Life is like a box of chocolates, you can't predict what the next one will taste like. When it comes to marriage, everyone enters into it with expectation and joy, and many couples become strangers because of the exhausted cohabitation life.
Xiao Yang and her ex-husband Xiao Lin, who live in Chongqing, were junior high school classmates. Once, their monthly salary of more than 30,000 yuan was the envy of others. After getting married in 2008 and giving birth to a lovely daughter in 2013, her mother-in-law fell ill and needed care. Xiao Yang voluntarily gave up his high-paying job with good prospects, resigned and stayed at home, becoming a housewife with upward palms.
Gradually, the husband and wife often had conflicts over various trivial family matters. The two people's life in the same place made them lose their former harmony, and they even needed to call the police to deal with family matters.
In the blink of an eye, 10 years have passed, and Xiao Lin finally lost hope in his married life. In 2019, he filed for divorce but was rejected by the court; in 2020, he moved out of his home and rented outside; in 2021, he filed for divorce again.
This time, Xiaolin finally returned to freedom. The court's decision was that all family property should be divided equally between the two. Xiao Lin also needs to pay an additional 150,000 yuan in compensation to Xiao Yang.
Seeing this, I just want to say: Ha! man! Every woman's youth is the most precious. Is Xiao Yang's nine years of full-time contribution to the family worth 150,000 yuan? With this 150,000 yuan, can Xiao Lin buy back 9 years of great youth?
Today, how many women have to give up their careers after getting married in order to take care of their families. In desperation, they lead a life in which the husband earns money to support the family and the wife takes care of the whole family.
However, such a sacrifice does not seem to be understood by her husband for a long time. As time goes by, even if her husband is at home, the woman cannot feel it.
Because the husband is immersed in his own world, either entertaining or talking about work. On the other hand, women have been taking care of everything at home, big and small, all year round, and they don't get a penny of salary, and they don't even get respect from their husbands.
In this divorce, Xiao Yang received 150,000 yuan in compensation, which seemed like a lot of money, but it could not buy back everything that Xiao Yang had sacrificed to take care of his family - his lost youth and his original bright career prospects.
Let’s do some calculations. If the 150,000 yuan is spread evenly over the 9 years that Xiao Yang has been a full-time housewife, Xiao Yang’s annual contribution is not worth 20,000 yuan. If it is spread evenly every month, she will only get 1,000 yuan. With so much money and such treatment, it is really worse than even a nanny!
also doesn’t know if Xiaolin felt guilty in his heart when he filed for divorce. He relied on his stable job and earning money to support his family, so he worked as a hands-on shopkeeper at home. Even though he had never cared about his daughter before, he still wanted to take his daughter away from his wife.
Just imagine if her husband Xiao Lin had been asked to give up his job when he needed to stay at home full time, while Xiao Yang continued to make money to support the family and develop his career. Would the ending be different?
Today, there is always a voice that believes that even if a woman becomes a housewife, she should not disconnect herself from society. However, being a housewife often means zero income and fragmented time. A life that is not separated from society often requires a lot of time and money to support it.
I would like to ask which married woman is not willing to live a delicate life? However, in their minds, the money spent on an afternoon tea is better spent on buying an extra piece of clothing for their children.
They understand that it is not easy for a man to make money to support a family alone, and they understand the tremendous pressure on a man as the backbone of the family. I also know that in this kind of dilemma life, where there are seniors and juniors, how can the husband spend a sum of money to let the woman maintain her own exquisite circle?
If a man has extra money, he can support a full-time housewife to maintain her pre-marriage life, and there is no need for a woman to quit her job and do laundry and cooking at home.
Therefore, after marriage, a family really needs to achieve stability in the family at the expense of the woman giving up her career and taking care of the family's daily life. Then please men understand and respect their wives more.
Life is not easy, but do it and cherish it.
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