Qian Zhongshu said: Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out. But Mr. Qian Zhongshu missed several kinds of people, that is, some people outside the city yearn for freedom and do not want to go in; while some peop

Qian Zhongshu said: Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out.

But Mr. Qian Zhongshu missed several kinds of people, that is, some people outside the city yearn for freedom and do not want to go in; while some people in the city are immersed in it because of their happy marriage and do not want to go out.

A thousand different people have different views and expectations for marriage due to different partners. Just as I, who have gone through hardships, met him, who was 56 years old, and was destined to enter marriage.

Self-reporter: Qian Xiaoning, 48 years old

My name is Qian Xiaoning, I am 48 years old this year. People who know me say that I am now radiant, and I am just over teenager than the haggard Qian Xiaoning.

What they don’t know is that Qian Xiaoning used to be ashamed, but now I am rejuvenated by the nourishment of love.

My ex-husband Luo Hao, five years older than me, suddenly cerebral hemorrhage when he was 50, causing him to suffer from hemiplegia. His parents and sister came to see him in grief and then there was no news.

I took him with me to see a doctor in major famous hospitals, hoping to see a turnaround. However, I was disappointed. I spent all my savings and even owed debts, but I couldn't make him better.

He was paralyzed for two years. I took care of him while going to work. I got up at six o'clock every morning, washed his face, brushed his teeth, prepared breakfast, fed him, and changed his diapers, so I hurried to work. I had to run back to take care of him when I was resting at noon.

I also want to hire a nanny. I am so tired. I weighed 120 kilograms before my ex-husband got sick. Two years later, when I passed away, I only had 80 kilograms left! At that time, I dreamed that someone would help me, but I was disappointed!

After my ex-husband passed away, I became a withered old woman. In the past two years, it is no exaggeration to say that I have experienced the hardships of life and seen the coldness of the world in the world.

A year after my ex-husband passed away, under the introduction of my best friend, I met the current Luo Xiangnan. Although he was 56 years old, he was as clean and refreshing as a young man of seventeen or eighteen years old. What’s even more incredible is that when this old guy, who was eight years older than me, appeared in front of me, it was like a ray of sunshine shining into my hazy heart.

At that moment, I suddenly remembered that I was also a woman, and I also longed for someone to love and love.

At first I called him Mr. Luo, and he smiled and said, "Xiao Ning, you call me Mr. Luo, which makes me feel very strange. Look, I am eight years older than you, and I happen to be your elder brother. You can call me Brother Luo in the future."

I have formally dated Brother Luo. He is an electrical engineer in the same factory. During the day, we go to our respective shifts. At night, he will come to my house and play the symphony of pots and pans in the world with me, stir-fry a few side dishes, drink a glass of red wine, and tell the truth. We are in love. Half a year after such a partnership, Brother Luo said: "Xiaoning, if you agree, let's go and get married! Look, we are so young now, and we will be together for decades in the future. If we don't have a marriage, we don't feel that being together is not a big deal!"

But we are going to get married, but we are strongly opposed and obstructed by both children.

My daughter opposes my marriage with Brother Luo. She said that I am old, why are you still getting married? She also said that only two years after her father passed away, I married another man, which made her doubt my feelings for her father.

Her words made me feel heartbroken. I went to work alone to take care of a man who was paralyzed in bed for two years and lost forty kilograms. If I had no feelings, how could I do it? Now that he is gone, can I have to keep a lifelong slim for him and not start to have a new relationship?

Brother Luo's son has grown up and has given birth to a child. He opposed our marriage. Brother Luo lives in an elevator room with three bedrooms and two living rooms. As an electrical engineer, he earns about 15,000 yuan a month and has a certain amount of savings in his hand. If Brother Luo no longer looks for a partner, he will leave it to him in the future. If Brother Luo comes to me, his son will definitely not agree, for fear that I will compete with him for Brother Luo's property.

Brother Luo didn't listen to his son. In order to oppose Brother Luo, his son finally threatened us by severing the father-son relationship.

I was heartbroken and told Brother Luo that the children all opposed it, otherwise let it go, right? Let's live together.

He disagreed. He said that we have lived for most of our lives, and the children have their own work and homes, so why do we have to decide the rest of our lives?

We asked for the certificate, did not hold a drink, nor did we tell both children. We decided to cherish and care for each other in the future and live a good life for ourselves once in the rest of our lives.

I would like to ask everyone, we have worked hard to raise our children, and they have their own jobs and homes. Do we, as parents, have to listen to them all our lives and spend our old age based on their interests? Can't we live a good life for ourselves?

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