Middle-aged couples struggle through the years, as if they have everything. Supposing that we only talk about the physical appearance, this is true for most families, with houses, cars, children, tickets...the quality of life has improved tremendously. However, the world is always fair. It gives everything and takes some away. The post-80s and post-70s generations unknowingly have eye lines and forehead lines. With mortgage car loans, parents and elderly people need to take care of them. Sons and daughters need to accompany, even though they are unwilling, staring at themselves in the mirror, we have to admit that this is what our parents looked like when we were young-undoubtedly adults, uncles, and aunts.
In the life stage of connecting the past and the next, the relationship between middle-aged couples has become very fragile. On the one hand, it stems from economic pressure. "Common prosperity" has not yet been realized, and we still need to work hard. A few days ago, I saw someone complaining on the Internet. A young couple in their thirties. The husband works with a monthly salary of 5,000, and the wife takes care of the baby full-time without a job. The monthly mortgage is 3,000, family living expenses are 2,500, and children’s education expenses. One thousand, human favor clothing, etc. spend one thousand, a net loss of two thousand five. The man’s father is dead and his mother is in poor health, and there is no one to help. A woman heard that the income of delivering courier and delivery was better than working, so she persuaded her husband to resign and deliver the food. Her husband was furious. On the one hand, she couldn't accept this cruel reality. A college student was forced to deliver the food after being in the work for more than ten years. According to hearsay from the wife, in the third-tier cities where they live, the income from this type of work is not as high as expected.
Thoughts of middle-aged women: Talking too much is annoying for men, and it feels cool to see through.
"Then how do you live this day?" The woman wiped her tears, but the man did not speak.
"Say it!" There was a dead silence.
In this terrible silent silence, I can't bear to look at the offenders who don't care about me anymore. I want to persuade this brother to find a part-time job and keep his life going.
On the other hand, the predicament encountered by middle-aged couples comes from the decline of their relationship. There is a joke that is not funny, middle-aged couples have everything, but there is no couple life. Chai, rice, oil, salt, everything is flat. In this case, it is not uncommon for husband and wife to quarrel, cold war, separate beds, separate rooms, and even go to divorce and turn back. Middle-aged men are somewhat more vulnerable than women because they are under too much pressure.Going to the point of excessive self-esteem, limited by one's own abilities and bottlenecks of opportunity, personality tends to become stubborn or even paranoid. What the wife said, she couldn't listen to it, and she couldn't change her shortcomings.
Those marriages that can't be separated, and can't live together, kill so many women's lives.
Because she doesn’t work, she doesn’t support her family, and she doesn’t raise children, Hu Xing’s mother has repeatedly advised her husband to find a job. "gossip". At the beginning, Hu Xing’s father went out to do odd jobs. In the past half a year, he lay flat, and when his pockets were empty, he went to his 70s-year-old mother to get a pension. When he had money, he would play a side stove and sing with three friends and four friends. Sing. Hu Xing fell ill and had a fever. He said that he had no money, and second that he asked his mother and daughter to take a taxi to the hospital. Hu Xing’s mother was angry, and in the community owner group, he said publicly: Hu** in room *building*, the girl is sick, if you are still a man, you should come back and take Hu Xing to the hospital immediately! Hu Xing’s mother said: “I’ve been bitter again and again in exchange for a cold heart. Now my heart is dead long ago, and I can’t cover it anymore. If it weren’t for my girl, I would have left him. Now we It’s not a big deal.”
Happy marriages are always similar. Those happy housemates sing and tolerate each other, with a full smile on their faces. However, each unfortunate marriage is different. Give a tree hole to let those middle-aged women who are in misfortune speak freely, and one can't help but sigh that many Chinese men are really not worthy of such a good woman. Chen Xiaobao said that her husband, like a giant baby, only knows about games all day long, and basically doesn’t care about things at home. He has quarreled and went back to her parents’ house, but within three days she has resurrected; Xiaoling said her husband has an underground lover, and the child is over three years old.
When you get close, she can't leave this home, and she can't bear the child...
When you get closer, you get close to the pain. What's worse, leaving may not be away from the pain.
He used to have many advantages, but because of the shortcomings that could not be erased, gradually no one remembered his goodness. He is now full of shortcomings, he does not listen to advice and does not change, exhausting the trust and patience between husband and wife. What should a woman do when faced with a man who is so heartache, sad, and chilling? Those who can't be separated,Marriage that can't survive together has killed so many women's lives.
When a woman cries, it means her heartache.
[Original Statement] Zuo Qiuwen, currently living in Beijing, is a freelance writer for seven years, and is an exhibition curator for ten years.
Emotional articles, all original.
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