Raising children to prevent old age is a tradition of thousands of years. In ancient times, filial piety, there was no problem with this method. But now the times have changed. Young people are paying more and more attention to freedom and independence, and are unwilling to live

Raising children to prevent old age is a tradition of thousands of years. In ancient times, filial piety, there was no problem with this method. But now the times have changed. Young people are paying more and more attention to freedom and independence, and are unwilling to live with the elderly, so they have also been greatly reduced in terms of filial piety and care for the elderly.

Some young people are willing but not able to do it, and objective conditions force them to be unable to stay by their parents and be filial. For example, if the children work outside the country and their parents live in their hometown, if the children return to their hometown, they will not make any money; if the elderly are taken to another country, the elderly will be unable to get away from their hometown, so they are "a dilemma of loyalty and filial piety."

The objective situation has changed, and the concepts of the elderly must also change. We cannot stubbornly insist on raising children to prevent old age. If you hold on to this idea, you may be disappointed. Children are becoming increasingly unreliable these days.

After the old lady failed to raise her children to prevent her old age, she found a new way to support her.

Aunt Liu originally lived with her husband in the countryside. The old couple took care of each other and had a good relationship. My son and his family live in the city. During the festival, the three of them will come back to see each other. It is rare for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to meet, so they are polite.

But later, Aunt Liu's wife suddenly died of a cerebral hemorrhage, and Aunt Liu was very sad. Originally, the old couple took care of each other, so the son didn't have to worry about them. Anyway, if one had something to do, the other would definitely call him immediately.

Now Aunt Liu is alone. She is immersed in the pain of losing her husband all day long, and her son is very worried that she will have something wrong. Aunt Liu is also very uncomfortable with life alone. When she eats, she will unconsciously serve two bowls of rice; when she sleeps, she will call her husband's name in the middle of the night; when she sits alone, she will talk to her husband to herself...

After her son discussed with her daughter-in-law, she decided to take Aunt Liu to the city for retirement, and Aunt Liu felt very pleased. So after arriving at her son's house, she slowly walked out of the pain and was no longer so sad.

Aunt Liu got better slowly, and her daughter-in-law asked her to help with housework. At the beginning, Aunt Liu had no objection. Everyone should help each other with each other. But since Aunt Liu started doing housework, her daughter-in-law gradually stopped doing everything and asked Aunt Liu to do everything, and Aunt Liu became more and more tired.

Does the daughter-in-law still don’t give Aunt Liu food expenses. In fact, since Aunt Liu is asked to buy vegetables, she should pay for Aunt Liu’s purchase of vegetables. But my daughter-in-law thinks that Aunt Liu has a pension, so she uses the pension to buy vegetables! Aunt Liu thought she only had one son, and her money would not be all her son and daughter-in-law in the future, so she agreed.

can slowly not only buy groceries, but also various other expenses, such as water and electricity bills, gas bills, property bills, daily necessities, etc., all of which are borne by Aunt Liu. Aunt Liu felt that she couldn't bear it anymore. She only had 3,000 yuan in pension per month. Now she paid it all to her son's house and had to use her deposits.

The son doesn't care about these things at home. The financial power lies in the hands of his daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law refuses to take out the money, so Aunt Liu can only pay out of her own pocket. Therefore, the conflict between Aunt Liu and her daughter-in-law gradually arose. Her daughter-in-law always complains that the clothes she washed are not clean, the dishes she cooks are not delicious, the floor is not dragged in time, etc.

Aunt Liu thinks that she is not in her son’s house to support her elderly care? It is obvious that he is a servant at his son's house, but he is not as good as a servant! The servant still has wages, but not only does she have no wages, she also has to pay for it! Not only did she pay for money, she also had to suffer!

Aunt Liu lived at his daughter-in-law's house for half a year, one day, when her daughter-in-law thought that the food made by Aunt Liu was not delicious, Aunt Liu finally couldn't bear it anymore. She had a big fight with her daughter-in-law. After the fight, Aunt Liu returned to the countryside angrily.

Aunt Liu decided that she would never go to her son's house again, and she would not rely on her son to support her. She lived in her son's house for half a year. Every time her daughter-in-law complained that she was not good, her son never came out to protect her once, and she was very upset.

Now, after returning to the countryside, Aunt Liu is in a mixed mood when facing life alone.She felt lonely and worried about what if she had a headache and fever? If you fall to the ground and don’t have a cell phone around you, others don’t even know, how can you save her?

One day, Aunt Liu suddenly thought of mutual assistance. She formed mutual assistance with the old ladies in the village. Can’t she solve many problems? So Aunt Liu went to the old ladies and told them what they thought, but they didn't expect that everyone would respond positively. Aunt Liu organized everyone to visit the ecological park, dance square dance together, etc.

When my son came to visit Aunt Liu on the weekend, Aunt Liu asked her to teach her to use a smartphone, and then she went to teach other old ladies. Then these old ladies built an old ladies group, and the group leader was Aunt Liu.

Under Aunt Liu's organization, the old ladies often get together. If anyone has something to do, just squeak in the group, others will go and help immediately. One night, Aunt Liu sent a message in the group that she felt uncomfortable. Everyone immediately asked her with concern. Aunt Ji and Aunt Song even went to sleep with her all night.

Since the establishment of this old lady group, the old ladies seem to have found an organization, and the old ladies with their children outside the country seem to have reliance on them. Aunt Liu helped everyone solve various problems. She was busy every day and became very fulfilled and was not lonely at all.

Everyone is helping each other. If you can avoid trouble your children, try not to trouble your children. After Aunt Zhang in the village fell ill, Aunt Liu organized several aunts to take turns to accompany her. Aunt Zhang's son and daughter-in-law were in another place. They were very moved after they rushed back.

Aunt Liu found this new way of retirement, and her life suddenly became better. She no longer had to go to her son's house to see her daughter-in-law's expression. In fact, there are many old ladies who have similar situations to Aunt Liu, so they all responded positively to Aunt Liu and formed a mutually aided retirement.

In terms of elderly care, the elderly should learn to help each other

For those empty-nest elderly people whose children are not around, elderly care is really a problem. Some people will choose to live in a nursing home, but others are unwilling to go to a nursing home. For them, nursing homes are a strange place after all, and they are other people's territory. How can they be better than their own homes?

Golden nests and silver nests are not as good as their own grass nests. The home that has lived for a lifetime is the most familiar place. The elderly are very familiar with what is placed in the house. If the elderly have poor adaptability to the environment, they are unwilling to change places to live. Therefore, they will not want to leave their homes and live in nursing homes.

may be forced to go to their children's homes or nursing homes after they do not have the ability to take care of themselves. In fact, for elderly people who still have the ability to take care of themselves, mutual aid care is also good. When they really can’t move, they will go to their children’s homes or nursing homes.

People should help each other, and the elderly should help each other even more. Everyone is an elderly person, so it is easier to communicate and understand each other better. This is much easier than communicating with their children. Therefore, the elderly should learn to help each other, join together to keep warm as much as possible, and make their lives in their later years better.

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