Oral description: Miao Yingchun Text: Low-key happiness
I was born in the rural area of Lunnan . I am the eldest daughter of my family and have a younger brother under me. It is undeniable that for more than a thousand years of feudal tradition, I always feel that boys are the pillars of the family. Therefore, although national policies have been promoted for many years, most parents should have more or less favored boys over girls in their minds, but the degree is different.
And my family is an extreme, extremely boyish, and since I was a child, I was instilled that my younger brother is the future of the family, and I have to give in to him everything.
When I was a child, my younger brother and I were studying in the primary school in the village. Once my aunt bought me a new piece of clothing. When she handed it to my father, she said, "Brother, you have to be biased even if you are biased. Look at the clothes Xiaoli and Xiaoning don't look like they were from the same house." The father took the clothes and said with a smirk: "Girls have no big problems. You can always find a husband's family in the future, so the boys are different."
At that time, my father envied our neighbor Mr. Zhao the most. Mr. Zhao's only son was admitted to university and stayed in the city to work after graduation. The daughter married in the village, less than 300 meters away from her parents' home. At Uncle Zhao's house, there was something unhappy in the field. He shouted, "My daughter and son-in-law rushed over to help."
Once, the father chatted with Mr. Zhao and said, "My son is giving you a face outside, and my daughter is taking care of you at home. This is the most successful family model." Mr. Zhao proudly told him, "My daughter's grades were also good at the beginning, and I forced her to stop her studies. After the exam, she is also someone else's. It's better to find a husband's house at home. I have something to do to use it!"
can Inspired by Mr. Zhao, when I was in the second year of junior high school, my father said to me: "The harvest this fall is not good. A few days ago, your mother spent a lot of money in hospitalization. After school starts, you should not go to school. I told the village food factory, you should work there. The salary is not high, but you can always subsidize your family."
Something happened at home during that time, but it was not as good as you can't afford the tuition. Besides, my academic performance in the class is reasonable. It is too early to say that I can get into college, but the teacher said that there is no big problem in high school. I begged my father to allow me to graduate from junior high school, but he was unmoved. When my aunt came forward to help, she was scolded by her mother and never contacted her parents again.
I work in a food factory and my brother continues his studies. My father was determined to copy Mr. Zhao’s successful model, but his younger brother did not give him the best. He graduated from junior high school and failed to get into high school. His father asked him to repeat the school for three years, and his younger brother became a "living fossil" in the school.
Father accepted this reality helplessly. After his younger brother failed the fourth high school entrance examination, he no longer forced him to repeat the exam. This also retained the last bit of face for his younger brother, because if he had been repeating for a year, he might have met with his classmates in the same classroom, just one on the podium and the other off the podium, because the students who were studying in a teacher college were preparing for an internship.
When my brother suffered repeated defeats in the examination room, I ended my work in the food factory and came to a factory in the county. Here I met Chen Hao. He arrived a year earlier than me. He was the leader of our team and took good care of me, a newcomer. We fell in love in less than half a year.
I am not an expert in marriage and love issues, but based on my experience, I have summarized my experience: most girls who are easily deceived by men when they go out are like me come from families that cannot feel the warmth. If others are a little better to themselves, they may lose their direction. Fortunately, I met a good person. Chen Hao and I went for marriage, not playing with feelings.
I told my father about Chen Hao. After learning about Chen Hao's family conditions, he was furious and said, "He only has one boy in his family, and his father also has the sequelae of stroke . It would be nice if you marry him to maintain your life. What energy does it have to take care of our family and what ability does it have to help your brother!"
Mother said to me from the side: "Chen Hao's Home is too far from our family, and there are many inconveniences when you marry. Liu Jinxian's family in the village asked someone to come. His third son fell in love with you. The Liu family is one of the most wealthy families in our village. You must live a good life after marrying you! "
I can't believe my ears. The third brother of the Liu family is not only nearly ten years older than me, but even more unbearable is that he was sentenced to five years for raping a woman a few years ago. was sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment for hiding a woman. "Do you know the virtues of the third brother of the Liu family?" I asked.
"Isn't that just a little thing? He was not married at the time. Would he make that mistake if he had a wife?" The mother said it lightly. At that moment, I finally understood my status at home and I made up my mind.
Because my parents repeatedly obstructed my marriage, Chen Hao and I ran away from home. When we returned home, my daughter was already three years old. Because I rejected the third son of the Liu family and my parents did not live the life they expected, they were very cold to me. They just accepted the facts, but could not forgive my betrayal at the time. Our two families had very little contact.
Let’s talk about my younger brother, because he was spoiled by his parents since he was a child, and he couldn’t endure any hardship. For so many years, he never worked for more than three months in a year. Most of the time he spent staying at home and being a dependent on his parents.
It would be fine if the parents had a high income, and their parents were just ordinary farmers. After so many years, they had been gnawed by him all day long and were skinny. Even so, the mother still looked spoiled when she mentioned her younger brother. I really don’t know what she was thinking.
My younger brother is not good, and his family's financial conditions are limited. He is over thirty years old and has not been married yet. Once he drank wine and complained to me, "You were going to marry the third son of the Liu family back then. Did I get to this point?" Some time ago, someone introduced a widow to my younger brother. Her husband died in a car accident and left her and two sons. Although she brought two sons, she did not ask for less bride gifts than others.
Mother cherishes this opportunity very much. She said to me, "Your brother is in his thirties. If he doesn't have this store after passing this village, he will be out of date if he doesn't marry a wife. You are the sister, and you have to help him no matter what!"
I don't know how many times I have heard of this. "What should I do to help him? How could I get such a large amount of money!" I said coldly.
Unexpectedly, there would always be an accident. Shortly after my brother went on a blind date, Chen Hao's family caught up with the demolition. After my mother saw the news on her mobile phone, she immediately called me excitedly: "I saw it on my mobile phone. Your village is about to be demolished. A few days ago, you said that you didn't have money to help your brother. Now, your brother's bride price has finally been settled. I just said that your brother is a blessed person!" Her words made me speechless.
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