01 Among family relationships, there is one type that is more difficult and difficult to deal with than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is the relationship between aunt and sister-in-law. Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daught

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In family relationships, there is one type of relationship that is more difficult and difficult to deal with than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is the relationship between aunt and sister-in-law.

Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult to get along with, there are still many sensible mothers-in-law and daughter-in-laws in the world. They will get along with each other and converge on each other for the man they love together.

But the sister-in-law or sister-in-law is different. Some aunts/sisters-in-law with extreme ideas will think that this family where she should have a place has lost her place because of the arrival of her younger brother or sister-in-law, so they are used to treating her. The natal family is dictating , is critical of the sister-in-law and younger siblings, even has conflicts with the sister-in-law and younger siblings, and will also feel resentment.

Su Xiaoxue has such an aunt who can't figure it out, but fortunately she has a husband who loves her and parents-in-law who also respect and love her.

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Su Xiaoxue and her husband Wang Dong began to fall in love when they were in college. Their relationship has always been deep. Other classmates broke up after graduation, but they got married right after graduation, making their classmates and friends envious of their relationship.

Su Xiaoxue knew that her husband had an older sister before she got married. She also learned from her husband that this aunt had a strong and domineering personality. However, fortunately, her aunt was already married, so she didn't really care about whether she would have sex with him. My aunt has a different personality.

After she got married, she realized that her previous thoughts were still very naive, because her aunt was used to taking charge at home, and even after she got married, she was used to dictating her parents' family.

Su Xiaoxue didn't feel this way when she first got married, because her mother-in-law was kind and her husband cared and loved her as always.

But my aunt would go back to her parents' house every once in a while. Every time she saw her mother-in-law washing and cooking for her and Wang Dong, she was very dissatisfied. thought that they regarded her mother-in-law as a nanny serving them.

At first, when Su Xiaoxue heard these complaints from her aunt, she would reflect on herself and call her husband to help her mother-in-law clean up the housework. , but her aunt was still not satisfied. She wished that this younger sibling could serve her mother-in-law and younger brother in turn, so that she could Happy.

And I have said it many times, and my mother-in-law is also worried about it . One time my sister came to her parents' house for dinner, and the topic brought up the topic of Xiaoxue not often cooking at home, and she also said that she gave her mother-in-law every month. The living expenses were only two thousand yuan, as if she was sending someone away, 's tone was neutral, but the mother-in-law remained silent, probably agreeing with her daughter's point of view in her heart.

Listening to her aunt's words, Su Xiaoxue's face became increasingly ugly, but she couldn't refute too much because she was worried about quarreling with her aunt if she spoke too much.

Wang Dong looked at his wife's eclipsed expression, and stopped his sister : "Sister, don't say that, Xiaoxue is not idle at home, she also works very hard every day, and besides, she will also take the initiative after get off work. Help mom with work. "

" Living expenses are even more unreasonable. Xiaoxue pays for the family's living expenses and expenses. The monthly vegetable money will be reimbursed to my mother separately. Isn't the little money given to her just pocket money?"

Su Xiaoxue felt very happy and moved after hearing her husband's words, and her mother-in-law also felt that her son's words made sense. , A few words calmed down her unwillingness. Only her aunt was left aggrieved, but she was silenced by her brother again.

The days passed like this day by day. In the blink of an eye, they had been married for two years. During this period, the aunt still often disturbed her mother's family and her younger brother and his wife. Fortunately, Wang Dong was a very good person. As a person who coordinates the relationship, his mother-in-law also takes note of his love and care for his wife. She will also take care of her son and respect and love her daughter-in-law. Su Xiaoxue will also respond to her mother-in-law with the same kindness and often buy some small gifts to coax her. The whole family is enjoying themselves happily as they chat with their mother-in-law and express their feelings.

But just recently, Su Xiaoxue's aunt had a dispute with her younger siblings because of the issue of accompanying her mother-in-law in the hospital.

Su Xiaoxue has just recently been diagnosed with pregnancy. She wanted to go to the hospital for a checkup during the weekend break, so she didn't tell everyone yet, but it happened to be that her mother-in-law also needed surgery to remove kidney stones due to acute nephritis , he was hospitalized urgently.

But after the operation, she needs someone to accompany her, but Su Xiaoxue not only has to go to work, but she is also unwell because of her recent pregnancy. Her father-in-law is a rough man and does not know how to take care of others, and her husband Wang Dong needs to go to work again. After discussion with the family, I decided to find a caregiver , and let others take turns to accompany me.

But this decision was rejected by my aunt who arrived late. She felt that the caregivers were not careful in taking care of people, so she had to do it by herself. Moreover, Wang Dong and his father-in-law both had jobs and needed to rest at night. The family As a housewife, she took it upon herself to say that she had arranged for her husband's family to take care of the children during this period. When her mother-in-law was sick, she would take care of her during the day and let Su Xiaoxue stay with her at night.

My aunt said it plausibly. asked her younger siblings to go to work during the day and take care of her mother-in-law at night, so that she could balance work and family, and she made clear arrangements for Su Xiaoxue.

Su Xiaoxue was directly shocked by her aunt's arrangement. She couldn't understand why her aunt considered everyone but not her. Could it be that she was not a human being, so she didn't need to rest?

’s husband was the first to react. When he heard his sister’s words, he became furious: “Sister ! Don’t be kidding me. Xiaoxue is a robot. Don’t you know how tired she is?! Do you think going to work is easy? You go to work during the day and stay with me at night. How can you Can you say it! "

parents-in-law? She also felt that her aunt was going too far and reprimanded her one after another. Her mother-in-law even angrily said to her daughter: "Don't come up with bad ideas. Just mind yourself! You don't have to worry about my family's affairs!"

In the end, Wang Dong's family still followed the instructions The original plan was to hire a nurse, but my aunt felt that she was losing face, so she left in despair.

Xiaoxue also happened to have a pregnancy test at the hospital. After confirming the pregnancy, she told her family the good news as soon as possible. Her husband and parents-in-law were very happy. At the same time, they were also very glad that they did not listen to her aunt's words and avoid It chilled my daughter-in-law’s heart.

In the entire marriage relationship, people often expect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be as close as mother and daughter, but this ideal expectation must require the cooperation and efforts of everyone to achieve it.

1: The harmony of family members depends on the man in the middle.

Although there are many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in reality, sensible mothers-in-law still account for the majority.As long as the mother-in-law is slightly open-minded and able to communicate with others, Daughter-in-law, and , as a husband, can take the initiative to regulate family relationships and love his wife. In a family like , even if there are bumps in life among family members in the early stages of marriage, they will all get along well after getting along with each other. restrain his temper, words and deeds for the sake of family harmony.

Because mother-in-law and wife both live around men, they both deeply love this man, naturally will also be willing to change and temper their strengths for this man.

Therefore, in the family, the man in the central position is very important. . If a man can cherish and protect his wife, then his family will also respect and even love his wife.

A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and a harmonious family atmosphere require the efforts and cooperation of all family members. Whether it is mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, husband or other members, as long as everyone can communicate and understand each other, treat each other as their own family As long as people work together, focus their efforts in one place, and live their lives in one place, naturally all conflicts can be easily resolved.

2: Sister, don’t be too arrogant, you should know your identity

Everyone in a family should know their status in the family and perform their duties, especially the married daughter, don’t be too Interfere more in your parents' affairs.

Many aunts will put on airs because they are older sisters, and there is no sense of distance between them and their younger siblings. Such aunts often don't know the importance.

As an aunt, we should make good use of 's "special" status in the family. As the aunt of the younger siblings and the daughter of the mother-in-law, it is easier to communicate with her mother-in-law. As the peers of the younger siblings, she should be more able to communicate with her mother-in-law. Understand and considerate of the younger siblings, so the sensible aunt is better at playing her role and coordinating the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Sisters-in-law and sisters-in-law should be more tolerant and should not care about or worry about one or two unintentional words from younger brothers-in-law/sister-in-law. should love the whole family and treat younger brothers-in-law/sister-in-law as their own sisters. In this way, can get along more harmoniously with .

When encounters conflicts between younger siblings and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must keep a neutral stance . You cannot blindly stand by your mother's side. You must discuss the matter . You must not hold that your younger siblings/sister-in-law are outsiders, and your mother is an outsider. It is one's own thoughts , so that conflicts can be resolved, and instead of just complaining, or even sharing the same hatred with the mother, this will only worsen the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

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