Many people ask me this question, and I think of a joke. A father asked his son, what are your future ideals? I understand what most people think. What you say is that you have power, money, and sex. What you say is that you don’t have the same thing.

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Many people ask me this question, and I think of a joke.

A father asked his son, what are your future ideals? The son said: BMW and beauty.

The father slapped his son in the face and asked him to answer again.

The son covered his face and said, career and love. My father smiled with satisfaction after hearing this.

The joke is actually not funny. We all think that my father is hypocritical, right? In fact, this story has other profound meanings. Let’s reveal this deep meaning today.

I understand what most people think. What you say is that you have power, money, and sex. What you say is that you don’t do well is that you don’t have the same. If there is any other thing, your anxious heart doesn’t need to be cured.

At this point, there is no need for everyone to hide anything. But how to do it, have you ever thought about it?

Let’s look at two examples, we have learned one example, and learned it in textbooks, Ah Q.

How did Ah Q confess his love to Wu Ma? He is like this child, and he said it very directly, I want to sleep with you. What is the result of

? As a result, Wu Ma went to file a lawsuit, and Ah Q welcomed the big bamboo robbery of Zhao Xiucai .

Another example, I once talked about, Chen Kaige when director was young.

Hong Huang During the interview that year, I talked about this past story.

Chen Kaige flirted with her. When she came up, she first talked about philosophy, and then she had to talk about art. From the East to the West, it was particularly indirect and roundabout, from the French Revolution to the Bourgeois to Folk, all of which were finished. It's already three o'clock in the middle of the night, and people have not yet entered the topic.

gives you the feeling that this man really wants to know you and doesn’t want to sleep with you at all. How did you finally lead to that matter?

He told you that the door of their dormitory is locked and he can't go back. He has to find a place to spend the night, right?

Then Hong Huang admired the Chinese artist's implicitness, and in the end it seemed that the woman forced him to stay overnight.

, please understand. What do you understand by

? Is the key to the routine? What's wrong, the key to is that you have to think clearly about what others want, not what you want.

The distance between Ah Q and Chen Kaige is actually the distance between a failed middle-aged person and a successful middle-aged person.

They are different on the most core issues. This difference is reflected in whether you have a deep understanding of the sentence I bolded.

Someone said, I understand, you understand loneliness. You must first understand yourself.

Let’s talk about power, money, color. I know why you like power, money, and color. Do you know why you like power, money, and color?

What is the essence of power? It is a sense of control and a sense of meaning.

Many scientists are not interested in money. What do you think is the obsessed with him? It's still power.

It's just that it's different from the power you understand on weekdays. The power he enjoys is not his relationship with a group of people, but his relationship with the universe.

Hawking may not be more powerful than the neighborhood committee aunt in the human organizational structure. He can even control three fingers of his own body. The problem is that his brain can travel through the stars.

Many times, the sense of power enjoyed by scientists is similar to that of the governor.

The actions and political achievements of a county magistrate during his tenure will be recorded in the county annals; the lives of a scientist and a writer will also be recorded in the history of science and art in human beings.

The lives of a person are very limited. Not to mention thousands of years, can you tell the name of your great grandfather? If so, can you tell me what your great grandfather’s father’s name is?

can’t be said, 99.99% of people can’t be said.

Few people know what their great-grandfather’s father is. In fact, they are only decades away from today’s death.

But if a village chief has great political achievements, such as building roads or leading villagers to become rich, it is very likely that within 50 years after he leaves office, someone will still mention him and repeatedly mention it.

If you have seen some works by week Mason , you will know this sentence: political life is life.

He writes official novels. Everything you did before, as well as your long practice, was just to prepare for you during the period of performance on stage.

on the stage for three minutes, ten years of hard work off the stage. Can it be remembered by the audience for a long time like Mei Lanfang ? It only takes those three minutes.

So, what is the essence of power? It is life, the extension of life.

A person’s life seems to be very long, but in fact, valuable life is very short.

Stephen Chow may live 100 years old in his life, but a truly valuable life is a clip left in the movie "" by Stephen Chow ".

Jin Yong lived to be 94 years old. What is truly valuable is the flying snow shooting white deer in the sky, and the laughing book hero leaning on the green mandarin orange.

The same is true, Li Dakang ’s true effective life is Jinshan County’s road construction to make wealth, Lincheng’s development zone, Jingzhou’s mineral resource integration and Guangmingfeng project.

The rest are all preparations, and I have worked hard for ten years in the audience for the three minutes on the stage.

If you understand this, you will know that power is a double-edged sword, and it definitely does not make you shake your majesty.

Many people understand power because I speak and people listen to my instructions.

But have you ever thought about it? What are you going to say when you are ready?

You fantasize about a scene and think of you as a leader. Now there are a group of people sitting below, and the problem is in front of you. Everyone is waiting to hear you tell us how to solve it.

microphone is handed to you, tell me.

Have you figured out what to say?

or you are a scientist, and now you want to build lithography machine . A group of doctors are waiting below. What do you think?

or the square of ten thousand people, there are all crowds. You are a star. Let’s listen to your singing. sing . Are you ready to sing?

suddenly felt that it wasn't that easy, right? It’s not about being so majestic, it turns into huge pressure. For a person who is not ready, the bigger the stage you give him, the bigger the sweat beads on his forehead.

In other words, what is the essence of power? Actually it is strength.

You must not think that there is a writer's father, such as Jia Pingwa , and you can also praise you as a writer.

If Stephen Chow's son doesn't know how to act, if you give him such a big show, you will only be thrown into a bunch of eggs from the audience.

Power is a thing that is power.

Strength is composed of many aspects of content, do you understand?

You have a good study, but the problem is that only people can watch Stephen Chow's acting; you have good skills, but the problem is that Lao Fu in " I Love My Home " is better at organizational communication than you.

Sometimes you can't figure it out, just because you haven't really understood the multiple dimensions of strength yet.

So what is money? It's also a dominant force. Most people like money but not that number or symbol.

Vietnam Dong prints larger numbers, but you may not like it. Why? Because more than 3,000 yuan is equivalent to one yuan.

What you like is not a larger number, but the dominance reflected behind this number.

So think about it, why?

Why do you have resources? What else can you do besides fate?

What is fate? Your father has money and you have money, this is called fate; what is luck? If you lose your luck, you will win the Mark Six lottery, this is called luck.

What else? Only one thing, value, exchange value.

Commonly known as the prerequisite for what you have. What food do you order if you don’t have money in your pocket? By the same token, you can’t provide anything, so why should people give you money?

Then let’s look at the third thing, color. Why do beauty like you? What do beauty likes you?

Stephen Chow plays Supreme Treasure , the audience is screaming, Athena Chu likes him; you go to play zunbao, the audience hits you and screams, do you see if Athena Chu still likes you?

You have a level and level, you are really that Taishan Beidou. You are 82 years old and still have a 28-year-old beauty who is willing to accompany you for a hundred years. I can understand.

If you don’t have the level, you are just an 82-year-old man, that’s all.

In fact, do people have no understanding of the crisis of midlife? Everything in life has already been priced.

The reason why you feel that you have a midlife crisis is that you have just waited until you were middle-aged and you just started to live and understand it before you discovered the crisis.

In life, except for fate and luck, the rest are paid items.

Why do you accept beauties? Isn’t the other party providing emotional value?

If the other party looks ugly, why don’t you accept it? You see, Supreme Treasure is facing the Zixia that has become Zhu Bajie, and it is not used to it.

So what is the essence of the midlife crisis? I didn't understand when I was young.

And what is the youth crisis? I didn't understand when I was a teenager.

Why don’t people feel the youth crisis? In fact, it is not that it does not exist, but that it is that it is too young. The confusion in youth is a crisis, and it is just that it is not known.

In other words, resolving the midlife crisis, unless you have to understand it when you are young, and resolving the confusion when you are young, unless you have to understand it when you are young.

If you are already middle-aged, don’t think about solving the midlife crisis. people can never solve the current problems, people can only solve the future problems.

What you want to solve is the elderly crisis.

There is only one way to resolve the crisis, which is to learn from Chen Kaige.

There are two excellent qualities in him, don’t you see it?

One is always thinking about what the other party wants, and the other is very patient.

Maybe what you want is no different from director Chen Kaige, but you can only keep it in your heart and show that you really want to understand the world.

You can sleep in this world.
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