The sixth sense of a woman is very accurate. When you find that your husband is cheating, you should not startle at first, investigate the evidence first, because generally speaking, men never admit that they have had an affair.
Should you expose your husband after cheating?
Regardless of whether he has an affair, you must first stay calm. After discovering your husband’s cheating, don’t rush to act and stay calm for a week. The first is to give yourself time to think rationally and weigh the pros and cons of all parties. Second, investigating the actual evidence of the husband's affair, there is also evidence to base when exposing his derailment.
Rationally treat the matter of affair
It is true that it is impossible for a person to love only one person in his life; from the realization that derailment is not an illegal human nature, but human nature; recognizes that the level of hormone secretion is different, some men are born with a flower gene ; Realize that what marriage protects is not love, but legal relationship; realize that when two people go to the end, they transform their relationship into relatives, allies, and partners. Recognizing these is cruel. Recognizing these may make you disappointed in humanity and life, but it will definitely make you feel that your husband is not that hateful. It turns out that he is just an ordinary man, that's all.
Make a rational decision
After calmly thinking about it, there will be two situations when you choose to expose it. One is that your husband and you will tear your face and decisively divorce, and the other is to pray for forgiveness, but the rift between each other will become bigger and become nominal. Husband and wife relationship. If you do not want to get to the stage of divorce, it is best not to expose the confrontation face to face, but to choose a softer way.
Side tap reminder is most suitable.
Give him some hints and let him know how you feel about your encounter. Knowing but not breaking through can achieve the purpose of reminding and avoid the embarrassment of breaking through. See his reaction and whether he converges in behavior. If he cares about you and this home, generally speaking, your method is definitely effective, so you don’t need a showdown, otherwise you will really make him have no retreat.Really pushed him to that woman. If he really doesn't love you anymore, this method won't work, then you have the only way left, and it is not too late to divorce at this time.
Don't expand the impact of the situation
Don't find people everywhere to talk, unless you are a serious girlfriend. On the one hand, what others say will mislead your judgment. And they don't really understand the truth of the matter, and you will choose to narrate when you tell others. In this case, the suggestions of others are of little significance.
Don’t go to the theory of the third party
Many women will have intermittent "delusion" episodes after discovering that their husband has cheated. Xiao San had no condescension in scolding; the sturdy man imagined how to pull Xiao San's hair and press her to the ground. This is tantamount to pushing the affair problem to a more difficult situation. Even because of breaking the balance relationship at this time, marriage (husband) may be handed over to others.
Infidelity is a signal of a marriage problem. Only when the marriage is resolved can the problem be reconciled and avoid another affair in the future. When some couples encounter such problems, they choose to forbear and divorce because they do not dare to talk or do not know how to talk, turning small problems into big problems. Forbearance and divorce are essentially escapes, not the attitude that married people should have. Face the problem and solve the problem is the attitude that a married person should have. Even if you finally divorce, you will find your own problems in this marriage and gradually overcome them in the future, so that you can enter the next relationship without getting sick. This experience is also a kind of growth.
Upgrading yourself
Not denying yourself does not mean not thinking about making progress, but seeking improvement while identifying yourself. After a long period of boiled water with the left hand touching the right hand, your husband finally couldn't help but go outside and play a glass of Coke. Then you can turn yourself into a glass of red wine at this time. Maybe he will fall in love with you again, maybe not, but in any case, the aroma of the wine belongs to you.
It depends on you, but not on you
Love has its own law of occurrence, growth and death. The relationship between your husband and the mistress, to put it bluntly, is also a love between the two of them.In this matter, you are an outsider. What you can do is not to be a catalyst for their love, and at most innocently create some obstacles to provoke the mistress. Others, really can't do much. However, once you have cultivated strong enough, you will have the initiative. When you can accept the reality of divorce calmly, you will have the confidence to show off with your husband: with her, without me. You can only choose one!
How to find out how your husband cheated on the showdown
When you suspect or find that your husband is having an affair, the wife first needs to take time to calm down. No matter how much you want to talk, yell at your partner or even hurt him, don't do it right away when you first find him cheating. If you get angry after discovering this, it's time to sit down and rest for a while. This is a difficult step. You may feel that if you discuss this matter as soon as possible, you will feel better in your heart and can come up with a solution as soon as possible, but this is not the case. If you talk or argue too quickly, you will actually only make things worse.
You can do anything necessary to release your emotions, such as taking time to go for a walk, exercising, or just crying in the room. This method of releasing emotions is not harmful and can also help yourself to think more rationally. . Don’t blame yourself, don’t think that your partner’s affair is because you lack charisma, because you are too busy with work, or because you are busy taking care of children and don’t have time to focus on the relationship. Your partner has cheated. It is his or her fault. You should not blame yourself for the affair of your partner, but in the process of reflecting on the whole relationship, you can of course think about whether some actions caused this period. The relationship slowed down.
If you feel that the relationship is no longer worth redeeming, and you decide to divorce, you can investigate all the evidence of your husband's derailment, and then showdown with the other party. If he really doesn't love you anymore, and you only have the only way to a divorce showdown, it's not too late for a complete showdown at this time.
As for the specific attitude towards your husband after the showdown, if you admit the facts of your affair and you are willing to repent, you should talk openly and honestly with the old man instead of dealing with the problem with anger and compassion. Even if a man has the heart to repent, he will be Your emotions are forced away.
But if you admit the fact of derailment,And the attitude is cold and bad, so I suggest that you and your husband temporarily separate, calm down for a period of time to think about the divorce litigation and sort out the evidence obtained from the investigation, and prepare to seek compensation from your husband and the third party for infringement.
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