Introduction
Can people live happily when they are old, they don’t have to worry about food and clothing, and they have pocket money? Aunt Jiang, 67, looked disagreeable. She said: I just want to cry, and escaping may be the best choice.
Conveyor: 67-year-old Aunt Jiang
I am Aunt Jiang, 67 years old this year. I currently live with my son, have food and clothing, and have 1,000 yuan in pocket money every month, but I don’t feel happy.
Maybe some people will say, I have too many good days, I have food and clothing, and I have pocket money, but I am not happy. So, how should those who have no pocket money and no pension live? Are they not alive anymore?
For this, I can only say that when looking at the problem, I should not only look at the surface. On the surface, I should be very happy, but what about the reality?
Three years ago, I went to his son’s house to take care of his old age at his son’s invitation. At first I didn’t want to go there. In my opinion, my son has their lives and I can still move, so there is no need to complain about it.
So I discussed with my son that I would not go to his place to support me for the rest of my life. Just live your life well and come back to see me when you have time.
Although I only have one person, I can take good care of myself. You don’t have to worry about me. When I need your care, we will discuss how to live.
But no matter how my son persuaded him, he said: You are my mother, I don’t take care of you, who will take care of you? You are old and your health is not as good as before. I will take you to our side to take care of you, and I feel more at ease.
Let’s not talk about anything else. If you have something urgent and we are not by your side, what will you do? Don’t always feel that you are still young, so don’t take it seriously. I heard that there was an aunt living alone near the community where we live suddenly and something happened to her. It took several hours to be discovered.
If there were someone around this aunt, she would not have waited for several hours to be discovered. Isn’t this a delay? So, you'd better live with us so that we won't always worry about you.
Although my son said this, I still don’t want to be unified. I think I have to be in good health. I refused again, just don’t want to cause trouble for my son.
Seeing that my son couldn't persuade me, he found relatives and friends to do ideological work for me. I wanted to be quiet, so I could only agree to go to my son for retirement.
Less than two days at my son's house, my daughter-in-law suddenly chatted with me. She said straight to the point: You actually came to our family to take care of your elderly care, and you need to go according to the rhythm of our life. As juniors, we are responsible for you. In the future, you will give you 1,000 pocket money every month and spend whatever you want.
You don’t have to worry about what you eat and drink at home, and you can live a peaceful life. If you have any needs, you can tell us that we will meet your needs.
My daughter-in-law's words made me very happy. I think they are really filial to me and have the heart to enjoy a happy life.
I didn't expect that I was so happy too early. These all came at a price. The next day, my daughter-in-law started asking me to help them do things.
First, I asked me to cook for them early, and then I helped them take care of their children. My son said it very well. You are old and have less sleep. You are idle and have nothing to do in the early days. Let’s help us make breakfast. We are very tired at work every day and very busy at work. Usually we can’t get up in the morning, so we can only work hard.
I also feel sorry for my son. I agreed without saying anything about what my son said. After all, I am still very happy to help them.
They are busy at work, and I have time. In addition to giving them breakfast every day, I will also take the initiative to help them clean up their housework.
just didn't expect that things would go endlessly after opening this hole. My time every day is gradually filled with trivial matters and I have no free time.
I am very busy every day, and I am very tired. I woke up at 6 a.m. and I was about to start preparing my family’s breakfast. I helped to send my grandson out to school at around 7 o'clock.
After sending the child, he packed up the rice bowls that his sons had eaten, mop the floor, and wash clothes when he came back. Prepare lunch, cook lunch, and go pick up your grandson.I have to send my grandson to school after 1:00 in the afternoon, pick up the children at around 4:00, take them, prepare supper, etc.
I live a very busy day every day. During the weekdays, I help with these things, so it’s okay to take care of the children. During the holidays, my son and the others were not helping at all and became the boss.
I asked them to do something, and they said they could finally take a break and let me do it by myself, don’t bother them, they can do whatever they want, and I just need to take care of myself.
Alas, I really feel unhappy. This is not about retirement. It is obvious that they have to have free nannies. Although they don’t have to worry about food and drink, they also have 1,000 pocket money every month, but I have to pay more than this money.
Look at my life, I’m busy all over the place every day, and I don’t have my own time at all, so where can I spend money! Not to mention that it was almost half a year since I came to my son, and they never took me out for a walk or had a delicious meal.
After all, I am old and I am busy every day, so my body can't stand it. I want to take a break, relax, and want my sons and the others to share their own responsibilities.
However, every time they spoke, they interrupted me impatiently, saying that I was idle at home every day and I was so tired.
I can only say that the pain is not on my own, and they cannot empathize. I have only been in my son's house for half a year, but I have already filled with the problem of back pain.
That's fine, I am their mother, I will accept it if I can help them. What I can't accept is the new request they made a year later.
My son has a loan for their house, which is about 7,000 yuan per month, and my pension is more than 3,000 yuan per month. They made up my idea of retirement.
complained to me: We have a monthly mortgage of 7,000, and the two of us have just enough money to make, so we don’t dare to spend it at all. You have a pension of more than 3,000 yuan a month. Can you take it out to help us relieve stress?
is not that we want your money, but that life pressure has been very high recently. The company's performance is not good. I haven't paid my salary for a few months. It's hard to find a job now. Faced with so many mortgages, I dare not change jobs at will, nor dare to lose my job. You are my mother, so I can only ask for help from you.
I think so, if you have a monthly pension of more than 3,000 yuan, you can give 3,000 yuan to help us relieve stress. What do you think? You don’t have much money to spend when you follow us to retire. Even if you support us, you still have some money, which is enough for you to spend.
Facing my son's request, I hadn't answered yet, and my daughter-in-law took the lead: What's the point of discussing this? We are all a family. Now that the family is in trouble, my mother is definitely willing to help us. To put it bluntly, we are not the only one living in this house. My mother also lives here, so of course we have to do our best.
Nowadays, houses are easy to rent. Even if you rent one, you can get more than 1,000 yuan in rent. Someone can share the water and electricity bills. Isn’t this an income? Our requirements are not too much, I believe my mother can understand it.
You took out this money, which has helped us a lot. We will thank you. This money is used properly, and it is not a waste of money.
Faced with the crying of my son and daughter-in-law and the little words, I felt so crying without tears. If I have this money, I am willing to help them, but the problem is that we have it.
has lived with them for more than a year. Except for the fact that they had to take care of their family at the beginning, after I took over the housework, they were less and less.
My pension is only so much, and they have to subsidize them. Faced with their request this time, I can only refuse. I have to leave some way out for myself and can't spend everything in my son's house.
Faced with my rejection, my son advised: You only have me, and you will definitely rely on me for your retirement in the future. It is really not possible. Let’s deal with the old house at home, so that we will be under much less pressure.
I am not happy about this either. The old house is the house where my wife and I have lived for half of our lives, and it is also my way of retreat.
My son also disagreed with this and that one, and became angry.He said unhappily: We have difficulties and need your help. You are not happy with this and that. Do you want to support us? Are we not good to you? We brought you here to support you for retirement, so that you will not have to worry about food and drink, and also give you 1,000 yuan in pocket money every month. We are in trouble, so why are you unwilling to reach out?
For my son's words, I just smiled and said nothing. Are they really good to me? I think we should know everything in our hearts. I have always come to his house. It is really a free nanny. I work hard and I am not grateful for it.
Is that 1,000 yuan enough for the nanny fee? How great I subsidized them? Don’t they know what they thought? Now I still want to get my old capital and want me to buy a house, I can't agree.
I have to think about it for me in the future. When I sell my house, lose money, and get old, can I have a happy old age in my life with their way of doing things? I don't believe it, I can't block the back.
Now, thinking about it, I regret it very much. Why did I promise them to come to their home for retirement? Not only did my leisurely life disappear, I also did not give it thanks, but I was not grateful, but I was levied by all kinds of parents.
is written at the end
people in their old age should know how to take good care of themselves first, and then consider helping their children. They should not let their old age have no way out just because of helping them. I would rather not live with them than give my future guarantees.
Houses and pensions are the cornerstone of happiness in their old age and also a way out. You cannot move at any time. No matter how much help the child needs or how short of money he or she cannot hand over these things.
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