People often ask me: "Teacher, how to manage a happy marriage"? I told her: human nature is greedy, and managing a happy marriage is a false proposition, and doing your best without being persistent is the foundation.
Some people who are eating melons do not understand. They mistakenly believe that as long as we work hard enough, we can run a happy marriage. I tell you very clearly: a happy marriage is closely linked to the degree of matching at the beginning. A happy marriage originated from the original choice, and choice is more important than cultivation. Therefore, the painful marriage of most people cannot be changed, you can only fine-tune it.
Holding flowers in hand waiting for him in his heart
Buddha's inspiration: Many people's marriages cannot be managed well. However, they refused to let go and had to make the marriage complete no matter what. The result was that both sides suffered losses and were exhausted both physically and mentally, and eventually the couple developed serious psychological problems and physical illnesses. Therefore, it is more meaningful and powerful to dare to admit that you cannot manage a happy marriage well than to work hard to manage a happy marriage.
Many marriages start with beauty, money and sex. After a few years of marriage, the couple has too many differences, and they have no common language at all, no common ideals, hobbies, and pursuits. It is obvious that sex and beauty alone cannot be integrated. All that is left is quarrel and conflict, and I wish I could divorce immediately.
When there is no relationship between husband and wife and only resentment and annoyance, the wife's beauty cannot arouse the husband's interest at all; when the relationship between husband and wife is completely broken, even if the husband is rich, he cannot let his wife go home. Therefore, a happy marriage must be closely linked to the mind, psychology, emotion, interaction and matching.
Knock on the blackboard and mark the key points! If the match between husband and wife is not good, even if both husband and wife try to adjust, the result will not be too good. Because, this is not a question of who is right or wrong. It's a matching issue. Human nature is originally greedy, but it doesn’t want to change. Moreover, the couple’s respective ideas are not wrong, it’s just that the couple’s ideas and behaviors are too different. Therefore, couples will not make major adjustments to each other.
The relationship between husband and wife is very good, both parties love each other deeply, and everything is easy to do. Couples can also listen calmly to what the other person is saying, and are willing to make adjustments and changes for the other person. If the couple has poor matching, misunderstandings, conflicts, problems, quarrels, and fights often arise. Then, the couple will not make major adjustments and changes for each other. At this time, the so-called "management of a happy marriage through acquired efforts is just empty talk.
So, if a couple can manage well, then run well. If you can't manage it well, it's a divorce. There is no saying that you have made do with it. The so-called "doing things" is nothing more than an excuse for not being able to divorce bravely. Dear netizens, do you dare to admit that your marriage failed? You dare to say to the other party: "I don't love you anymore. Let's get a divorce. I'm not kidding you. I've had enough of you long ago."
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