. If you still think I can’t get along with you in 1 year, I will take the initiative to divorce. If you think we can live with you, I will continue to live with you.

He said: OK, I will give you a chance. You go to another house to live in, and you and I will separate for the time being, so don’t bother anyone.

He stopped when he was right, and in the end I took everything and gave up my dignity to compromise with him...

5. Loneliness can defeat the persistence of marriage

Another house is second-hand and can be lived in without decoration. I simply packed up and moved over, and started a life of separation.

At first, I was very quiet and I never had to quarrel anymore. But not long after, I felt very depressed and full of grievance. I didn't know what to do after work. I can't calm down at all, and I can't find someone to quarrel.

After being alone for too long, I am very lonely. At night, I always toss and turn and can't sleep. I'm thinking about my husband coming to knock on the door and accompany me for one night...

I've been waiting, but my husband hasn't come. I care about face, and no matter how lonely I am, I can't bear to look for him.

2 months apart, my husband finally came to me and asked me if I would go home. I was so excited that I tried to hug him, but he pushed me away. For me, it was a blow to dignity.

He asked me if I had calmed down enough and wanted to pick me up. I really wanted to go home, but I refused him for the sake of dignity. In the next few months, I rejected him many times. After I repeatedly refused, he came less often.

Since I was separated, I have been alone for 4 months. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I often have all kinds of strange dreams, sometimes I dream of being in love with my husband, and someone dreams of him accompanying another woman. Every time I wake up, I burst into tears and feel depressed for several days.

5 months apart. I met a man at work and added him as a friend. He often sends messages at night, not only asking about his well-being, but also willing to chat with me until late at night.

We gradually become familiar with each other and often talk about topics that should not be discussed. Whenever he said he would come out for a meal together, I would politely reject him. If

is a bit difficult to talk about, don’t joke. I am a normal woman, the kind who longs for someone to accompany me when I am lonely and does not talk about feelings. I knew he had a good impression of me, but I was undecided and dared not take that step.

Since I got married, I was very persistent in marriage. Unexpectedly, loneliness slowly defeated my persistence...

That night I dreamed of being with him, which was very real. I felt happy when I woke up and could no longer sleep. I told him the next night and he said to see me right away.

I didn't expect him to come to my house to knock on the door in the middle of the night. I was confused and couldn't help being with him...

Six. In the end, that's not love

I shouldn't have been like that, but am I wrong? My husband is kind to me, how could I get to this point?

I don’t plan to talk about my relationship, I just want to find someone to accompany me during the separation and take revenge on my husband. But as I dated more often, I became in love.

There is an illusion in getting along with me that I never need a husband anymore. I also gradually understood why the sisters said that their husbands were not as good as other people's husbands. Maybe we did marry the wrong person...

has been with him for 8 months and has long passed the "calm" period. My husband urged me to go home, but I don’t want to go back, and I hope to continue to “calm down”.

Later, my husband finally discovered his existence and slapped me in the face.

If my husband didn't get that big temper, we could have even with each other and continued to live a stable life. But he hit me several times, and I never thought about it again.

In anger, I became pregnant with his (lover) child. Mother is very loving and I long to give birth to my child.

My husband said he would never forgive me, and he (lover) also advised me to give up. But I have lost my mind and resolutely divorced, so I asked him (the lover) to give me an explanation.

I was really confused at that time. I completely ignored the consequences in my resentment and grievances, and hurt both families. That incident not only made me look down on my face in front of my family, but also turned me into a "three-ar" in the eyes of others.

Even those sisters were quietly talking about me, saying that I really know how to play, but I dared to play it. They said they envy my courage, but they were actually sarcasticating me...

is very unfortunate. Because the pressure is too great, the child fell out by himself after he was pregnant for only 4 months. When I was saddest and sad, he (the lover) begged me to break up.

He said: I said I would not hurt each other's families at the beginning, why do you have to make a fuss? I advise you to go back and remarry, your husband will accept you, and my wife has forgiven me. Now I am under a lot of pressure. My wife has just given birth to her second child. I can't make her sad. Don't meet again in the future. I'll give you some compensation...

Now that I have been divorced for less than 2 years, I feel that my life is coming to an end. I want to remarry, but I don’t have the courage. Even if my husband (ex-husband) forgives me, I have no shame to go back...

This marriage case ends here. A woman’s story 2 months ago has no follow-up for the time being. Regarding this case, I do not express unnecessary views, readers will understand it themselves.

people can’t help but love is inexplicably moved. In grief and anger, feelings can easily lead to extraneous problems.

Lovesickness every night, panic every day, and gets excited because of long-term loneliness, and is moved by indulging in color. This is a very common human nature.

Therefore, husband and wife should try not to separate for a long time unless the relationship can really withstand all tests.

There are many relationships between men and women outside of marriage, which may also make people desperate. Love goes deeper and ignores it, but in the end it is often not love. Especially those who betray their marriage are not worthy of love from others, so don’t overestimate yourself.