In the process of getting along with our friends, in order to be absolutely fair, when eating or doing other things, we always propose the AA system, or transfer half of the money to our friends afterwards. This approach can both Avoiding embarrassment and being able to give the other party a certain degree of fairness is a way everyone likes to get along with.
However, after a lot of people get married, they will ask their spouse to be AA with themselves. This idea sounds very ridiculous. But these people who made the request have their own reasons. They think that their spouse is spending too much, but their cost is very small, so it is the spouse who takes advantage of them, and they will not bear this. Loss.
In fact, the reason that love and marriage are different is that they have not considered each other as someone who will spend their lives together in the future, and there is no conflict of interest, but after marriage, all the money will be Putting it together, this also made many people feel dissatisfied.
Today we will share the story of a netizen, Zhao Qian, to see what she has experienced.
Zhao Qian and her boyfriend Wang Peng met during a blind date. When the two went on a blind date, they found that each other was in line with their wishes, so they married before they knew enough about it. For the purpose, the two got along for a while.
Wang Peng's job and salary are better than Zhao Qian. Wang Peng is a very motivated, hardworking person, and graduated from a prestigious school. He may be an excellent person and has many common topics. So in Zhao Qian's place, Wang Peng is a perfect marriage partner.
In the process of getting along, the two of them are as respectful as guests, and they don’t interfere too much in each other’s life.And when dating or having a meal, both of them will have a tacit understanding of AA, and will not let one of them suffer.
After getting along for a month, the parents of both parties wanted to meet each other, Zhao Qian and Wang Peng took each other home to see their parents.
went to her boyfriend’s house and was rejected for eating too much
After Zhao Qian arrived at Wang Peng’s house, she discovered that Wang Peng was a single-parent family, and his father and mother had already been divorced. When she was raised by her mother doing odd jobs, Zhao Qian felt very distressed for Wang Peng after hearing this, and she also admired Wang Peng's mother very much.
When it was time to eat, Wang Peng’s mother cooked a large table of dishes. The meat was vegetarian and it looked very delicious.
Zhao Qian tasted it and it was really delicious, so she couldn't help eating more.
At this time, Wang Peng’s mother said: " Zhao Qian, you can’t do this, have you ever seen a girl whose appetite is as big as you? 0 She smiled embarrassedly and said, " is so delicious, I can’t help but eat more. ”
Wang Peng’s mother said to Zhao Qian: “ strong1span strong1span I’ve never seen you who are so careless? Girls should be reserved,do you know? Based on your current appetite, I doubt whether Wang Peng can afford you in the future. ”
After Zhao Qian heard Wang Peng’s mother, she realized that it was Wang Peng’s mother who thought she would eat too much, and was afraid that she would eat too much. Qian thinks this idea is really ridiculous.
Zhao Qian said to Wang Peng’s mother: "Aunt , I usually have a small appetite. I eat so much because of your kitchen. The art is good, and you don’t have to worry that I will eat poor Wang Peng in the future, because I also make money myself, and Wang Peng is also very good at work. You don’t have to worry about this problem at all. "
After listening to Zhao Qian, Wang Peng’s mother said to Zhao Qian:" , don’t I just say a few words about you? Are you rebutting me? If you are not married now, you hate me to educate you. If you get married in the future, do you still want to drive this old woman out of me? ”
Zhao Qian quickly said that there was no, and looked at Wang Peng.
Wang Peng said to Zhao Qian at this time:" . Mom's mouth, everyone will live together in the future. You have to let my mother be a little bit more. It is not easy for my mother to raise me alone. ”
Zhao Qian felt very wronged,I just told the truth, and didn’t want to talk back, but Wang Peng didn’t turn to himself, but instead gave him a little bit more of his mother, making it seem like he was bullying his mother, but because of the usual Wang Peng I was kind to myself, so I put up the matter.
After a month, Wang Peng and Zhao Qian are planning to get married, so the two families have agreed to meet each other.
The two families were unhappy about their marriage
When the day they met, the two families had a very pleasant conversation at first until the wedding.
Wang Peng’s mother said: " , my son finally got a little achievement after all these years of hard work, and is now very much used by his boss, and Zhao Qian is inferior to our Wang Peng in every aspect. So I think the wedding can be simple, there is no need to hold such a big one, it is too grand and too costly. ”
Zhao Qian’s parents said that her daughter would be married for a lifetime. Once, I can’t rush, so I hope to call all my relatives and friends, so that everyone can witness the happiness of their daughter.
Wang Peng’s mother said again: " is doing such a big deal? Isn’t it all right after getting married? Isn’t it good to save a little money? How can your family not know how to be thrifty! "
Zhao Qian’s father said:" can be thrifty in other things,But this is the only thing that can’t be done. Don’t be frugal when you need to be in trouble, and you have to be frugal when you shouldn’t. "
Wang Peng's mother was upset, and said to Zhao Qian's father:" My son is so good, and your family doesn't cherish it. Do you have to make this marriage pornographic? ”
Wang Peng also said at this time: “Uncle , although I earn a lot now, I will definitely make more in the future, but I still don’t think it is necessary to do this. There is no need to let other people know about being with Zhao Qian, so just keep it simple. ”
Zhao Qian didn’t know what to do at this time, but she really cared about Wang Peng’s boyfriend, so she looked at her father embarrassedly. Zhao Qian’s father also realized his daughter. So I gave in and said it could be simpler, but not too simple. Wang Peng and Wang Peng’s mother also agreed.
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p5p On the day of the wedding, Zhao Qian and Wang Peng were very happy, but when Zhao Qian’s relatives and friends came to send Zhao Qian to marry, Wang Peng’s face was not very happy. Zhao Qian thought Wang Peng was afraid of people. Too much, I disliked the trouble, so I took Wang Peng’s hand and wanted to comfort Wang Peng.Wang Peng didn’t care about Zhao Qian.Instead, she threw away Zhao Qian's hand and entered the wedding scene ahead of time.
Zhao Qian didn't understand what happened at this time, but she could only follow Wang Peng in.
After a busy day, Wang Peng and Zhao Qian arrived at their wedding room. At this time, Wang Peng said to Zhao Qian: " , what's the matter with your relatives? Why are there so many? Is it taking advantage of me? ”
Zhao Qian said that these relatives just wanted to witness their own happiness, but Wang Peng was still not satisfied and said to Zhao Qian:" is just getting married right now In this way, and during the time we got together, I also discovered that your expenses are not normal, and I am worried that you will use my money to supplement your parents in the future, so to be on the safe side, let's still use the AA system in the future. ”
Zhao Qian was a little bit unbelievable at this time, but looking at the resoluteness of her newly married husband, she also understood that Wang Peng was not joking with Wang suddenly, and Zhao Qian was also joking with Wang. Disappointed, Wang Peng just thinks that he is very capable. Everyone will think about his meager salary, but he never thought about his salary. Moreover, Wang Peng thinks that he is married, so he is definitely not. I would choose a divorce, so I asked myself unscrupulously.
Zhao Qian also knew that Wang Peng was not her beloved, so she said to Wang Peng: " is easy to say,I can't get pregnant. Don't enter the bridal chamber. "
Wang Peng asked Zhao Qian what this means. Zhao Qian said:" Because my relatives have come more, you are afraid that you will suffer and I will take you in the future. Money subsidizes my parents, am I not making money myself? Do you have the ability? I don't think it is, you are just a phoenix man in my eyes. Don’t you want to have an AA with me? If you have the ability, you can even give birth to a child. "After speaking, I went back to my family’s home and deleted all of Wang Peng’s contact information.
Wang Peng who left Zhao Qian because he was too self-confident. When he found the right person, he disliked his low salary and poor family background, so he finally found a mediocre girl when he reached thirty-five. The girl lived with him for a year. , I divorced him because of dissatisfaction.
Although many times, we will ask for fairness, but in marriage, we cannot ask the other party to perform AA with ourselves because we are afraid of losing money, so that we will not get what you want. It’s fair, and it will destroy the relationship between you and your partner. The good partner will work hard with you to make progress together, rather than care about it.
Wang Peng could have had a very happy marriage , But because of his overconfidence and the stingy habit that he developed, Xiao Li was disappointed in him after all, and left him, when he finally married an ordinary girl because of his age. ,I think he must have regretted it, especially after the girl disliked her and divorced him, but I think he deserves it.
So before the girls get married, they must carefully consider whether the other party is worthy of entrusting their lives. Only after getting the affirmative answer, we can devote ourselves to this marriage. , So that you can protect yourself from harm.
Today’s topic:
Have you ever met a phoenix man like Wang Peng?
welcome to leave a message and talk about your views.
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