Author: Yang Xiaoyang Editor: Jia Fangfang Source: Marriage and Family Magazine Walking into a small courtyard in the suburbs of Shunyi, Beijing, the hostess was playing with a pot of succulents: "Plants have feedback to people. If you take care of them every day, your mood will

Author: Yang Xiaoyang Editor: Jia Fangfang

Source: Marriage and Family Magazine

Walking into a small courtyard in the suburbs of Shunyi, Beijing, the hostess was playing with a pot of succulents: "Plants have feedback to people. If you take care of them every day, your mood will change involuntarily. It will get better." Her voice was loud and her movements were strong. She did not look like a cancer patient who had been living with tumors for 8 years.

The male owner came out of the house after hearing the sound. He had dark skin and was wearing a sportswear tightly wrapped around his strong muscles. He joked: "You, you look at these flowers and plants every day now and don't even look at me." Seeing his lover The hostess was not in a hurry, her eyes had already been set on the male host.

The two looked at each other and smiled, which warmed the whole courtyard.

The hostess Fan Yu is from Xinjiang. She graduated from the People's Public Security University of China and has two years of police experience. The male host, Hong Hongxing, is Taiwanese, 9 years younger than Fan Yu. He loves extreme sports and is bohemian and free, but he is willing to stay by his lover's side and wash her hands and make soup for her.

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Encounter: Apart from life and death, everything is trivial

In 2003, after her divorce, Fan Yu moved out of the big house she lived with her ex-husband with her 5-year-old son Lele. In order to create a better growth environment for Lele, Fan Yu found a high-paying, high-pressure job. He spent most of the year on business trips, almost all year round.

In September 2014, Fan Yu completed the big project that he had followed for 8 years, and his career entered its golden period. Lele also went to study abroad, but she suffered from brain cancer. Without surgery, her life would be in danger, and surgery may lead to hemiplegia , aphasia or even death.

The day she was diagnosed was Fan Yu’s 43rd birthday. She locked herself in the car and cried bitterly. Looking back on the first half of my life, I have always been a so-called successful person: I have a decent job, a rich house, and a wonderful son, but all of this has never been the life I want. She wanted freedom and a real life, but in the end she became a machine that only made money.

people are not machines after all. Cancer is the ultimatum given by her body: she must stop! Bet on an uncertain future or seize the moment? Fan Yu chose the latter, giving up surgery and receiving conservative treatment. While he could still move, he could live the life he wanted. Even if his life was short, at least he had truly lived it.

Fan Yu stopped all work, made a bucket list, and started to realize it one by one.

loved painting since she was a child, but her father thought she had no future, so she put down her paintbrush and put on a military uniform. So, let’s start with drawing. She studied under a teacher and painted a butterfly with broken wings but still fluttering its wings with one stroke to encourage herself.

She threw off her high heels, put on sportswear, went for long-distance running, fought, and fought against her fate. She signed up for the Antarctic expedition, and made an appointment with her best friend Jingjing to set off on the expedition ship a year later...

During this process, Fan Yu insisted on chemotherapy and traditional Chinese medicine. After half a year, the tumor shrank a lot, and the doctor surprisingly told her that she would not need surgery for the time being. Yes, but you should insist on reviewing it every 3 months. Fan Yu breathed a sigh of relief and plucked up the courage to move towards the next wish on the list: to have an unforgettable love!

Divorce made Fan Yu no longer dare to hope for love. When she met a suitor, she hid at work and pretended that she didn't need it. As time passed, she really thought she had become Superwoman. Until this time when she got cancer, the loneliness and fragility of seeing a doctor and taking medicine alone rekindled her desire for love.

After falling ill, Fan Yu began to learn to cook by himself. The food program "Top Chef" was the best teacher. However, in addition to bringing dishes to the table, she also wants to invite her boyfriend home.

The male idol is Hong Hongxing, a contestant in the show. He is dressed in tendons and looks bohemian, but he can make extremely fine carved food. He loves sports, food and understands life. Fan Yu's heart is filled with love when he sees it: "How lucky must you be to be able to eat To the food he cooked for me? "

Fate is so wonderful. At a brand launch conference, Fan Yu had just sat down when a man sat down next to him.

She looked up and was very excited: "You are Hong Hongxing, right? I have watched "Top Chef" many times, and I think you are the champion!" She thought she would be so nervous that she could not speak when she saw the male idol. , who would have thought that when I actually saw it, the opening would be so straightforward.

Hong Hongxing has met many fans, but this is the first one who is as straightforward as Fan Yu. He smiled gentlemanly and soon started chatting with her.

He is Taiwanese, 9 years younger than Fan Yu. He came from a poor family since he was a child. He started studying and learning to cook at the age of 14, and became a chef in his early 20s. Ten years later, he wanted to change his lifestyle, started a finance business from scratch, and was promoted to manager. Later, he fell in love with playing Muay Thai , and he won the championship twice in a row. Now he is a regular guest on various food and sports programs and returns to Taiwan every two to three months.

This kind of life makes Fan Yu admire him endlessly. He has already realized the free life he wants; what he is learning is all what he is good at. The Hong Hongxing in front of him is more dazzling than in the show. When she heard that he was also divorced and had a son, Fan Yu couldn't stop talking.

We met for the first time and had a great conversation. Before leaving, Hong Hongxing took the initiative to add Fan Yu's WeChat account: "What a coincidence, I have to go back to Taiwan tomorrow. I hope I can see you again when I return to Beijing."

Later, the two chatted. Talking about children, the two hearts slowly get closer. Hong Hongxing will leave a message to Fan Yu when he has any activities: Where am I going now, how are you, what delicious food did you cook today? Fan Yu felt as if he was in love. As long as Hong Hongxing replied a little later, his heart would be agitated. But she quickly denied this feeling: He has such good conditions and is still so young, how can I be worthy of him?

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Falling in love: Love is the best medicine in the world

Unlike Fan Yu’s indecision, Hong Hongxing has made up his mind. After the divorce, he had never met the person he loved, but Fan Yu, whom he met once, made him miss him.

She is capable but not forceful, transparent and wise, and her unique cheerfulness and warmth always make him easily let go of his guard and involuntarily want to share everything with her. Before returning to Beijing, he took the initiative to confess: "Let's be together!"

Fan Yu was happy but scared, and didn't know how to reply. Hong Hongxing chased after him and said: "I am engaged in a high-risk profession. Next time I go to record a flight program, maybe you will never see me again."

Fan Yu sent several angry emoticons, blaming him for not speaking up. Lucky words. Hong Hongxing shared with her the movie "The Embalmer" he had watched: "Everyone will pass away. What we can do is to try to reduce regrets in life, not to avoid life and death, and not to hide from true feelings. I hope we can all respect our hearts."

Fan Yu was immediately struck: I have worked hard for half my life and have never followed my heart. If I can fall in love with such a transparent person, I will have no regrets in this life.

I was so happy when I agreed, but I was so confused when we met again. Fan Yu didn't know how to explain to him that he was a cancer patient. Soon, the opportunity came. The date to go to Antarctica has been decided and cannot be postponed any longer.

That night, Fan Yu, who never drank, opened a bottle of red wine and said he wanted to talk to Hong Hongxing. Hong Hongxing was worried that he had done something wrong, and tried hard to hide his nervousness and said, "Tell me, what do you want to talk to me about?"

Fan Yu plucked up the courage to pour the wine and said, "I'm sick, a very serious illness: brain cancer." .Hong Hongxing breathed a long sigh of relief: "I thought you were going to tell me that you were actually a man, but it turned out to be cancer." It’s not a big deal. My dad is a patient with tongue cancer. He used to smoke and drink alcohol without restraint, but after he got sick, he learned to take care of himself. "

Hong Hongxing's maturity once again allowed Fan Yu to break his guard. It turned out that there were so many difficult stories behind his sunny and optimistic character. A force slowly rose in her heart. If there was still a tomorrow, she was willing to support each other with him. .

When she learned that Fan Yu was going to Antarctica, her relatives and friends strongly opposed it. Jingjing was a little worried, and Fan Yu also backed down. Only Hong Hongxing encouraged her: "If you go, you will fulfill yourself; if you don't go, no one can make up for you." regret. Don’t worry about accidents and which one will come first tomorrow, just do whatever comes to mind and don’t leave any regrets. " Fan Yu immediately called Jingjing: "Dear, go to Antarctica! "With the support of my lover, I feel confident to take any risks.

html More than 320 days later, Fan Yu returned to Beijing safely. She completed another item on her bucket list and was very happy. What made her even more happy was that when she went to the hospital for a review, she was surrounded by people around her. many They got a companion - Hong Hongxing, and they are officially together!

Hong Hongxing invited Fan Yu to go back to Taiwan with him to meet his family. Fan Yu was very nervous, worried that he would not be accepted. Hong Hongxing immediately reassured Fan Yu: "Don't worry, I have been since childhood. My parents all respect me, including the people I love. "

The behavior of his family made Fan Yu completely reassured. Hong's father and mother Hong were very enthusiastic and liked her very much. Hong Hongxing's son Xiaozhu was also very close to her and even returned to Beijing with them.

However, in the face of Fan Yu’s family is not at ease. His father is angry: “He is 9 years younger than you and is a Taiwanese. Can we live together? Lele was dissatisfied: "What's so good about him? Why do you fall in love with him?" "He often gets emotional over trivial matters, and the relationship between mother and son is extremely tense.

At this time, the mother quietly started to do the work of her father. She said that Fan Yu has been a good boy since he was a child, and he has tried his best to be a good wife and mother. It's just that I haven't treated myself well. Now that half of my life has passed and I am seriously ill, it is rare to truly live for yourself. It is rare to meet someone who truly loves you. Parents, you must support me.

Hong Hongxing used practical actions to support Fan Yu. While being kind to Fan Yu as always, he dispelled Fan's father's concerns; at the same time, he got along with Lele like friends, cooking for him, taking him to watch movies, and spending time with him. Things I like.

Before going abroad, Lele said to Hong Hongxing: "It's hard for my mother to be alone, so you have to love her well. Before getting on the plane, he sent Fan Yu another WeChat message: "Mom, you want to be happy!" I love you! "Fan Yu burst into tears.

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stay together: only by letting go can you free up your hands to live.

In order to better help Fan Yu recover, Hong Hongxing followed the doctor's advice and took her to exercise more and get in touch with nature, running in the mountains and rivers of Yading, Daocheng, Sichuan, and walking under the stars in the desert of Inner Mongolia... During the re-examination in October 2016, Fan Yu's brain tumor shrank by 30%. l0

After his health improved, Fan Yu began to make more breakthroughs with Hong Hongxing: participating in the Xinjiang Kanas cross-country competition together. Worried that Fan Yu could not keep up with the physical strength, Hong Hongxing personally made a rope with rings at both ends and tied one end. He held Fan Yu's hand. ml4

On the mountain road for dozens of kilometers, listening to Hong Hongxing's breathing getting heavier and heavier, and seeing his body leaning forward, Fan Yu couldn't bear it and secretly unlocked the lock. Hong Hongxing returned and fastened it without saying a word. On the body, I am down-to-earth.

That night, Fan Yu wrote on WeChat: "What Yue Lao gave to others is a red thread, and what he prepared for us is this traction rope... This is a token of our lives.""

Outdoor sports have become a life that Fan Yu loves. She decided to open a fitness store to do a real thing for this love.

Hong Hongxing was worried about her body, and Fan Yu acted coquettishly with him: "You used to I often say that even if I only have one day left in my life, I should do what I want to do. What I want to do most now is open a store. Hong Hongxing was worried and made a three-part agreement with her: "I will take care of all the big and small things, and you can just be the boss's wife."

Fan Yu is not willing to take any time off. She does everything from selecting partners to recruiting clerks and decorating the store. When the first store opened, she lamented to Hong Hongxing: "In the past, I was pushed by life, and I didn't care about making money." I am happy, but I have lost my original intention in life. Now I really love it, this is the life I want. "The fitness store was so popular that it became a fitness check-in place for Internet celebrities. Soon they opened a branch in Qingdao .

After the Spring Festival in 2020, Fan Yu felt dizzy and numb in his arms again. Mu, because of the epidemic, was unable to go to the hospital in time. When he went for a check-up, he found that the meningioma on his right side had grown to more than 4 centimeters and surrounded the arteries. The doctor recommended surgery as soon as possible.

In the past, Fan Yu was afraid of surgery and worried that he would not be able to undergo surgery. Taiwan, I’m worried that I haven’t recovered yet If she fell in love and was paralyzed, her life would be in vain. This time, she was still afraid of leaving Hong Hongxing alone in the world. She was afraid that she would be paralyzed and unable to love him anymore. Hong Hongxing laughed at her for being timid. In fact, he was already. I have prepared for the worst, even if she becomes paralyzed, I will take care of her for the rest of her life.

God is always more kind to those who love her. The operation was successful, and Fan Yu recovered well. However, a cavity was created due to the removal of a piece of her brain, so the doctor suggested that Hong Hongxing immediately decided to close the store. Accompany Fan Yu to recover well. He asked Fan Yu: "Every wish list you made before has come true. What dreams do you still have now?" Let’s make it happen together. "

Fan Yu has always had a pastoral dream in her heart. There were too many things she couldn't let go of before. When life sounded the alarm again, she didn't want to delay it any longer, but she was worried that the countryside was closed and monotonous, and the days were getting dull. She didn't know whether she could bear this feeling. You can live with it. Hong Hongxing seemed to see through her worries and encouraged her: "Don't think so much, we can live whatever life we ​​want, and solve problems when we encounter them." "

Now, they have moved to a farmhouse in the suburbs of Shunyi, with the quietly flowing Chaobai River just outside their door. The two of them worked together to decorate their new home brick by brick.

Before the Spring Festival, Fan Yu often felt numbness in his hands. Couldn't sleep all night, Hong Hongxing's temper was a little more irritable. He was neither angry nor annoyed. He stayed with her and said, "Insomnia, let's just accept it and don't think about it too much." He read a book and fell asleep with her, "You can feel more at ease with me." "Some"; baking with her, the fragrance overflows and washes away all the worries. ...

During the Winter Olympics, they also kept pace with the times and built a self-made ice rink, Hong Hong. Starry Eyes skates with a smile; Fan Yu watches lovingly under the ice rink, their eyes intertwined, dissipating the cold winter. Spring is here, they embrace the spring scenery together, Hong Hongxing renovates the soil, Fan Yu sows seeds, hydrangeas , tulips . The schedule is open. Fan Yu takes photos and posts them to WeChat, and Hong Hongxing always likes them on every post.

Now, the two of them have written a new life list together: when the COVID-19 epidemic dissipates, they will go abroad to see the gardening there, and when they come back, they will make the small courtyard into an unparalleled beautiful garden.

This article is excerpted from "Marriage and Love". "Family" magazine

original title: "Suffering from cancer, you still need to have an unforgettable love"