Xiaopan·Emotional Beauty Series
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Some people say that the reason why Chinese marriages hide too many negative factors is because a marriage is not only a union of two people, but also a union of two families.
Some couples fail to deal with the relationship between family members and their partners. In the end, their relationship between husband and wife is affected, which directly reduces the happiness index of the marriage.
Of course, does not go through such a test in every marriage, because when you get along with each other’s family, you will be grateful and treat each other sincerely, and you will often get better results_ span13span .
But if you don’t know gratitude and contentment, then even if the other person loves you deeply, they will be chilled.
my friend Xiaoxin raised a divorce with her husband, but her family and friends chose to support her, although she would rather demolish ten temples,Not ruining a marriage, but instead of receiving her husband’s love and care, Xiaoxin suffered all the grievances in this marriage.
When Xiaoxin met a man, although the man was born in the countryside, Xiaoxin admired the simplicity and vigor in him, so he always treated him well, even if the two people established a relationship, Xiaoxin took the initiative to establish a relationship. of.
Xiaoxin's parents were actually a bit opposed at first, but the man repeatedly expressed his determination in front of the two old people and Xiaoxin, saying that he would be good to Xiaoxin and strive to give her a better life.
Because men’s parents are farmers and live on farming, they didn’t save too much money. Xiaoxin’s parents paid for the wedding house and the wedding, thinking about the happiness of his daughter in the future. , So I didn’t care too much.
But her parents-in-law are very disagreeable with Xiaoxin's family because of the wedding gift. According to her parents-in-law, there is still a daughter in the family who is not married and does not want to give Xiaoxin a gift. She even thinks that Xiaoxin's family conditions are good, so she should not care. Whether to give a bride price.
But Xiaoxin's parents don't think so. If the conditions are not good, you can give a little symbolic expression, but according to the idea of the male parents, it seems a bit too selfish.
After the man reconciled, his parents finally agreed to give the bride price, but Xiao Xin felt a little uncomfortable.
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life after marriage was really happy at the beginning,Men are attentive and always rush to do housework, but Xiaoxin finds that every time he acts actively, his parents and younger sister will come to live for a long time. They have no respect for Xiaoxin’s living habits, and even go through things randomly. Make a mess of the house.
On the day off, Xiaoxin is usually busy with work, so she hopes to get more sleep, but her mother-in-law always wakes her up at five or six o’clock and asks her to prepare breakfast, but let her own The son will sleep more.
After Xiaoxin became pregnant, her mother was a doctor, busy at work and sometimes needed help, but her mother-in-law always found excuses not to come, saying that it was not so hypocritical for a woman to be pregnant.
Later, just before giving birth, the in-laws finally showed up, but when he saw that Xiao Xin gave birth to a girl, she turned around and left. The man also helped his parents make excuses, saying that the family was about to harvest in autumn, Xiao Xin’s Her parents' complexion was very bad, and Xiao Xin also felt very chilling.
In confinement, the man listened to his parents and felt that Xiaoxin owed him for not having a son, so he was also very cold towards Xiaoxin.
Xiaoxin, who needs someone to take care of, was not well taken care of in her confinement. In the end, her mother felt sorry for her and invited her confinement wife, which allowed Xiaoxin to leave her confinement smoothly.
Actually, Xiaoxin thought about divorce, but not long after returning to work, it happened to be promoted and raised. The man saw that she could bring more benefits, so he tried his best to show that Xiaoxin wanted to give it to a man again. With one chance, there was no mention of divorce.
He carried Xiaoxin on his back and took all the education funds that the family had saved for the baby to make a dowry for his younger sister. Xiaoxin still learned about it from her mother-in-law.
The man was very happy to learn that his sister was pregnant. He bought a lot of nutritional products and gave it to Xiaoxin. When he came back in the evening, he said to Xiaoxin: "Daughter-in-law, let me give it to me. Sister confinement, her house is small, it is not convenient for my mother to take care of her confinement when she arrives."
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Hearing what the man said, Xiaoxin laughed. How did he have the courage to say such a thing? Did he forget how his wife was in the confinement?
In a hurry, Xiao Xin no longer hesitated, and directly said to the man: "No, divorce!" Xin felt that there was no need to say anything to such a person, because a selfish, unaware person, no matter how much he paid for him, he felt that it was right, not to receive this kindness.
Some people say that marriage is actually a transaction, an emotional two-way transaction. If one party only knows to ask for it, but does not pay, then this love is not healthy, and this marriage will not lasting.
Xiaoxin’s husband and family are such people.Relying on their poor economic conditions, they take for granted what Xiaoxin's family should do, but forget that they also need to do what they can.
If a man makes a woman unable to feel the warmth and security in marriage, then even if he loves the man again, one day he will lose his relationship.
In real life, we actually have such examples around us. The two people may be first joined together. It is indeed very affectionate to enter the marriage, but since then, this love has hidden instability. the elements of.
The formation of a small family is brand new. Two people need to work together to add to this small family. Both work hard to strengthen the foundation of this family, so that the foundation of the family will be stronger. Marriage will go further.
But if you want to subtract and get more subsidies from your native family, then this marriage will become precarious, and it will make the other person feel less respected.
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I was moved by one sentence: marriage is to give you the same person, and then make you fall in love with him again and again.
This is the best appearance of marriage. When we are slowly disappointed with each other in marriage, when we feel the boredom brought by the repetition of married life,In fact, it is constantly consuming marriage.
If you want to manage your own marriage to be happy and stable, you must learn to give, not just take it, but also know how to take good care of the other’s heart. because once the heart breaks, even if it is repaired After passing, there will be traces, and it will not be as good as before.
Therefore, marriage is a tomb for those who are unwilling to give, but for those who understand the true meaning of love, it is a warm harbor and home.
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