I had a phone call with my mother last night. Since I lived in a different place, I would have a phone call with my mother almost every few days, and it was nothing, I just reported my safety and talked about family matters. As usual, I asked if I had eaten? What are you eating?

I had a phone call with my mother last night. Since I lived in a different place, I would have a phone call with my mother almost every few days. It was nothing, I just reported my safety and talked about family matters.

answered the phone and asked if you had eaten? What are you eating? Are you busy? What's the matter. Afterwards, my mother said that my uncle had a physical problem again and one eye seemed to have to be removed. She went to the hospital for treatment a few days ago, and it cost more than 5,000 yuan to get an injection. There seems to be a lump in your aunt's breasts, and the doctor must also make the surgery.

Because my aunt only has two daughters and their children are very young, my cousin’s family can’t leave if she has something to do. My cousin is now quarantined at home due to the epidemic, and she needs to wait for her eldest cousin’s wife to come back from Beijing during the National Day holiday before she can take them to the hospital for treatment.

My uncle removed one gallbladder and half of the kidney at the beginning of this year. Now it is because of complications of hypertension and that may cause blindness in one eye. Although my uncle had a bad temper when he was young, he had been doing business and making money. Later, I don’t know if his business failed and frustrated in the past few years. Anyway, his temperament changed drastically and he didn’t work all day long. He also asked for trouble every day and quarreled with my aunt, and he didn’t care about anything at home. He was extremely selfish. In the past few years, my aunt also helped to take care of her two cousin’s children. She worked hard for years, especially my uncle always asked for trouble, which made my aunt angry and stagnant, which caused her breasts to become lumps and needed surgery.

Women really can't always get angry. "All diseases are caused by qi". What are thyroid nodules , breast cancer , and uterine cancer, are all caused by women's long-term depression, and many of the culprits are because of the men around them. Especially the harm between husband and wife is invisible, continuous and huge.

After listening to my mother's words, I was really mixed with emotion. On the one hand, I felt sorry for my aunt. She was gentle and very beautiful when she was young. She was a typical good wife and mother who had to suffer this crime when she was old. On the one hand, I also advise women in the world not to ignore their own feelings, protect their bodies and moods, not to be stubborn when encountering problems, and not to give their lives to a man. Destiny should be in his own hands and try to make himself happy. A bad man is his own problem, and we must value ourselves.

Men can ignore those meaningless gossips, selectively block them, don’t let their emotions affect themselves, and just take care of what they can, and let go if they can’t control them. Live your own life well and just treat it as a companion. Don’t use too high standards to demand the other party. Life is fleeting, and we cannot predict many things at all and we can’t do anything. In the end, each of us has to face everything in life alone, treat him as a friend of our journey, restrain our complaints, lower expectations, pay more attention to ourselves, cherish ourselves, and stay away from diseases.