German poet Heine said: I would rather use a small cup of true love to weave a happy family, rather than use the furniture of a few big boats to form a dull family.
It can be seen that a happy home does not lie in how many houses and pieces of furniture it has, but how much love it contains.
01 Family harmony is happiness
" Book of Rites " writes: Father’s love, brotherhood, husband and wife harmony, family harmony. It means: father and son are close, brothers are of one heart, husband and wife are in love, and family members are of one heart, and wealth will naturally gather.
Indeed, family harmony is the foundation of a family's prosperity. Even if a person has a wealth of wealth, if the family is full of troubles and "wars" continue, his life will be miserable, and bad luck will follow.
Three generations living together are like pots and pans in the kitchen. How can they not touch each other? Contradictions and disputes are inevitable.
However, the family is not a court. What is the point of arguing over who wins? If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are always arrogant, it will cause both parties to worry about it.
Therefore, mother-in-law is long-winded, daughter-in-law should not be bored, daughter-in-law is young, and old people should bear it. Only by learning to empathize and empathize can we avoid disputes and misunderstandings.
Couples are rarely confused, and if they are too real, they will not look pleasing to the eye. There are no perfect men and women in the world. If you look at your spouse with a magnifying glass, you will naturally feel that the other party is at fault. When a husband and wife quarrel, don't hold grudges, read about each other's benefits, and don't always chase and "turn over old accounts."
People often say: Home and everything are prosperous. Noisy creates disasters, and kindness makes money. As a family with one heart and one mind, everything will go smoothly,The relationship between husband and wife will be like piano and song. On the contrary, even if the clothes and food all day long, they will not feel happy.
As Goethe said: Whether it is a king or a farmer, family harmony is the happiest.
02 It is happiness when relatives are always company
The long journey of life, because of the company of relatives, our hearts will not be lonely and desolate. Children who lack the company of their parents will become withdrawn; wives who lack the company of their husbands will become bitter women; and the elderly who lack the company of their children will become depressed.
Cao Xueqin said that men are made of mud and women are made of water. This shows that in terms of feelings, women are delicate and sensitive, and desire spiritual comfort more than men.
Women are as careful as their hair, so they pay more attention to the trivial love. On her birthday, she may not mind whether the gift you gave her is expensive, but you must have lit the birthday candle for her personally. On holidays, she may not mind your inability to let her travel abroad, but if you can take her for a drive on a motorcycle, she will feel happy.
From a woman's point of view, companionship is the most affectionate confession, and staying together is the warmest promise.
Just like in a song: The most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you. Because of your company, she relies on you more, because she relies on you, so she loves you more.
A woman is most afraid of being left out by a man she loves deeply, because neglect is often a prelude to abandonment, and companionship is a manifestation of caring and cherishing. So don't comfort a woman: If the two loves last for a long time, how can they be in their turn?
As a man, don't let your wife stay alone for a long time. This is your best way to love your wife. As a parent, don’t always throw your children to the computer or to your grandma. The fun of any games and shows can’t replace the joy of father’s love and mother’s love.And father (mother) and son (daughter) love is definitely not a substitute for grandfather and grandson love.
As an adult child, I often go home and have a look, chatting with my parents and playing chess is the best comfort to the elderly. Don't let your parents take care of a table of good dishes. It has become a luxury to expect you to come back for a reunion dinner.
How many empty-nest elderly people have both children, but they can only hang on to each other every day, stand alone in the empty house, can only lean against the door and look forward to their children. What a sad and helpless reality!
It is your duty to accompany your loved ones, and it is also a way to express love. How can Wanguan money fill the emptiness of the spirit? How can rich material make up for the lack of emotion?
Therefore, the thing that makes people feel happy and warm is to be with relatives often.
03 When a couple grows old, they are happy
In today’s era of high rates of divorce, it’s precious to "hold your hand and grow old with your son" .
How many people shouted after their marriage: They have entered the tomb of love! But they forgot that they dug their own "grave" in the first place.
Franklin said: Open your eyes before you get married, and you can open one eye and close the other after you get married.
However, men and women who are in love are often blinded by love before marriage, only then will the lover's eyes show the beauty. But after marriage, he was overly aware of everything, and felt that there was nothing good about the lover, which caused both parties to be unable to stick to the end.
In fact, it is not that love has expired and deteriorated, nor is it that the lover after marriage is "exposed", it is just because they have been indulged in romantic romance and cannot melt into the ordinary life of firewood, rice, oil and salt.
Love is romantic, but marriage is realistic. When a man enters a marriage, he must not only sacrifice his former freedom and freedom, but also increase his responsibility as a husband and father.And when a woman enters a marriage, it means that she can no longer be a princess, and you have to take on the responsibility of taking care of the family and husband and child.
Married life is not all romantic and beautiful, but more plain and true. As Barvary Nix said: Marriage is a book, the first chapter is a poem, and the rest are plain prose.
Those couples who can't survive the "seven-year itch" are because they did not see through the gap between ideal and reality but only one step away, but this step was laid out by both parties with trust, understanding, respect and tolerance.
Balzac said: Husbands and wives know each other by knowing each other, and then by tolerance and love for each other, in order to maintain a happy marriage.
Therefore, to have a partner who loves you, understands you, makes you, and respects you, you are the biggest winner in life, because you have had the most beautiful and happy marriage.
Life is alive, living in a mansion in a villa and enjoying prosperity is not considered happiness. A truly happy home is the harmony of family members, the love and mutual assistance of husband and wife; the health of the parents are always there; the happiness of the children; the peace of all relatives!
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