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There is a passage in "Sequences of Flowers": "When you let go of prejudices and disguise, no longer worry and needs, your heart is truly open."
Especially in love, when they are separated from each other, some girls will feel that they are not good enough, or make the other party angry, and they will change their attitude.
After I really see through it, I realize that he just thinks you are not suitable. He is determined to make your relationship a passerby.
No matter how reluctant you are or how long you have to get entangled, it will lose its meaning. Even if you block and deliberately break off the connection, your love will never go back.
The real way to let go is actually this thing: to love a more suitable person.
After breaking up, even if you feel pain and unwilling to give up, don’t ask the bottom line.
You don’t think losing him is like losing the whole world. He may be excellent and beautiful, but his life is still long, and you will meet someone who is more suitable for you in the future.
Some girls have difficulty facing the process of breaking up love, are used to closing their hearts, and have a very negative view of love.
Even if there is a opposite sex who is good to you around them, they will only choose to refuse and do not want to get closer.
But such behavior cannot allow you to heal yourself quickly, and you will only be even more unable to get out of the love without results.
Xiaoqian (pseudonym) has been in love with her boyfriend for two years, but the ending is a breakup.
It seems that the love of the past has become very false, and all sincerity has been lost.
She dared not think back and could not eat in a familiar restaurant, for fear that she would not be able to control her tears.
In order to quickly forget her ex-boyfriend, she also blocked the other party. Xiaoqian packed all the gifts he gave and threw them directly into the trash can.
But these behaviors did not relieve the pain of breaking up. She was still so painful that she could not fall asleep every day. She was still smiling in the last second, and she was so sad that she cried loudly in the next second.
At that time, my friends around her advised her to look forward, contact different opposite sexes, and start her own new life.
However, this seems to be a very difficult thing for Xiaoqian, because she doesn't think that the beautiful love will come again.
Xiaoqian has a colleague who has a good relationship, and her personality is very different.
She and her ex-boyfriend have been in love longer than Xiaoqian, but after the breakup, she not only did not block her ex-boyfriend, but also did not deliberately break off contact.
They have common friends with each other and still have some contacts at work.
After breaking up, for about two months, my colleagues were immersed in work and tried to keep themselves busy.
In addition, she still looks forward to the approaching of love. If there is a good opposite sex around her, her colleagues will try to get in touch.
In less than half a year, she started a brand new love.
Colleagues are not with each other in order to heal the pain of the previous relationship. Instead, I think he is a very warm boy who suits him very well.
The ex-boyfriend's personality is too cold. He chooses to escape every time he quarrels and does not know how to care about her feelings. But my current boyfriend is very willing to communicate, which gives colleagues a lot of security and confidence.
Maybe they have been dating each other for a long time, but in the end they may be separated for different reasons.
But for her colleagues, she felt that as long as both parties have given their sincere efforts at the moment, it would be beautiful enough.
After starting a relationship, my colleague saw her ex-boyfriend again, and she was completely out of trouble, and she was even able to get along as a friend.
The real way to let go is not to block and break the connection, but to this thing: love the right people and enjoy sincere love.
There are always people who say to you: "If you can't let go of someone, either the time is not long enough, or the new love is not good enough."
Some girls will quickly enter the next relationship after they break up.
However, the scars in your heart have not yet recovered, and the appearance of a new love has not made you feel moved.
You don’t love him, you just feel that you need someone to care about and accompany you now.
, then it is easy to cause new love not to be good enough.
Even if the current boyfriend has much better conditions than his ex, he is very patient with you and knows how to be tolerant.
But you just can't forget the love of the past, and you will always feel that it is a pity to be separated from your ex-boyfriend.
The real relief is not to deliberately fall in love, but to really fall in love with a more suitable person.
His appearance is not to heal you, your relationship is full of joy and sweetness.
Even if there are conflicts between them, some of their behaviors will make you feel angry and jealous, but you still feel that as long as you can meet him, it is a kind of happiness.
Love is beautiful. Don’t think it will never appear again just because the few people are wrong.
The best way to let go of people who don’t love you is indeed to start a new relationship, but the prerequisite is that you are attracted to each other before you get together.
If you just want to stop feeling sad about your ex-boyfriend's departure, then this is not a good start.
In the end, you will only feel even more regretful. What you really let go is that you fall in love with a better person again, who can bring you the preference and happiness you want.
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