01. What do you like about retirement?
My name is Juan Li. Everyone calls me A Juan. I am 58 years old this year. In the past few years after retirement, I have been participating in various activities in various elderly activity centers and I have also met many new elderly friends. .
This spring, I was again infatuated with the old sex ballroom dance . Every time I see them dancing in the square, it is like seeing a butterfly facing the afterglow of the sun, flying up and down, with wings outlined. Road beautiful arc.
During the time when I was obsessed with ballroom dancing, the female dancers I saw were all in such good shape. The male dance partner appeared to be particularly refreshed, and he couldn't see the decadent spirit of old age at all.
Through a few elderly friends who like ballroom dancing, I found a class that specializes in teaching the elderly to dance ballroom. I went there for a visit with my friends, and made up my mind to start learning ballroom dancing.
But a few months later, I regret it. What I regret is not learning to dance ballroom dance, but I regret not seeing the dirty and unbearable behind the graceful dance of ballroom dance.
After signing up, the teacher was not in a hurry to teach me the formal dance steps, and asked me to practice those basic movements every day, which was not only tiring and bitter, but also very boring.
But I didn't think about giving up. On the contrary, it made me feel challenging. After all, everything needs to go through a period of baptism.
time still flies quickly,Two months passed in a blink of an eye. My study has also made new progress. Still growing from a little white to a preliminary scholar.
Some simple movements have also been mastered. I also learned a few simple songs. This small achievement has aroused my interest even more.
02. The first dance partner
My first dance partner surnamed Hu, he is 65 years old to help with my son. , After dinner every day, he would go to the square to dance.
The previous dance partner went out for something. He saw that I was dancing there, so he invited me to be his dance partner.
At first, I was a bit uncomfortable, and I didn’t have such close contact with the opposite sex. I was a little bit embarrassed, but after a few days, I enlightened myself:
"I am at this age, what is wrong? I'm sorry, isn't it just a dance, and nothing else."
After that, I let go. After letting go, my pace became much smoother. The teacher praised me for making rapid progress during this period.
After a period of time, Lao Hu and I have become more and more familiar with each other, without the strangeness and shyness of the beginning.
And I found that Lao Hu is becoming more and more unrestrained. I don't know if it is intentional or unintentional. It seems that Lao Hu's hand accidentally touched my hand or other parts.
ballroom dance will have some contact,But just a few fixed points, I want to remind Lao Hu, but every time I look at him, he is looking at other places, as if he accidentally touched him. I didn't pursue it anymore.
After another period of time, Lao Hu's actions angered me and allowed me to see his true colors thoroughly.
When we danced, Hu directly grabbed my hand and pulled me to the dimly lit corner of the square.
Old Hu actually took my hand and said he liked me! At the time I thought I had heard it wrong, and when he repeated it again, I couldn't believe my ears.
I quickly retracted my hand and asked him what happened today? Did you take the wrong medicine?
Old Hu Yitong confessed and said a bunch of false love words. also asked me to play at his house.
03. At this age, I still want to talk about love
I’m sick of hearing it. But he kept nagging to himself, saying that touching my hand was intentional. He liked me when he saw me at first, and he always hinted that I had no one in his family, so he would take care of himself, and his wife helped his son with the children. Come.
I stunned him: "I'm so old, and I still want to talk about love."
Then let him go all by himself and ran away. I have been hiding at home since then. After a while, I met another ballroom dance group,They were in another square, not far from my home, and then I went to that square.
At the beginning, I didn't rush to jump, just followed behind and got familiar with the music and pace over there.
A week later, a new man came here, also a beginner, and everyone recommended me to him. After talking, I learned that his surname is Zhang, 65 years old, and his wife is from the Yangko team, on the other side of the square.
With the lesson last time, I heard him say that his wife is also on the Yangko team in this square, and I was relieved immediately. The last time I met that, he dared to say those things because his wife was not there and no one cares about him.
Since that day, our two beginners have become dance partners. We help each other to learn from each other, and we can also discuss various learning experiences and experiences while chatting.
After a while, we added WeChat to each other. In fact, it is to be able to contact each other conveniently when going out to participate in activities.
Since I added WeChat, I have been in contact with Lao Zhang more and more. After dancing home every day, Lao Zhang always talks to me about dancing today. Sometimes it reminds me what I should pay attention to, and sometimes it asks me what else he needs to pay attention to. Development talks are all about dance.
At first, I just thought that Lao Zhang wanted to improve his dancing skills, so he discussed it with me every day. But soon it proved that I was wrong again.
04. The resonance of the new partner
Our topic has slowly spread from dance to other thingsEven the emotional problems of our husband and wife.
I don’t know what’s going on. Talking about it will cause endless questions.
Later my husband had some opinions on me, and I also felt something was wrong, but Lao Zhang had a lot of information. Sometimes I pretended not to see it and didn’t give it back to him. I don’t think he could see it. I won’t send the message back.
Unexpectedly, Lao Zhang called directly and asked me what I was doing and why there was no reply.
I can only say that I am busy now! Inconvenient to return.
It seems that Lao Zhang didn't understand what I mean. After a while, he started to post again. The time became all-weather, and the content of the information became more and more numb. Sometimes I actually send a message saying that I want to invite me to dinner or watch a movie or something.
My husband and I often get angry because of this incident, and my husband blames me for having to learn some ballroom dancing.
When I went to dance again, I confessed the problem with Lao Zhang, and hoped that Lao Zhang would not send any messages if he was okay.
Lao Zhang didn't say anything. When dancing, he deliberately hugged my waist and said that he was willing to make friends with me, just like chatting with me and dancing with me, but Lao Zhang promised that I would not send messages anymore.
When he was able to dance afterwards, Lao Zhang actually took a selfie stick and deliberately took pictures of us. Sometimes from a certain angle, it can be seen that we are in close contact.
After returning home, Lao Zhang sent me some pictures and asked if I took them well.
I have made it clear to Lao Zhang,Let him be okay and don't send me messages, but he changed the method and sent me photos directly. I didn't even know when he took some photos.
I was afraid that my husband would see it, so I quickly deleted all the photos and warned Lao Zhang again not to send any more messages like this, and do not take any more pictures of me.
05. The ugly face of the new partner
Don’t send me a message when you dance at night.
Lao Zhang actually started to threaten me, saying that unless I was a good friend with him, he would keep posting.
I scolded him with anger and said that I would never dance with him again. He actually said that if he didn't listen to him, he would keep calling, and he would change to another cell phone number if he blocked it.
I am not a teenage girl, how can I eat him, immediately blacked him out, indicating that I will never dance again.
He actually made a few calls, I warned him directly, all calls are recorded, and I will call the police if I call again.
It seems that the people's police in a society under the rule of law have deterrent power, and Lao Zhang never called again.
Since then, my ballroom dancing career is over. In less than a year, I completely gave up. I know that it's not that I have no perseverance and can't hold on. It was the male dance partners I met that completely lost my interest in ballroom dancing.
not only made me feel,Are people doing ballroom dancing like this? Why do I meet such old men.
Originally, all kinds of activities after retirement were to delight the body and mind and live a happy old age. I didn't expect people with ulterior motives to have them everywhere.
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