As a modern woman, when you meet a man you admire, will you take the initiative to chase it?
I believe many people will.
In " life ", when Shiyi first saw Zhou Shengchen, he knew that he was her love in a previous life and her love in this life. She was full of joy and proactively contacted him, proactively approached him. In the end, I got what I wanted. The sweet marriage is enviable.
It is time to take the initiative to chase after him because he admired Zhou's birthday, but my cousin Xiaoyan chased his husband mainly because of "lazy".
This somewhat contradictory reason may be difficult for everyone to understand, but people like my cousin did it.
01
Cousin looks good . Although it is not very beautiful, it has a good figure, beautiful features, fair complexion, and looks very seductive, especially if you smile shyly, like a mimosa that fits at the touch of a touch. , Makes people feel pity.
cousin is very good . Since childhood, the domineering character seems to have easily entered a prestigious foreign language school in Beijing. After graduating from university, they wanted to continue their graduate studies. Auntie and they disagreed.Why do girls read so many books? The higher the degree, the more difficult it is to marry. It is better to work as soon as possible and find a good family to marry.
my cousin was always obedient, so she stopped thinking about postgraduate entrance examinations and started a working career.
This cousin is good at everything, but not good at all: introverted personality, not good at dealing with people. Because of this, she has been able to learn a lot in school since she was a child. Once she got to work, she was brutally killed in Waterloo.
When she graduated, she chose to stay and work in Beijing. With her qualifications from a prestigious foreign language university, she soon signed a foreign company with a good salary. But she couldn't do it after only half a year.
Is it because she is incompetent? Naturally not, a high school student, for the things in this major, she is naturally able to catch it. She was squeezed out by her colleagues because she could not deal with the relationship with her colleagues.
The competition in the workplace is far more cruel than imagined. A young white who has just emerged from the ivory tower and has an introvert and incomprehensive personality, she will smear casually, put blame on it, and hit a few times, but she has nothing. Suspensefully defeated.
Later, she applied for two more units, because they are both large companies, and the interpersonal relationship is inherently complicated. She felt very unhappy about doing it, and finally resigned.
She feels that the working atmosphere in Beijing is not suitable for her. She wants to go back to her hometown to develop.
Where do you go back?She didn't think too much, and naturally went back to her boyfriend.
Speaking of her boyfriend, everyone's response was "exciting". The aunt's family is not satisfied. Even a person like my mother who doesn't pick Xiaoyan said that Xiaoyan's boyfriend, I think it's better to divide as soon as possible, neither respects Xiaoyan's family, nor puts Xiaoyan at all. Isn't it asking for trouble to marry such a person?
My sister and Xiaoyan used to be classmates, relatives, and good girlfriends. My sister said: Our little sisters have persuaded her countless times, let her divide early. Do you know how Xiaoyan answered? She said this: After the division, don't you still look for it? If you don't have the right one by your side, you have to go on a blind date. It's embarrassing. It's better to be this, at least familiar, know the bottom line.
My sisters were finally convinced. There are many reasons to stay with someone. The first time I heard it was because I was afraid of blind dates, I didn't bother to break up with my boyfriend. It seems that Xiaoyan's cleverness is used in reading, and other aspects are really not flattering. Her "introversion" and "social terror" are really inscribed in her bones.
So, who is Xiaoyan's boyfriend? Why is Xiaoyan still stubborn with such big opinions?
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Speaking of which, her boyfriend seems to be worthy of her.
His appearance is ugly, his height is similar to Xiaoyan when he stands up. His grades were average. He graduated from a general university in the provincial capital. After graduation, he didn't pass the examination for civil servants, so he joined a training institution as a teacher.
The reason why Xiaoyan intersects with him is because they are classmates in high school.Once Xiaoyan encountered a boy entangled, Aming helped her out. Xiaoyan was grateful and took the initiative to get closer to Aming. For Amin, it is natural that he would be happy to be friends with Xiaoyan who is good-looking and excellent in character, or there is a little vanity in it.
Of course, when they were in high school, they didn't have the affectionate feelings, but they were closer than ordinary friends. It wasn't until Xiaoyan went to university that everyone smashed the window paper.
Because they are in a long distance relationship, most of them rely on chat software to maintain their relationship.
The love between the two is warm from beginning to end, lacking a passion. During the four years of college, only once was Aming went to see Xiaoyan, and the rest of the time was when Xiaoyan went to see Aming. Moreover, except for the first time Xiaoyan went to see Aming, Aming went to the station to pick him up, and the rest was Xiaoyan who went to Aming school to find him on her own.
On usual New Years and Anniversaries, Aming rarely buys gifts for Xiaoyan. His reasons are ceremonies and other reasons. They are all false, so why spend the wrong money.
Also because of this, everyone felt that A Ming was too unconcerned with Xiao Yan. Xiaoyan will find various reasons for him. For example, if his school is close to home, he can go home by the way when he arrives at his school. Although he rarely sends gifts, he has no less greetings; he is not. Because he is arrogant and ignores us, he is a real person, and he doesn't like those hypocritical greetings...
Everyone hates that iron is not made of steel, saying that they will ignore you before they are married, how will they live after marriage, they will always be themselves Do you want to post it up?
this kind of dissatisfaction,In a suspected "cheating" incident, it reached its peak.
In that winter vacation, the school in Beijing was closed earlier. Xiaoyan wanted to give Amin a surprise, but she didn't tell him the time to return. When she happily went to his school to find him, she found that he was holding a girl's hand intimately and walking towards the dormitory building.
she didn't believe her eyes at the time, and thought she was looking at the wrong person. She tentatively called Amin's name. Amin turned her head and saw her, her face was unnatural for a moment, and then Without a trace, she let go of the girl's hand.
Later, Amin blamed her why she came and didn't tell her in advance, so that she would not be "scared" in the future. Xiaoyan was aggrieved and asked if it was because he was bumped into him with other girls. He frowned and said: What do you think? That is my cousin, who happened to come to play with him today.
Xiaoyan doesn't believe in such a poor explanation. What cousin wants to hold hands and chat so intimately? But since Amin denied it, she chose to believe it, which shows that he still cares about the relationship with her and does not want this relationship to be destroyed.
After everyone learned about it, they persuaded her to break up quickly, saying that such a boyfriend is too unreliable. But Xiao Yan was unwilling. Their relationship came to the beginning of the article amidst all the doubts of relatives and friends.
Xiaoyan's work in Beijing is over, she wants to go to her boyfriend.
03
When she came back, her boyfriend said something was wrong, so she didn't pick it up and asked her to take a taxi. She had to drag large and small bags by herself,Had a taxi to his house in an embarrassing manner.
Everyone hates iron and steel, and ruthlessly criticizes her: You are the only one who behaves like this.
Nevertheless, Xiao Yan ran towards Amin without looking back.
A Ming said that his uncle has a factory in Guangzhou and lacks an interpreter, so he asked her to work in Guangzhou. Xiaoyan was originally unwilling, because she was still separated from Aming. But Amin said that he is still young and he is not in a hurry.
Xiaoyan has nothing to say. Therefore, a highly educated talent, who only receives a basic salary of about 3,000 yuan, will take several jobs, do management, do translation, and often travel abroad...
as a free labor, Xiaoyan is Uncle Amin's company has served for two years. Later, under the strong opposition of her aunt's family, she finally returned to A Ming.
This time, Amin asked her to test for civil servants, saying that his eldest brother had something to do with him, so he could test for a better unit. Xiaoyan breathed a sigh of relief when she heard that she was the best at taking exams. Before long, she was admitted to the civil service without any suspense.
Amin also said that his brother said that the leading state-owned enterprise in the province is just now hiring people, and the salary is very good, and she will be a golden rice bowl after passing the exam. Let her find a way to get in. Xiaoyan thought to herself, the exam is only, what else to think of. Soon, she was admitted to this state-owned enterprise easily. Because she graduated from a prestigious Beijing school, she is highly valued by her unit. The personnel relationship of this state-owned enterprise is relatively simple. After several years of experience, Xiaoyan can handle it perfectly, so it didn’t take long for her to be promoted to a middle management position based on her excellent business ability.Appointed as deputy general manager of a branch company.
This time Amin has nothing to say, and their marriage is on the agenda.
Because the two of them haven't bought a house yet, they temporarily live with Amin's eldest brother. His eldest brother is the kind of unsmiling person, and his sister-in-law is very picky and difficult to get along with. Uncle married and still lives in her house, she is already very upset. And because Xiaoyan is better than her in terms of appearance, education and ability, she feels that she has been compared, so she often has nothing to look for, which makes Xiaoyan unhappy.
Xiaoyan is very distressed, but she can only bear it by herself, because even if he talks to Aming, he will not understand her. He will only say that the older brother and sister-in-law take care of them and should be content. The only thing Xiaoyan can think about is to buy a house and move out as soon as possible.
Xiaoyan’s wish was soon realized. She worked overtime all day, and the reward was that after one year, she saved enough for the down payment of the house. They bought a set of more than 100 in another community. The flat house is an existing house and can be moved to live after it has been renovated.
Xiaoyan is very happy, thinking that she will have her own house soon, she is very eager to supervise the renovation.
Unexpectedly, when everything was ready and she was about to move to a new house on another day, Amin said to her: Let's live in the new house first, and we will live in the old one.
Xiaoyan was splashed with cold water on her head, and she finally understood that in the lives of their brothers, she was at the bottom. The new house she was thinking of was gone, she was very depressed, but she soon wanted to open it again. If the house is gone, you can buy it again. With her current ability, it shouldn't take long!
04
Xiaoyan turns grief into strength,Work is really hard work, and working overtime is the norm in life. Because she was promoted to the management, it was inevitable to have dinner parties and so on. Although she was not used to it, she still forced herself to adapt. After all, this job is very important to her, and she also wants to prove her ability.
Two years have passed. She has outstanding work performance. The leader wanted to promote her to a higher level of vice president. Although she was competing with a senior male colleague at the time, the leader was more optimistic about her, so consult She hesitated when she commented.
I went back to discuss with Amin, and Amin threw a plate of cold water on her again, saying that you don't want this house anymore, and she was so busy all day that she didn't even see a person, so what a woman should do.
Xiaoyan also thinks about it. She has been married for a few years and has no children. She said it was because she was too busy. So she declined the leadership's kindness.
It was only a short while later that she regretted it. Because it was once a competitive relationship, now that male colleague hates her after being promoted. Not only does she often obliterate her merits, but she also troubles her in various ways.
What's even more heartbreaking is that in the past year, she was pregnant twice, but inexplicably miscarried in less than three months. I went to see a doctor and said that my body was cold and weak, which caused the pregnancy to be unstable.
After that, she has been taking Chinese medicine for conditioning, but when she was pregnant for the third time, she still had a miscarriage. The aunt is afraid that if this continues, her body will not be able to stand it, so she will not have a child first, and she will find out the reason first. Later, when I went for an examination, it was found that Amin also had an andrological problem, and that his sperm was weak and his vitality was poor, which was also the cause of unstable pregnancy.
Everyone advises Amin to cooperate with the treatment, and both parties work hard so that it is easy to get pregnant. But Amin refused to cooperate. He felt that the treatment was troublesome and felt that he had no problem.——Xiaoyan can't help it. This is not a matter of having a baby alone. Her husband doesn't cooperate. What else can she do besides conditioning herself?
Although work and family are not going well, Xiaoyan's income has not failed her. In the past few years, she took advantage of the good opportunity of the unit to launch welfare housing, used the provident fund to book a multi-storey house of several hundred square meters, bought a car worth more than two hundred thousand yuan, and bought a villa a while ago.
Amin, looking at his wife so capable, although he feels a little bit sour, not tasteful, but also quite a bit disappointed. But he undoubtedly enjoyed such results. Later, he felt that the original training unit's work was too hard and the money was low, so he changed jobs and made investments.
Xiaoyan didn't have time to care about him. He was happy as long as he was tossing about it. The family didn't expect his money anyway.
Now she has no complaints about life except for wanting a baby.
Concluding remarks
1span Xiaoyan’s love is not as sweet as you imagined, but maybe it’s not as warm as you imagined. After all, most people are just ordinary people, and it is difficult to encounter "human ideals".
Besides, for this sentiment that everyone is not optimistic about, Xiaoyan has created another kind of calmness in life through her own efforts.The generous income gave her another confidence in her life.
Beads are jewels after all.
I hope she will get what she wants soon.
Note: The picture comes from the Internet. Intrusion.
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