In fact, in our work and life, in addition to asking questions to others, we must also be good at asking ourselves questions. Asking yourself questions is actually a good summary of yourself. In life, we cannot always reflect on ourselves and see ourselves clearly, nor can we place ourselves in the position of outsiders to observe ourselves. Therefore, most of the time, we can only use some information from the outside world to know ourselves. Therefore, when we know ourselves, we are easily hinted by external information, get lost in the environment, and habitually use the words and deeds of others as a reference for our actions. To ask yourself questions is to make a daily summary to understand yourself.
Zeng Guofan , when he was about 30 years old, formulated a strict self-cultivation plan for himself. The daily "twelve lessons" mainly include the following:
The heart is like still water; when dealing with things, it is focused and not complicated, and the heart has nothing to do with it. (2) Meditation: You must sit quietly every day to experience the benevolence of the calmness and the rebirth of the sun.
(3) Get up early: Get up at dawn and never fall in love with bed.
(4) Reading is the best: you have to read ten pages every day if you have not finished reading the book. (5) Reading History: Read at least twenty-three and ten pages of history every day, even if something happens. (6) Remarks: Be cautious when speaking, and always take "misfortunes out of your mouth". (7) Nurturing Qi: Qi reservoir dantian, self-cultivation and nourishment.
(8) Keep one's body safe: Eat with less effort, abstinence and diet, and treat yourself as a convalescent at any time.
(9) Knowing its death every day: I will write down an essay on a tea-and-soup talk every day, which is divided into the door of virtue, school, economy, and art.
(10) What you can do without forgetting every month: Compose a few poems every month, don’t just delay it, otherwise you’ll be most indulged.
(11) Composing: After breakfast, you will learn the characters for half an hour, and all pen and ink socializing will be treated as homework and will never be left to the next day.
(12) Don’t go out at night: I’m tired of doing things, cut back and stop!
- Quoted from Zeng Guofan’s "Twelve Rules for Daily Classes"
Zeng Guofan firmly believed in it when he was young,The so-called immutability of nature is simply unbelievable. He believes that a person's behavior can be changed. Therefore, he set up lofty ambitions and changed himself as much as possible to realize his lofty ambitions. Zeng Guofan used personal experience to tell people that to do anything you need to be down-to-earth. He once failed to get up on time for three days in a month, so he blamed himself, saying that he was a beast and a slacker. At that time, he also recorded his thoughts at the moment when he slept in and didn't want to get up. In his opinion, although he seems to sleep late when he wants to sleep in, he thinks that others don't know that he is lazy, but can the people around him not see it? For example, a servant must see that he is sleeping late. Now that everyone knows, why is he still deceiving himself and others? So, he pursued his own ambitions even more, which is how he spurred himself.
Zeng Guofan asked himself, "I thought others didn’t know, so I slept late, but when I was awake, I thought: Isn’t the servant a human? Can the servant not see me sleeping? Since God knows. The earth knows, others also know. , Then why am I so hypocritical?” This is actually a good self-summary. It is said that Zeng Guofan has the habit of writing a diary at night, and his purpose is to ask himself before going to bed and summarize the improprieties of his words and deeds during the day. Continue to carry forward, and write down the bad ones and need to correct them. This is a good habit to reflect on yourself before going to bed every day to get a better understanding of yourself.
Ms. Sara, once served as the chairman of a bank and concurrently as a director of several large companies, is an important figure in the US financial industry. How can a woman win such a success? This stems from Ms. Sara's habit of self-examination for many years.
From the day she became sensible, Ms. Sara always carried a small notebook with her and recorded the things she needed to do every day. Moreover, Ms. Sarah will reflect regularly, such as every Friday night, which is her time for introspection. During this time, she will completely abandon all social activities, even if it is family gatherings, she will conduct serious reflections at home alone. In the process of self-reflection, she always sorts out and reflects on the work of the past week.
On Friday evening, after Ms. Sarah had dinner, she would open the small book to read the records of the previous week, and recall the work interviews, discussions and meeting process. Ms. Sara often reflects: Where did she fail to do well at the time? What did she do well?What kind of experience can be drawn from these things? And so on. Although, such introspection will make Ms. Sara aware of her shortcomings and feel a little irritable. However, she still insists on doing this every week. Even when she recalls some of the things she has done, she finds it strange.
Finally, as we age, there will be fewer and fewer mistakes. However, Ms. Sara has always insisted on weekly self-analysis, and this habit has benefited her a lot. If someone asks how Ms. Sara succeeded, she would say: "Because I have always maintained the habit of introspection." Ms. Sara's formal education was very limited since she was a child. She first worked as a clerk in a small shop in the country. She later developed into the manager of the credit department of the U.S. Steel Company, and her career has been thriving since then, and all of this stems from her habit of maintaining introspection.
When Darwin just finished his immortal work " Origin of Species", he had expected that the publication of this revolutionary doctrine would inevitably shock the entire religious world and even academia, so he I spent 15 years searching for my own shortcomings, constantly criticizing myself, constantly challenging my own theories, and criticizing my own conclusions. Therefore, instead of waiting for others to criticize us or criticize our work, it is better to be strict with yourself and be your most strict critic.
When we are implementing the work plan, it is best to summarize before going to bed and complete the "seven questions" before going to bed. The summary work before going to bed is actually one of the effective review methods. So, which questions should we ask ourselves before going to bed?
1. Did you gain from work today?
Lying in bed, I started to recall my daytime work, and recalled what I gained from work, "which one?" The plan, how the customer’s reaction is, what are the areas for improvement in the future, etc. #These tasks are sorted out again to deepen the impression in the brain.
2. Have I been passionate about my work?
Have passion Working locally is to work with interest. When my colleagues are working, am I chatting with others or playing games? When the leadership is in a meeting, am I thinking seriously again? Or is my thinking lost? And so on.If you are really working hard, you will continue to maintain this state tomorrow; if you are not serious at work, you have to reflect on yourself and try to correct this bad habit next time.
3. Where are my gains and losses today
gains and losses will be today's gains. Gain is what knowledge you have learned from your work, what obvious changes you have made in your thinking, and what you have learned; if you lose, you can spend time and energy to make up for the mistakes caused by not serious work. Only good at summarizing can make progress. 4. What tasks will I have tomorrow
Before going to bed, think again, what tasks will I have tomorrow? In addition to going to work on time, I need to write a plan for
? Make a PPT? Read an article Extracurricular articles? Listen to 1 hour of English?
5. Am I happy today
We have to learn to enjoy work in order to experience the joy of work. Is your job happy today?
What makes happiness? It is because of the charm of the profession. What is the cause of unhappiness? Only
Is it just because of boring work? Or is it due to some aspect of your own?
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