Investment Master Charlie Munger said: "The best way to get something is to make yourself worthy of it."
The things here can be money, position, lover, etc.
That is to say:
If you want to achieve financial freedom, you don’t have to worry about spending money, you have to sacrifice time to eat, drink and have fun, and work harder than others, otherwise everything will be just daydreaming.
If you want to get the position you like, you must be both morally and capable, and be better than others in all aspects. Otherwise, "if you don't deserve the position, you will suffer; if you don't deserve the position, you will suffer."
If you want to get the love of others, put aside the good match, you must first be valuable and be able to make others willing to give for you. Otherwise, even if the two of them are together, they will not last long.
You should know that two people approach each other, not only have a temporary favor, a heart-pounding love, but also have an appreciation and admiration for each other.
It is precisely because the other person has something you appreciate that you love him. Similarly, it is precisely because you have something that fascinates the other person that he takes the initiative to approach you.
In short, the distance between two people cannot be much different. As mentioned earlier, you must be "worthy" and not bad in all aspects. Only when you can show off will others be attracted to you and go crazy for you.
If the gap is too large, there will be many chasms that cannot be crossed between you. Once the freshness is exhausted, the relationship will become dull. You will gradually lose interest in you for convenience and will no longer focus on you.
If men chase women is a process of conquest, then women chase men is a process of attraction.
As a woman, if you want to get the attention of a man, you must fully demonstrate your strengths and let the other party see your beauty.
Many people think that as long as you are beautiful, you will definitely attract men's attention, but external attraction will only be temporary. If you want to attract for a long time, you have to rely on other qualities in your body.
So women should understand that the best way to attract men is: do these three things well.
First: Maintain your sense of mystery
The best way to attract men is to maintain their sense of mystery, arouse men's curiosity, and let them take the initiative to understand you.
But many women are too simple, like a cup of boiled water, without any scheming, and do not understand a man’s mind at all.
Once they fall in love with a man, they will show their truest side and try to make men understand themselves better, so as to bring the distance between them.
Little do they know that men are born with a desire to conquer. Compared to those things that they easily get, they are often more interested in things that they cannot get or have to work hard to get.
When a woman exposes her truest side, it is equivalent to showing her trump card. Naturally, men will no longer be curious and will not be willing to spend time to understand.
So, if you want to attract men, you have to maintain a sense of mystery. Like an onion, let men peel them off layer by layer. If you are too proactive, not only will you not receive the attention of men, but you will also hurt yourself.
Second: Make yourself valuable
I really like this sentence: Instead of chasing light, it is better to become light.
Love, to put it bluntly, is the process of two people attracting each other and loving each other, but in fact, love is more like a game.
In the process of game, whoever is more valuable has the initiative and has the right to choose to love and be loved.
Many women will inevitably lose their composure when facing feelings and regard each other as everything. Loving each other is better than loving themselves.
men try their best to meet the requirements they make. They give too much, but never ask for them. In order to cater to men, they even lower their attitude and humbly please.
Women think that doing this will bring men's pity, but they don't know that if you swallow your anger for a long time, you have already made you have no value in the heart of men.
In his opinion, you are just a free labor force to take care of his daily life, a nanny who doesn’t have to spend money.
You should know that men generally don’t care about such things that have no sense of value, let alone cherish them.
So, if you want to attract men, you have to make yourself valuable first.
You need to let men know that your love is expensive and if you want you to give it to him, he must give the same response, otherwise, your kindness to him can be taken back at any time.
Third: Maintaining independence in economics
I often hear some women say: I hope I can marry a man with a car, a house, and a savings, and live a life of food and clothing without worrying about not having to worry about work, nor do I have to worry about tea, rice, oil and salt all day long.
How many people cannot envy this kind of life of "clothing comes with your hands and food comes with your mouth".
But as the saying goes, "Back to the mountains and mountains fall, and everyone runs."
If you want to rely on others in everything, it is unreliable after all. No matter when, women still have to rely on themselves.
If you want to truly attract men, you must be a self-reliant and self-reliant woman. No matter what happens, you can calmly deal with it.
Although people always say that those petite and weak women can more inspire men's desire for protection. But in fact, men hope to find a woman who can walk side by side with them.
As there is a saying on the Internet: the best love is to be evenly matched and matched. Women hope to meet a man they can rely on, and men also want to find a woman who does not drag their backs.
So, the saying "Love others first" is correct. When you have the ability to love yourself, others are willing to spend more time and effort to love you.
So, if you want to attract a man, please do the above three things well, try to be the best self, let him take the initiative to get close to you and willingly give for you.
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Author: March.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
I hope my words can touch your heart and resonate with you. If you like this article, please like it and thank you for your company.
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