To say that the most helpless things in the world, love must be among them.
Love is not something you can do whatever you want. From beginning to end, it is a matter of two people. If one of them is unwilling to continue, the drama can only end in failure.
No matter how much you love someone and put in ten thousand sincerity and efforts, but the other person no longer wants to love you and is determined to leave you, you have to accept this cruel ending.
is unwilling to give in, there must be some, but what can we do?
No matter how much you plead, it is impossible to make the other party change his mind. After all, when a man says he is breaking up, he has actually planned it for a long time.
This was not a momentary impulse, nor was it a vent of emotion, but a decision he made after careful consideration.
But some men are very strange.
He was the one who broke up with you at that time. No matter how you tried to persuade him to stay, he insisted on breaking up. But after you agreed to break up, he was the one who came to you first.
I thought I could just be alone and take time to slowly heal the pain in my heart, but he appeared inexplicably and instantly brought you into the whirlpool of pain.
He was obviously the scorer, but he took the initiative to come to you first afterwards and kept in touch with you. Why is this?
Actually, it was not that he changed his mind, but for these purposes.
I feel guilty, and I really want to comfort you
Some men, although they were very heartless when they broke up, still have some old feelings in their hearts.
Especially when he recalls the moment when you broke up and you cried so much that you couldn't help yourself, he will feel a little guilty.
After all, he failed you, you still love him so much, but he has already changed his heart.
The more he thought about this, the more uncomfortable he felt, and the more he felt that he had gone too far.
But it is obviously impossible to make him look back. In order to alleviate some of his guilt and to make you feel better, he will take the initiative to comfort you in a smart way.
Then there was that incredible scene: It was obviously him who initiated the breakup, but he took the initiative to find you afterwards and contacted you often.
Maybe his original intention is good, but he just feels bad and wants you to be happy as soon as possible.
But his approach will undoubtedly be counterproductive. Not only will it not comfort you, it will also make you sink deeper and deeper.
Originally, if I wanted to forget someone, the best way would be to treat him or her as if he never existed, not wanting to miss him, not seeing him, and not contacting him.
In the end, he came back again and put on a gentle face to comfort you. This is just nonsense.
If he really wants you to be well, please disappear and never appear again.
I’m not used to it, and I regard you as a transitional product.
After two people have been together for a long time, no matter who they are, they will form a habit.
The same is true for you who still love him, and the same is true for him who has changed his heart.
Love may be said to be gone, but the living habits formed by it cannot be changed simply by changing it.
Especially if two people have been together for a long time, then the existence of each other has already been integrated into every aspect of life for each other.
If one person is missing from any link, it will definitely make people feel uncomfortable.
It is difficult to feel lonely when you have someone by your side.Maybe you won't feel it at the time, but once that person disappears and you need to face everything alone, this sense of gap will be particularly obvious.
Eating alone, sleeping alone, watching TV alone, going to the supermarket to shop alone... The sudden feeling of loneliness often leaves people at a loss as to what to do.
If a man has not found a good partner when he breaks up with you, then the loneliness will be difficult for him to endure. At this time, the first person he thinks of is naturally you.
The reason why he comes to you is not that he has changed his mind and wants to get back together with you, but that he is still not used to being alone.
In this " window period ", you are undoubtedly the best "transition product" he can choose.
Not greedy enough, ready to use you as a spare tire
Some men, the reason why they leave you is not because you are bad.
On the contrary, maybe it’s because you are so nice, you consider everything for him, and you think about him everywhere, and you spoil him bad over time.
He is used to all your good things and thinks that everything is taken for granted. This makes him feel a little tired, so he has the idea of finding something else "fresh".
This is the original intention of this type of man to fall in love with you, because you are so good to him that he starts to feel tired of it.
Maybe you think this reason sounds incredible, but this is his truest psychology.
Driven by this mentality, he found a new love without any surprise.
His new girlfriend makes him full of freshness, so at this moment, he will break up with you without hesitation and run away with his new love.
Such a man is bad, but he is not stupid. He has a very good calculation in his belly.
He knows that you are really good to him, and although the new girlfriend is full of freshness, she may not be able to get along with you for a long time, so he leaves behind.
This is the reason why he keeps contacting you after breaking up. He simply can’t let go of your kindness, so he plans to keep hanging on to you like this and use you as a spare tire.
I have heard this sentence and always thought it made sense. Since
can no longer be together, they should have nothing to do with each other anymore.
We say "treasure" to each other. From then on, we will be strangers in the world, and we will never see each other again.
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