Some people are only good at talking and coaxing others around, but when they really encounter something, it is useless at all.
Chen Rui (pseudonym)'s brother-in-law Zhao Bin (pseudonym), is such a person. He coaxes his mother-in-law around every time, but when he asks him to serve the elderly, he can't do it well.
Chen Rui and her husband Zhao Feng (pseudonym) have been married for more than three years. Their husband and wife have a very good relationship. Chen Rui is not only a thrifty wife, but also a considerate and good daughter-in-law.
Zhao Feng's father passed away early. Before Zhao Feng and Chen Rui got married, Zhao Feng took care of his mother. After marriage, he sought Chen Rui's consent, so he continued to take his mother to his home and the three of them lived together.
Although he has a younger brother who is two years younger than him, Zhao Feng never expects his younger brother Zhao Bin to share the burden with him.
Because Zhao Bin was spoiled by his parents since he was a child, Zhao Bin, who is in his thirties, is still an idle dependent on his parents. It is almost impossible to rely on him to share the responsibility of taking care of his mother.
Zhao Bin and Zhao Feng are both sons, and the age difference is not big. Why is Zhao Bin so popular with his parents? That's because the two of them have different personalities.
Zhao Feng is introverted and honest, and does everything he does; while Zhao Bin is a slick and likes to be clever in everything.
Zhao Bin is eloquent and always makes his parents happy, so his parents will be particularly biased towards him, so they spoil him into a dependent on his parents.
As an adult, Zhao Bin still uses his cleverness in the workplace and often flatters his leaders. Although the leaders are very helpful, Zhao Bin's business ability is really poor. For the sake of the interests of the company, the leader had to fire Zhao Bin.
Zhao Bin, who lost his job, simply gave up and became an idle person in society. He was idle all day long and relied on his mother's pension to eat and drink.
Because my mother has been living with Zhao Feng, my mother has no extra expenses, so my mother's pension naturally became Zhao Bin's subsidy.
The mother was willing to subsidize her youngest son. Chen Rui and Zhao Feng and his wife had no complaints about this matter. They were both senior executives of the company and their income was both stable and considerable, so they were not stingy with their mothers in terms of economy.
The only thing that made Chen Ruixin dissatisfied was her mother-in-law’s opinion of herself. Chen Rui and Zhao Feng have been married for three years, and she has taken care of her mother-in-law for three years. It can be said that during these three years, Chen Rui has worked hard without credit.
But my mother-in-law was always dissatisfied with her. She not only often criticized Chen Rui's actions, but also went against her in everything, but also always said bad things about Chen Rui in front of outsiders.
On the contrary, Zhao Bin ignored his mother and even wanted to plunder his mother's property. However, despite this, she still praised her youngest son and always praised Zhao Bin for being sensible and filial to everyone.
Chen Rui has a deep grudge against this matter. She feels that her mother-in-law's biased mentality is very unfair to her, and even makes her feel very wronged.
Zhao Feng kept comforting Chen Rui. He told Chen Rui not to care too much about what his mother said. As for his mother's preference for Zhao Bin, it is a fact that no one can change. After all, his mother has been pampering him for more than 30 years.
Zhao Feng also told Chen Rui not to feel wronged. We should do everything we should do to take care of our mother, so that we can feel at ease. If we don’t have a reputation compared to Zhao Bin, there is no way to do it. Who makes me feel less sweet than him?
After listening to Zhao Feng's guidance, Chen Rui felt much more relaxed, but within a few days, she was completely angry by something.
On that day, Chen Rui went home to cook after get off work normally, and happened to meet her neighbor. When the neighbor saw Chen Rui, he also greeted her enthusiastically, and then began to kindly remind Chen Rui, telling Chen Rui that her mother-in-law always complained to the neighbors around her, and that everything she said was Chen Rui's fault.
Many neighbors believed in her mother-in-law's words because they had never dealt with Chen Rui. Now Chen Rui has almost become a famous bad daughter-in-law in the community.
After hearing this, Chen Rui felt full of grievance and had nowhere to vent. She endured the anger in her heart and returned home. As soon as she entered the door, she immediately confronted her mother-in-law.
As the two of them became more and more quarrel, Chen Rui no longer tolerated it. She said to her mother-in-law, "Since I am not as good as Zhao Bin in any way, I will send you to live with your baby son."
. Her mother-in-law was not afraid of threats, so she agreed to Chen Rui's proposal, so her mother-in-law was sent to Zhao Bin's house, but her mother-in-law had just lived with Zhang Bin for a week and couldn't help but move back.
Zhao Bin said sweet words to his mother completely to defraud his mother of her pension. So when his mother was sent to his home, he had no intention or ability to support the elderly.
And the pension for the elderly is not enough for Zhao Bin to spend alone, let alone pay for the daily expenses of two people. So a week later, Zhao Bin's quality of life dropped significantly, which made him complain that his mother was coming.
Zhao Bin's mother endured her son's complaints while not having a good meal. So she felt regretful and called Chen Rui on her own initiative. She said to Chen Rui, "Daughter-in-law, I was wrong. I will never talk nonsense again in the future. I still want to move back to live with you."
Chen Rui is a kind-hearted person. She couldn't bear to let her mother-in-law continue to stay at Zhao Bin's house to suffer, so she accepted her mother-in-law's apology and immediately took her back.
People with sweet mouths may not be able to do practical things. Sometimes, although they are coaxed around, they may be suffering from the consequences.
Through Chen Rui's story, we should understand the following two principles:
1. You should be down-to-earth in life. Being a smooth mouth is not a long-term solution.
If a person can speak eloquently and be sensible, it is a manifestation of a person's high emotional intelligence, but if you want to survive in this society, it is completely not enough to rely on high emotional intelligence alone.
In addition to this, your own strength is also indispensable. Whether it is working for others or starting a business by yourself, it is impossible to have a foothold when talking about theory alone.
Those who flatter and coax their leaders into a happy mood will sooner or later flatter on the horse's hooves, and those who are down-to-earth and hardworking will sooner or later be appreciated and commended by their bosses for their efforts.
Everyone understands the principle of empty talk and the country will be ruined. hard work will help the country. The same is true for the same reason. If you want to live a happy and beautiful life, you can only work hard down-to-earth and keep working hard.
2. The closer you are to yourself, the more likely you are to be hurt by yourself.
I think there should be many people who leave their bad tempers to the people closest to me, just without knowing it. But it hurt the other party all over.
This is because we know that those who are closest to us will not give up on ourselves easily. It is this relationship that makes us unscrupulous and often present our most irritable side to them.
But we completely ignore their feelings, and even naively think that they have the ability to digest our bad tempers. Unfortunately, people's patience is limited.
Even if your parents are treated violently by us for a long time, they will feel heartbroken, not to mention those who are not related to us, they cannot withstand such oppression even more.
So in order to prevent ourselves from becoming lonely and to allow others to be treated gently, we must learn to control our emotions, not express our bad temper at will, and not push away the people we are closest to with our own hands because of our emotions being out of control.
text/Wiwen
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