In "Fortress Besieged", the marriage of the protagonist Fang Hongjian and his wife Sun Roujia was not favored by both families. The two were in a dilemma and had enough grievances to vent their grievances on each other. Fang Hongjian vented his anger on his wife, but also found t

In " Besieged ", the marriage of the protagonist Fang Hongjian and his wife Sun Roujia was not favored by the two families. The two were in a dilemma and had enough grievances to vent their grievances on each other. Fang Hongjian vented his anger on his wife, but also found the convenience of having a wife when he was angry: "In the past, when I was angry, I had to keep it in my heart and couldn't vent it at will. No one was anyone's punching bag. But it's different now. No one can be as happy as he is with his wife when he loses his temper. Needless to say, friends have to break up, servants have to go on strike, and only the wife is like the wine bag of the god of wind in Homer . After all, divorce is not easy. "

Men with such thoughts are speechless. But look around us, how many people are polite and pleasant outside, and treat others like a gentle breeze, which makes people feel like a spring breeze. But when we get home, we don’t know where the calmness has gone. If it's salty, it's bland, it's not to your liking, it's often impatient, it's irritating, and it can get angry even if it's trivial matters like helping children with their homework, with a ferocious look on its face. Family members, because of their closeness, were innocently injured.

We all seem to have become accustomed to keeping a safe distance from strangers, or setting up precautions to prevent dangers before they happen. But in front of relatives, he seems to be covered with thorns. He always shows his teeth and claws unscrupulously and never wants to wrong himself. Psychologists say that this may be because we always feel that the relationship with our relatives and lovers is too close, so we subconsciously think that the other party can tolerate everything about us, and everything we do for ourselves is natural, especially for couples. They understand each other almost thoroughly but can never accept it calmly. They complain to each other that they can't find any similarities. They are tolerant of the shortcomings of outsiders but always sharply criticize the embarrassment of those closest to them. Sometimes they even tell each other how to give up. Heartbreaking words, as if any outsider could easily take the other's place.

However, it seems that only when we really leave, do we understand that perhaps what we miss most is the initial warmth. We can smile at a stranger, we can lend a helping hand to a passerby, but we can always hurt the people closest to us without mercy, showing our most rebellious side to the people who love us most. How many people will find high-sounding excuses for hurting their loved ones, making love and family affection the furthest distance in the world. It's just that the people closest to us are always kind to us without any defense, but we are most likely to ignore it, take it for granted, and don't care about them. And only the relatives who love us the most have witnessed almost all our bad tempers and silently endured all our negative emotions. Many people are like this. It is very easy to say "dear", "I like you" and "love you" to friends; but it is very difficult to say "thank you", "sorry" and "I love you" to family members. My heart is full of love, but I can’t express it. ”

Relatives and loved ones are the most important people in each of our lives, but in fact we are the most likely to become hysterical about them. Even a person with a good temper often becomes hysterical. Love is angry with those close to it. Maybe, it's just that we feel like this relationship is relatively safe territory and it's easier to express our true feelings.

Dear, if you try not to hurt the people closest to you, you will be happier. Step by step, I run forward. Are you still waiting for me under the light?

The rest of your life is short, cherish every moment spent with your loved ones.

and dear you encourage each other!

Yidian Zhang Jixia

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