My marriage is just one sentence: 6 people lie on the bed of the husband and wife

writer Qian Zhongshu once described it as: marriage is like a besieged city. People inside want to come in, and people outside want to come in.

At that time, after people tried very hard to get themselves out of the singles and enter marriage, what they felt was that the marriage had completed my life, or in fact, the best thing was the other half of others.

If you use one sentence to describe your marriage, what would you say?

01 My parents died early, relatives asked for money, and my family members were all looking for trouble.

Mingcheng has been married for 10 years, but is in a relationship with his wife. At the beginning of the marriage, Mingcheng heard this sentence: The husband and wife shot 6 people in the bed, and this sentence has been increasingly confirmed in the past 10 years.

Mingcheng's wife was unfortunate when she was a child, and her parents left early when she was young. So she was alone when she was a child, and there was an older sister in their family, and she also had an older brother who left early. So she can only rely on her sister, but the problem is that her sister is a more rational person.

Everyone's mother is very important, because you can't make any mistakes, and your mother will say that if you have a relationship, she will hug you and give you a sentimental love. Her sister is too rational, so she had to grow up alone when she was a child. She didn’t have the care of her parents. As a result, their relatives and uncles would still borrow money from her sister. After borrowing the money, they would not pay her back. There have been some disputes. She feels that relatives are a troublesome thing, so her view of family is very weak. She feels that relatives are not good, so she learned to grow up independently.

02 Dad used high-pressure violence,The four mothers and children are closely dependent on each other

But Mingcheng’s view of family is totally different, because Mingcheng’s father is prone to domestic violence. Mingcheng used violence when he was young and had no strength. Mingcheng was more naughty and convenient. The little boy in the shop said that I would take this if I wanted to eat it. This is normal.

Dad is a big man. I can’t say I can’t pay if the child takes it. He just pays. After paying, he slapped Mingcheng as soon as he turned a turn and entered the stairwell. Mingcheng had a nosebleed on the spot, and he used force to suppress their home.

He not only treats Mingcheng like this, but also has domestic violence to Mingcheng's mother. Mingcheng has three children living together under his domestic violence. So they are closely dependent on each other, so Mingcheng will not care about anything with his mother, brothers and sisters, we are one. But my wife felt unable to imagine.

03 Taking care of the family and paying for the filial piety, the wife has opinions

Like Mingcheng and her first met, she felt that she could not accept it when she had dinner with her family Why do you think you want to invite your family to dinner? At that time, it wasn't a meal of a few thousand or tens of thousands of yuan, it was just a few hundred if there was no one. Reminiscent of her bad memories when she was a child, would you let your family do whatever you want, and then we would be financially distressed, and she thought it would be very complicated.

Mingcheng couldn’t accept this thing. At first, Mingcheng didn’t have to tolerate it. It was very hard. When we couldn’t accept it later, Mingcheng said: " is like this in my family. You can insult me. Don't insult my family, I just have to do it like this .

Mingcheng did not say: "I'm sorry, my wife, we don't have money this month, we eat less, no. "There was no meal to make her financially better. But she said: " Why do you give your mother so much money every month?" If you want to give her 4500, you can give 3500 . "It's just for no reason. She feels that if you take less, you can take less. Mingcheng asked her why she couldn't tell why. Maybe it was because she didn't share the concept with her family because she was isolated since she was a child.

You are now independent. Why do you want to mix with your family? When she came to Mingcheng’s house, Mingcheng wanted to say that it would be nice to live with one more person in the big family. At home, Mingcheng, mother and younger sister, younger sister Xiao Mingcheng is 12 years old, Mingcheng is the elder brother, so she loves the younger sister more, but she said: ", if you want to raise your mother, I can't accept it anymore. Why are you still raising a little girl? "She thinks that your brothers, brothers and sisters should also settle accounts. You shouldn’t live at home, little sister, so she asked Mingcheng’s little sister to move out. Mingcheng thinks that our whole family has to cooperate for her alone? That is very unreasonable.

Later Mingcheng moved out of the house with his wife alone, and the same thing is that Mingcheng and her are the only ones left in the house, so they just lie down. Two, without them, there will still be occasional conflicts between the family views of both sides.

04 It takes 8 hours to clean before and after, and only one guest a day

Mingcheng's wife has serious obsessive-compulsive disorder, which is the last straw that crushes the relationship between the two.My wife originally had a hygienic addiction. After she gave birth to a child, she suffered from postpartum depression and directly sublimated her hygienic addiction into obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Before the baby was born, Mingcheng gave her money to learn a skill because she didn't have a job at the time. After she went to learn about embroidering eyebrows, Mingcheng also spent a sum of money to organize a shop for her, wanting to say that she could make money.

Mingcheng has never asked how much money you want to make back, but she may only pick up two or three guests a week. Before the guests came, she had to organize 4 hours, and after the guests, she had to organize 4 hours. She could only be one guest a day, and then she did very hard work, and the money she made was almost equal to the rent and material costs. Mingcheng is standing in the hope that she can be independent and have her own skills.

Then she will complain: " Why did you want to squeeze me? I'm so hard, don't you know? ”

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span_strong_strongspan5 Like Mingcheng using a computer at home, she feels that the computer area is a concentrated area of ​​bacteria. If the child wants his father to hug and run to make a difference, he and the child must wash their hands. She felt that the child was full of bacteria, and Mingcheng couldn’t understand the concept of cleanliness at first. Sometimes the wiped paper fell on the floor and she dared not pick it up. She was angry when she asked the takeaway to accidentally fall on the floor. Mingcheng thought it was dirty. , Isn’t it because the imported lunch soiled the floor of their home, and the outside of the home is free of bacteria.

Later Mingcheng and his wife agreed to separate because Mingcheng felt that no matter how hard I tried, she would still cause her pain. She was given a new home, but she tidied up for a year, sometimes she did not sleep for two years after tidying up and did not eat for two days.When she makes herself very miserable, she thinks why you are doing so well and why she is so hard.

Mingcheng also asked a psychologist to help her, but sometimes it was Mingcheng who put down the butcher knife. After 2016, they realized that they still need to love themselves more.

There are some things that we can't hold on ourselves and we just let go. Sometimes we can't get through others, so we are let go by her. Marriage is the biggest homework, and the homework is almost ready to meet the new life.

Concluding remarks

It is clear that the wife is not well and is having a hard time. It is the best time to survive a divorce. The choice?

I think the first time I find this condition, I should go to the doctor. With the help of the doctor, you can also help. Because when you first got married, your relationship must have been very good, at this time you may be able to change her. But if your future is this part of the road, because everyone has been unhappy in just a few decades of life, this time is actually better than short-term pain, so quickly cut it off. Then each has a relatively normal life, and the child does not grow up in a noisy environment, he will also have a healthier mentality.

Marriage is really not easy. Two imperfect people hope to make a good journey.

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