The third party problem has always plagued many people, but when you are jealous, the other party will always prevaricate you with just a friend, leaving you speechless. How do you judge whether your partner's good friend is pure friendship or spiritual infidelity? It can be judged from the following points.
1. See if the other party is hiding from you
Is their relationship public or private? How did you learn about the existence of this friend? Did he take the initiative to inform, or did you discover it by accident?
When you know the existence of the other party, will they let you know the content of their conversation or the meeting schedule?
If the other party is calm, doubts can be eliminated, but it does not mean it is impossible.
After all, some people understand human nature, they will deliberately pretend to be generous, just to win your trust.
But if you hide it from you from the beginning, the level of suspiciousness is very high.
2. When you ask this person
, if you want to know the content of their chat or the details of their relationship, is he willing to tell you?
If you get angry when you ask him,If you accuse you of not believing him in anger, or keep emphasizing that they are pure friendship, you must pay special attention.
It is because there is something to hide, so I feel very emotional.
just asked but didn’t say anything, why is he so excited?
3. See if they cross the bottom line when they get along
Friendship has the boundary of friendship, which is different from love, and you should also show your bottom line at the beginning of the relationship.
If the other party knows that you do it for that person, pay special attention.
For example, you can set the bottom line that you can eat together but you can’t travel together, or you can’t talk on the phone for more than an hour, and so on.
If the other party always ignores your feelings and step on the bottom line repeatedly, it may mean that in his heart, this friend is more important than you.
4. Will you be compared with him?
When he has evil thoughts, he will start to think how would he marry or date this friend?
After he started to imagine like this,I will definitely compare this friend with you as a partner.
If you often hear him say that you are not as good as someone, if you are not so bad for someone, then be careful.
If he is better than you everywhere in his heart, then he has a greater chance of choosing him.
Everyone says that the earning and beautiful little three are the most terrible, and they can easily become the main palace. After all, they can provide higher value.
But the person who really loves you, no matter you are tall, short, fat or thin, he thinks you are the best. When he always dislikes you, his heart is shaking.
5. Are you willing to disconnect from the other party
When you have more and more doubts, you are likely to ask him to disconnect from the other party.
If he always agrees, but then secretly communicates, then obviously there is dissent.
His behavior has reached the point where he cannot control himself, or he thinks the other party is more important than himself.
These 5 situations can only be said to be suspicious, but it cannot be concluded that there must be a problem. After all, there are many differences in the details of how everyone gets along.
is just for your reference. In any case, is not appropriate to regard the third person as more important than your partner. Even if it's just a daily chat, it distracts the attention that should have been given to family members or partners.
Although you have to trust your partner, but when you see that the spearhead is not right, you should come forward in time to stop the flames instead of letting it grow.
Everyone has the freedom to make friends, but there is also a bottom line to keep.
If you have such an ambiguous friend, you are yourself, and you want to judge whether you are tempted by outsiders. One way is to ask yourself if you ever imagined having a boyfriend with him Some behavior?
If it is pure friendship, you would not have such an idea. If you have thought about it, then the answer will be very clear.
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