text丨Tao Xiaojing
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No.1
My friend Xiaoxian has been having a bad time recently because she was betrayed by her boyfriend.
Xiaoxian has been together with her boyfriend for three years. They were both planning to get married, but she found that her boyfriend had second thoughts.
Looking at the ambiguous text messages between men and other women on her phone, Xiaoxian felt that her world had collapsed. She didn't know what to do and could only keep crying in front of her boyfriend.
At first, her boyfriend coaxed her and kept explaining to her. But after he got tired of her crying, he completely ignored her and even blocked her contact information.
Now Xiaoxian was even more panicked. In order to win back her boyfriend, she even mobilized her friends and family, hoping to help her.
Although I feel sorry for her, I still want to say that she is really a silly woman.
Now that her boyfriend has betrayed her, what's the use of crying and trying to save her? Such an approach will only make you humbler.
No.2
In real life, there are many stupid women like Xiaoxian. It was obvious that he had been betrayed, but he was still stupid and unwilling to let go.
Women think that they can keep a man's heart by crying and fussing, but women should not forget that from the moment a man chooses to betray you, his heart is no longer with you.
What’s the point of retaining a man who doesn’t care about you at all? A smart woman wouldn't do this.
observed that when a man has second thoughts, a stupid woman will cry and make a fuss. This is how a smart woman will deal with it.
A smart woman will let go decisively
Although letting go is a very painful thing, for a smart woman, only letting go of her hand in time is the best way to protect herself.
Therefore, once she discovers that a man has betrayed her, a smart woman will immediately let go of her hand and leave the man.
A smart woman will never humble herself to please a man who doesn't love her. On the contrary, she will decisively stay away from a man who has had second thoughts.
Although she is also worried that a person's life will be lonely, she is more afraid of being tortured. In order to free herself from the sea of suffering, letting go is her only choice.
While the stupid woman is still crying, the smart woman has already left the man.
If you are not smart enough now, then I hope you can think more about yourself and stop guarding a man who doesn't love you.
Smart women will divert their attention
The reason why many women are completely hurt by feelings is not because of how bad the feelings are, but because the women themselves have not adjusted their mentality.
Women have been trapping themselves in harm, failing to shift their attention in time and failing to adjust their mentality, so naturally there is no way to get out of it.
Even if this relationship has passed for a long time, the woman still cannot get relief and can only be immersed in pain and unable to extricate herself.
A smart woman will not do this. Even if she once loved deeply, she will not trap herself in harm.
After a smart woman discovers that a man has second thoughts, although she feels very painful inside, she will not allow herself to continue to suffer. She will find ways to divert her attention.
She put her focus on her career and started working on her career wholeheartedly, so even if her love was gone, her life was still wonderful.
Using career to make up for the emotional vacancy is a good way. If you are in pain now, then work hard on your career.
A smart woman will take back everything that belongs to her
Xiaojing found that when many women were betrayed, they ignored many important things, such as getting back their own things, because they were immersed in pain.
When managing relationships, women tend to invest a lot. These investments belong to the woman, and of course she should get them back.
But many women do not want to come back in time, but instead give men an advantage. By the time a woman regrets it, it will be too late.
A smart woman will always think about herself. Once she finds out that a man has betrayed her, she will decisively take back what belongs to her.
Although this is a bit disrespectful, it is better than causing too much loss to yourself. Furthermore, what reason does a woman have to show mercy to someone who betrays you?
If the man around you also has second thoughts about you, then I hope you can learn from smart women, protect your own interests, and don't let men take advantage.
No.3
Although many women don't want to admit that they are stupid, they have to say that in the world of feelings, there are many more stupid women than smart women.
When faced with a man's betrayal, a stupid woman will do nothing but cry.
But crying cannot help women at all. Instead, it makes women more humble and cheap.
A smart woman will not cry at all. On the one hand, it is because she knows that distress is useless, and on the other hand, it is because she has a better way to deal with it.
After a man has second thoughts, a smart woman will decisively let go of her hand, divert her attention to alleviate the pain, and protect her own interests.
A smart woman does this not because she is merciless, but because she does not want to cause herself to be hurt more seriously.
Xiaojing hopes that every woman can live a smarter life, because only in this way will women not be injured again and again.
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