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01, Volume Beginner
Love is like a game. Both sides are evenly matched, so there will be more exciting moments. Only when players achieve each other and have a chance to win.
Marriage is also a cooperation between two people, and they need to work together to cope with various challenges in life.
The essence of interaction between people is the exchange of interests.
If one party always doesn’t exert force and the other party is too strong, then the pattern of getting along with each other will be broken. If the balance between husband and wife is lost, the marriage will be destroyed little by little.
Just like Roman Rolland once said: "In marriage, everyone has to pay a price, and at the same time they have to take back something. This is the law of supply and demand."
In marriage, there is no perfect marriage, only couples who continue to grow in marriage. The couple has "interest value" between each other and will get along better.
The conditions between husband and wife can really accompany each other for the rest of their lives: "profitable"
02. Unprofitable couples will dislike each other
The couple is a close combination.
Two people learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses, jointly maintain their marriage, and express their love through actions. Only by helping each other, can they see each other's value and feel the sincerity of their lover in the mutual help of their husband and wife.
When couples cannot get love, care, or sharing of benefits, the intersection between couples will become less and less.
Mr. Kan and Mrs. Kan in "Anjia " have the relationship between them that was indestructible. Each other will work hard to give each other more sense of security.
The wife helps her husband develop his career, and the husband wants to give his wife a warm home because of his touch.
However, later the two realized their financial freedom, Mrs. Kan devoted herself to the child, her wife took care of the family in an orderly manner, her husband only cared about the outside business and forgot to give to the family.
Mr. Kan cannot feel the warmth and the feeling of being needed in his marriage, and began to look for love from outside marriage. To make the beauty smile, spend a lot of money, and go further and further with his wife.
It is taboo for couples to have too clear division of labor.
The division of labor is too clear, so you will not be grateful for your lover's efforts, and at the same time, you will not take the initiative to give more in your marriage.
Women don’t know how their husband works and how much their income is, and the husband doesn’t know when the child goes to bed, what kind of specialty classes they take, and what their wives are busy with. The strangeness between the two will continue to increase.
Two people cannot feel mutual benefit, and the sense of distance will be widened. Moreover, they often dislike each other and marriage will soon enter a dead end.
03. A couple who can truly accompany each other for a lifetime, "Please love"
A couple who can truly accompany each other for a lifetime will have a particularly deep relationship with each other, and they will all manage their marriage with care.
American writer Hemingway said: "Marriage without real love is the starting point for a person's depravity."
Outsiders may not be able to see whether the couple can live together until old age, but they must know whether that love is still there.
A couple who can truly accompany each other for a lifetime are good at cultivating love, and during the years they stay together, they "seek love" each other.
No matter what problems you encounter, both of you will find your lover as soon as possible. If you want to hear her opinion, what should you do.
All things will be thought of two people together. No matter how big the crisis occurs, I believe that my lover will not escape alone.
In marriage, if two people are united, they will definitely have an opportunity to make the marriage lively, and in the end they will be grateful for the time they spend with each other.
Loving couples, over the years, share honor and disgrace, and keep the rich and poor together.
On the road of life, everyone has weaknesses and advantages, but truly loving couples can restrain each other and complement each other.
can form a tacit understanding between each other and make life closely linked. The love between each other will accumulate deeper and deeper.
04. A couple who can truly accompany each other for a lifetime can be profitable to each other.
A couple who can truly accompany each other for a lifetime can become the support of their lovers spiritually.
The two people have emotional resonance, cooperate with each other and have a tacit understanding in their careers, and can compete evenly in their careers, benefit and win-win results, so that they will have the opportunity to stay together for a long time.
A truly happy marriage can provide better spiritual complementarity and material enjoyment.
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu fell in love at first sight, and Yang Jiang once wrote a love letter to him.
Others were puzzled, but Qian Zhongshu took a look and immediately replied with a word. The tacit understanding between them is enviable.
Yang Jiang wrote the word "coward", and Qian Zhongshu immediately understood that she was asking him "how many people are in his heart".
He replied with the word "you", which means you are the only one in his heart.
The two got married. In order to let Qian Zhongshu write a book with peace of mind, Yang Jiang took care of him wholeheartedly and dealt with many things in life for him.
And Qian Zhongshu also gave Yang Jiang a dedicated emotion and loved her deeply for the rest of her life.
The couple who can accompany each other for a lifetime are in harmony with both spiritual and material aspects, with a moderate level of progress and retreat, and are willing to contribute to each other.
On the road of life, each other will actively work hard to fulfill each other's dreams and make each other "profitable". In this way, the two of them grow up together and meet a better self on the road of life.
05. Summary
Osborne once said: "The premise of a happy marriage is: each person strives to meet the needs of each other. But it is impossible to satisfy completely, so you should also learn to recognize reality wisely."
In marriage, meeting the needs of your lover and making your lover "profitable" is a manifestation of loving your partner deeply. However, you cannot endlessly fill the needs of your lover and ignore your own needs.
Love is giving, and love is also asking.
No matter how your lover loves you, please manage yourself with your heart.
On the one hand, do your best and continuously improve your own value. On the other hand, constantly find each other's common ground and increase their intersection.
In a good marriage, men should be able to give women protection, strength, and tenderness to women. Women can give men stability, gentleness and virtuousness, and protect their lives and careers.
Don’t just live together, but there is no topic to communicate with between husband and wife. Try to let your lover understand your life, see the shining points in her, grow together, and meet a better future.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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