Boys really like your 7 performances

"Bear, do you say he really likes me?"

and how many things she told her friends about After the daily routine, such a question was issued.

In detail, a boy will give her an umbrella when it rains. He can remember her taste and never agree with her. If her electrical appliances are broken, he can be there on call...

sounds like he is a very considerate and warm boy~

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is not just like , but the bear is not just a ... Based on these three or two small things, it is difficult to make judgments.

It would be better to enumerate what kind of "really like" it should be, and then you can compare it yourself?

Let the bear think about it, the other party really likes your performance——

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gives you a smiley faceI give you my arms and give you gentleness;

gives you patience, tolerance and protection to you;

gives you a sense of security and freshness afterwards Sense, here you are.

If it is still too abstract, then this book called "No More Quarrels" has a clearer explanation of "like".

The author of the book, Alan E. Flushetti from the United States, is an expert in relationship, family psychotherapy and intimate relationship research. .

In this book, the author shared with us what kind of actions we should take if we want love to go smoothly; These actions can be summed up as "7 things that we really like a person."

I hope everyone likes someone like this,You can also get the likes of people you like~

Behave one:

Behaviour 1: p strong8 will express love to you clearly.

In many of us, there seems to be a deep-rooted concept:

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The second half is of course right, love must be reflected in action~

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The author also believes that the most effective way to make love go smoothly is to express love clearly to your partner;

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br5 one,It means knowing how to say "I love you" to each other in your own language.

In the bear’s eyes, love without verbal expression is like losing a very important part of suspicion. People feel insecure and restless.

People who really like us are not willing to let us feel so insecure!

They, as the author said, will focus on us and express love with smiles, tones, and eyes.

In addition, Xiong also wants to tell everyone that the three words "I love you" are not necessary to express love.

"I accompany you", "I am here", "I will come"... As long as we can feel the sincerity of the other party from the words, it is enough.

performance two: _8span strong _8span strong on the moment of love.

In a duet dance, even the most tacit partner will inevitably step on their feet.

Love is the same, even if two people are close, there will always be frictions and quarrels.

However, a person who really likes you will not be occupied by anger, and will not talk badly on impulse; on the contrary, the author of

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strong True love is to keep "love" in your heart at all times and use "love" to extinguish your anger.

You know, that kind of aggressive impulses and anger, not not brake;

also stopped their methods It’s very simple, the author said, we just need to focus on “love” in time:

remember how much two people love each other;

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remind yourself,Once those harsh words are spoken, how much harm will they bring to the other party...

In fact, people who really like us rely on these "righteous thoughts of love". Keep calm and gentle.

"Then, what if you have already spoken words that hurt the other party without controlling it?" Maybe everyone will ask.

Xiong felt that he should apologize in time. As long as he is sincere, he must be in time.

performance three: _8span strong _8span strong _8span strong _8span strong will build a love station for each other.

Although through the above-mentioned "love righteous thoughts", anger can be eliminated in time to prevent anger from hurting others and yourself;

_ 8Even if the quarrel is calmed down, the gloomy mood will remain in my heart for a long time.

At this time, people who really like us will not ignore these negative emotions, but will rekindle their love through some methods;

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They will build a love "charging station" to recharge their love and rekindle their enthusiasm.

The word "charging station" of love may be strange to everyone.

But in the author’s opinion, this should be something that every couple should start to do:

2p8span, for example, a span Cabinet, a box or a drawer;

Then put some commemorative objects in this place,For example, photo albums, movie ticket stubs, letters, gifts...

In this way, no matter how gloomy the mood is, as long as you are near here, you can always recall the tender love between the two.

The bear feels that this is like setting up a small love museum at home, reminding us to love each other all the time and keep liking it~

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Performance 4:

is truly "with you" when we are together.

Xiong once read such a view on the Internet: "The person who is willing to spend time for you must be the person who really likes you." _p

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In the author's opinion, this statement may not be accurate.

He said that if two people are just in the same room, but they each focus on their mobile phones or TV programs;

",Can't bring positive meaning to love.

The author wants us to understand that a person who really likes us will truly be "with us" when we are together.

The so-called "together" can be divided into two types.

One type, two people watch a movie together, watch the sunset together, and enjoy a dinner together;

_p8span strong another kind of strong span My own affairs, but still always pay attention to the other party, can react at any time, and always maintain a tacit understanding.

As the author said, this means that two people are emotionally dependent on each other, appreciate and enjoy each other's company.

The bear also feels that making every minute and every second of coexistence become gentle is the real purpose of companionship.

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strong onlyWill share his feelings with you.

If being together can nourish love, then being alone can nourish your soul, and both are equally important.

"Why does he always think about himself " after being alone for a long time, he often brings burdens to love:

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"It must be something I did not do well..."

But in fact, a person who really likes us will not let us Those who have this concern;

They will adopt the most appropriate way of being alone, that is, after enjoying the time alone, they will share their feelings with us.

"Look,The book I just read in my room is great!

"When I was alone, I figured out a problem! "

"When I was in a daze, I remembered a lot of things when we were just together..."

The author thinks that the strong63 of , strong63 We can get closer and understand each other better;

Guess, this is probably the beauty of distance, even if the space is separated, the heart will never be separated~

performance six:

will do everything for you, without any additional conditions. When falling in love, we always think about what to do for each other.

In the author’s view, this is one of the manifestations of really liking someone:

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The author said that the so-called action does not mean to buy anything _span2p p

As long as it is the little things that express care and love.

Maybe he brought a cup of tea when he was working overtime;

Span8 A text message sent by him said "Are you busy, I miss you a little"...It is always easy to increase the love between two people.

Of course, when we accept this kind of contribution from our partner, we must not take it for granted, remember to say to the other party: "Thank you, love you~"

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Seven performances:

Agree with your behavior, words, needs and feelings.

There is never a natural pair of lovers in this world. There are always various differences between people.

Faced with these differences, of course, we can choose to ignore them, and then do our own things without interfering in the other's world.

But the author believes that this is not a good strategy;

, and 63strong really likes a person’s performanceIt means being able to identify with the behavior, words, feelings and needs of the other party.

to agree with the other party’s behavior, which means to accept the other party’s behavior, which means to accept the other party’s quirks 10span2 _span2 p

Listening;

Recognizing the other’s feelings means being able to appease the other’s negative emotions;

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The author believes that it is precisely because of the recognition given to us by those who truly love us that we can feel understood, cherished and respected; _strong66span0

span8 The differences that lie between the two no longer exist. Instead, the two are happy. This is the essence of loving each other.

Finally,Xiong wants to say:

today to share this "a person really likes your 7 performances", not just to help you test your partner.

Bear also hopes that if you really like someone, then you must make yourself do these 7 points and become a considerate and qualified lover.

"The more people are loved more lovely,

thank you love me, I love you."

I wish everyone happiness

, good night everyone~

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